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Your Negative Feelings are Sending a Coded Message

What if you decide to listen to them instead of ignoring or, even worse, suppressing them?

  • Struggling a bit today?
  • Did you receive some bad news?
  • Are you grieving a relationship or loss of any kind?
  • Are you feeling physically weak or emotionally drained?
  • Are you tired of your job search, and of constantly applying without being called for an interview?
  • Do you feel worried about securing some income for your family?

All of those elements are understandable and shared by all human beings at some point in their lives. We are no different, folks.

What is different from a person to another, though, is how we manage this very legitimate unease. Some feelings have such a bad reputation that most people tend to believe they need to suppress them.

The truth is you don’t. As long as they are real feelings — not perceived ones, we rather need to honor and go through them so that we can process them in a healthy way.

You might want to be aware of the difference between your emotions and feelings, though:

Between stimulus and response, man has the freedom to choose.

~Viktor Frankl

Emotion is the physical signal your body is sending as an answer to a stimulus. Your feeling is the translation of your emotion by your subconscious program.

If your program is unfriendly, it’s more likely that your anger ‘emotion’ will be converted into an anger ‘feeling’; thus, an impulsive behavior, given that you still have many abuse flashbacks making your emotional regulation almost impossible.

The more you rewire your invasive subconscious program — that is destroying your limiting beliefs and micro-trauma constructs, the more you enlarge the gap between the external stimulus and your response. Hence, you become an observer of your own participation. You would feel anger at first. Then, it would transform into pity and you would move on with your business peacefully.

Give yourself the permission to stay with your ‘negative’ feeling. In parallel, take a break from everything and everyone, and practice some self-care. There is no contradiction at all.

By self-care, I don’t mean salt baths or chocolate massages. There is absolutely nothing wrong with them per se.

Nonetheless, they will not be the right option when you want to process your feelings; rather a distraction that would only postpone emotional chaos.

The right people will always understand your healthy boundaries and honor them!

Myriam Ben Salemhttps://unleashgreatness.blogspot.com/
A recovered perfectionist. A passionate. A grown kid. A writer. A storyteller. An edutainer. A lifelong learner. A speaker. An unapologetic truth-teller. A stoic philosopher. More details about the story of my life? With pleasure! I am a mentor with a deep passion for empowering whomever I interact with, helping others unleash the servant leader in them and find their voice they would use to leave their legacy. Ice on the cake, the growth happens implicitly through simply modeling it. I spent 9 years working at a high level of consultancy and management in the Information Technology, Human Resources, and Research sectors, only to realize that my perfectionism syndrome was damaging myself and those around me. After three burnouts, an existential crisis, and having almost committed suicide following being harshly abused by a malignant narcissist, I dramatically embarked on a painful journey to drastically transform the miserable individual I was. I was saved at the last moment by the grace of my pure love divinity through an out-of-body experience making me see all the lies of my unhealthy ego, realize this gigantic universe was not revolving around my small self. Most importantly, I was able to visualize I was here for a mission. That was the moment of my migration from being religious to spiritual. The butterfly took time to emerge though. The caterpillar had to heal the very obvious scars, gain some strength to start the most rewarding investment of the whole existence: destroying all my limiting beliefs both about myself and the world, and rewiring my invasive subconscious program I never wrote in the first place! I am deeply passionate about everything life has to offer. I educate through any possible means on the importance of reconnecting with our common birth’s gifts making all of us seeds of greatness only numbed by the life-time conditioning. Writing is my very favorite and most preferred tool deployed for my mission. The topics I explore are in the nexus of stoic philosophy, psychology, neuroplasticity, and epigenetics. Common denominator? The quality of the subconscious program! I am described as vivacious, confident, compassionate, authentic, funny, warrior, vulnerable, grateful, bold, emotionally mature, showing integrity with an abundance mentality, and always seeking the best way forward for myself and every person I get the privilege to interact with.

3 COMMENTS

  1. I posted a comment, but disappeared dear Myriam.

    I agree with you and the theme of your post. In particular “Give yourself the permission to stay with your ‘negative’ feeling. In parallel, take a break from everything and everyone, and practice some self-care. There is no contradiction at all.”

    In my next post on BIZCATALYST “Sinking in the Sand of Sadness” explanation of the validity of your post is provided. If we do not pause and think the next move we may even go deeper in the sand of sadness and grief.

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