My friend likes the woman and mentally she attracts him. However, his heart repels her. He asked me what to do? I said I do not trade short pleasure for lifelong suffering. For me, to feel my heart repel somebody could mean it is a permanent issue.
It is a dilemma in life wherein you find yourself in a situation urging you to take opposite ways.
Do you listen to the sound of the mind or the heart?
There shall be no problem if both the heart and mind are in alignment and pointing in the same direction. The problem starts when they are not.
Take another scenario. You have an employee who is talented and has many rare skills that you need. However, he is arrogant with his subordinates. Employees kept complaining about him. They threatened to submit all their resignation if this employee stayed. Now, your mind says no we need him. However, your heart says no he is pathetic. Get rid of him.
Is it a change of mind or a change of heart? What do you find?
- Do you find it easier to change your mind or heart?
- Do you go after what your heart tells you because you trust your feelings?
- Do you consult with others but then only to justify your choice and validate it?
- Do you ignore your feelings and go along with what your mind tells you?
It is not a matter of having two choices to select one. It is not that simple. The way we choose depends on many factors. One main factor is how much trust we have in our minds and hearts?
If you were in similar situations what would you decide and why?
Amazing comment, Aldo
What you wrote, “And there is only one way to avoid making the wrong choices and making the right decisions: listening to both voices and integrating their thoughts. Understanding what the head and the heart tell us. Finding a way to make them talk to each other.”
It is true. I plan to write a post on this particular issue because i want to discuss also the relationship between integration and balance and balance does not lead to integration but mostly to disintegration.
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Often, I have had to deal with choices between the heart and the mind and in some cases it was not easy at all, especially because it was also a question of choosing between family life and professional life. Today, at the age when we can take stock with a certain detachment, I think I can say that, in reality, there is no better way than the other to make decisions because both bring advantages and disadvantages. And there is only one way to avoid making the wrong choices and making the right decisions: listening to both voices and integrating their thoughts. Understanding what the head and the heart tell us. Finding a way to make them talk to each other. Reflecting on this, I believe that all the methods for making the right choice only serve to justify a decision that we have already made within ourselves, even if we do not want to admit it. In any case, I believe that there is no “right” choice. There is the right choice for us at a given moment. This implies that we must take responsibility for the outcome of our choices. If we are ready to do so, whatever decision we make will be the right choice.