Your Dream Choices: Do You Want to Live?

“Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well-preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, totally worn out with a glass of champagne in one hand and chocolate-covered strawberries in other and proclaiming, ‘WOW, WHAT A RIDE!!’”

~Mark Frost

Everyone has a story to tell, and Richard Dugan’s tale begins in Phoenix, Arizona, where he was born legally blind.  In spite or because of that, Richard went through thirteen years of school not knowing what he wanted to do. He decided on Community College and worked in the Audio-Visual Department. Then, he found a job with ‘Sun Sounds’ Radio Reading Service for the blind and visually impaired. Richard became a client, started working there on August 29, 1979, and never “looked” back.

“On March 6, 1996, I received a lens implant and went from 20/200 or worse to 20/80 overnight. Within just a few months, I was learning to drive a car. Then my marriage of fifteen years came to an end, but I met Amrita Ma, the love of my life. We married and moved to her home town of Santa Barbara and started a new life five minutes from her childhood home. We’ve been to Ireland twice and dream of living there one day very soon.” Richard Dugan became Dr. D; Audio Physician and successful radio host of Tell Me Your Story (TMYS).

Then tragedy struck. In 2001 Amrita was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer.

“Do you want to live, or do you want to die? I’ll support you in whichever choice you make. I may not like it, but I will honor you and your choice.”

I said these words to my wife following her cancer surgery and the first round of chemotherapy treatment in September of 2001. She needed a focal point, a goal toward which to work. And no matter which direction she chose to go, I would be there for her all the way.

I even shaved my head in a display of solidarity and still have it shaved today.

Her choice was the basis and beginning of my book Choices: Steps for Life. Here is how it works. Think of what you want in your life, from relationships to abundance. What do you feel is your life’s purpose? What is your heart’s desire? Where do you want to live, work and play? There are so many ways to discover your choices.

These 5 steps may help.

Step #1 is- Make a Choice.

Step #2 is- Match words to Your Choice

Step #3 is- Match Actions to Your Words

Step #4 is- Match Your Personal Input

Step #5 is- Be Your Choice.

It does not matter what other people may think or say about your decisions. The choices you make in life are your choices, and you must be true to yourself. This is your life, your future, and your dreams.

I dreamed I would drive, travel to far-away places, share my love with someone with a very open, loving heart, live by the sea, have my own radio show, teach others my craft, and meet new and exciting souls. And I am.

Richard Dugan made the right choices. Have you? Learn more about Richard at

Watch Richard speak in detail about his Dreams and Choices on the Kat Kanavos Show on New Earth TV.


  • Quote by Mark Frost: “Life is not a journey to the grave ….
  • Tell Me Your Story


Kat O'Keefe-Kanavos
Kat O'Keefe-Kanavos
Kathleen (Kat) O’Keefe-Kanavos is the award-winning author of Surviving Cancerland, and co-author of Dreams That Can Save Your Life. She’s a three-time cancer survivor, and co-publisher/editor of WEBE Books Publishing. Her dreams diagnosed her illness as seen on Dr. Oz, Doctors, NBC News, American Express Open, in Newspapers and magazines. She’s a Contributor to Chicken Soup for the Soul, TV/Radio Host/Producer- Dreaming Healing on DV7Radio/TV Network, Wicked Housewives On Cape Cod™, Kat Kanavos Show, Internationally Syndicated Columnist in BIZCATALYST 360°, Dream Columnist in Positive Tribe Magazine, and Desert Health Magazine, Keynote Speaker, Performance Coach who taught Special Ed & Psychology @USF, and Lecturer who promotes patient advocacy and Spiritual guidance. She is co-author to the inspiring books; Chaos to Clarity: Sacred Stories of Transformational Change and Crappy to Happy: Sacred Stories of Transformational Joy

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  1. Making a decision, from the most trivial to the most important, is actually a constant of our existence and is what helps us to grow, change, evolve. Choosing necessarily requires taking responsibility for the consequences of your choice, accepting the “share of risk” inherent in our daily actions. And it is precisely the fear of consequences, one of the reasons why, often, many people live with strong anxiety and concern any kind of choice.

    • Aldo you make an excellent point, ” Choosing requires taking responsibility for our choices.” and that may be why so many people choose not to choose- which is actually a choice. Another one of Life’s Catch 22s. Thank you for your comment.

    • Larry, point well taken. I remembering making a similar choice. And it was fearful because as bad as the known might be, the unknown is more frightening. Thank you for your comment.

  2. I hope his wife chose life. He and his wife must have had the same vision for their future. Support is better than having to fight to see your dreams realized. It can be done, and you might succeed, but having support is the best way to achieve anything.

    • Yes, Jane. His wife did choose life, but it was a rocky road. You are so right, support is so important in any fight for life. Thank you for your comment.

    • Hi Jane, thank you for your comment. I agree, support is better than having to fight to see your dreams realized.