Yes, We Are The Singers

Yes, The Singer

The late sixties and early seventies were a very different landscape for school teachers. For the most part, they did not have helicopter parents breathing down their backs, and for good or for bad, they had control of the classroom. If students acted out, there were consequences. From everything I hear now, the environment has changed drastically.

Today’s class often uses methods of coddling and delicacy to manage oppositional children and adolescents.

Also, these young people are not always respectful of authority. Often, teachers’ hands are tied concerning consequences even when adolescents are texting, and, more disturbingly, sexting, openly dancing from Tic Toc Videos, and being disruptive with other behaviors. In some cases, even when the teacher performs like a gifted singer occasionally engaging at 200 percent, individual students will not be reached.

The Importance of Delivery

For those of us who are Boomers, we remember this was not the case way back when. There were no distractions from less than stellar instructors. If you were assigned a boring teacher, you were out of luck for recourse. You had to tolerate the monotony, and if you dared act out, which in this day and age would be considered not, there was a price to be paid.

Although I do not mean to target teachers, next to parents, they tend to be the most influential authority figures in a child’s life. Teaching is indeed an art, and the delivery must be impeccable. Like a singer, the teacher’s performance impacts the song. Otherwise, it is experienced as inaudible and eventually lost on the student.

Teachers Must Be Like Singers

When I was an eighth-grader, long ago, I had a very dull teacher who taught a dry subject with a monotone voice. Even his appearance and facial expressions seemed to match the rest of his characterless presentation. Now, you might say, ”You Meany.” Not really! This man did nothing to inspire. He actually could put people to sleep, but if you were assigned to sit in the front as I was, you had to pretend you were listening. If my sixty-is-the-new-forty memory serves me correctly, some of the young so-called beautiful people caused a bit of a stir by making a dramatic appearance. Even with that entry, this teacher’s tone did not fluctuate. Somehow, and I don’t know how I managed to squeak a B-grade letter out of this torturous experience.

Sometime later, I heard that the same teacher was a “hot ticket” at a social event. When this came to my attention, I wondered why he could not use his humor in the classroom. Over the years, I had a few more teachers who taught challenging courses in the same artless form, and some who were able to teach incredibly interesting subjects without any flair. Who could make Intro. to Psychology boring? One of my college professors managed to accomplish that feat. At the same time, talented teachers could take difficult topics and create magic. In graduate school, we had a fantastic professor who explained Statistics and Research with zest. As a result, our comprehension of this subject matter could not have been better.

Indeed, when it comes to teaching, it is the Singer and not the song.

If you think about it further, any person who needs to communicate effectively can do so with engagement both in tone and in words. Repeatedly, I have shared about a supervisor who once said, “Words are like fine surgery.” I never forgot this.

Any Communication Involves Fine Tuning

What are other areas important regarding the art of communication? Well, parenting, the hardest job in the world, is a given. Different roles, however, also require keen attention to the spoken word. Coaches, therapists, and just about any other profession where you are dealing with people should produce some effort. Some of us have more engaging styles which allow us mastery in tonality. For others, it takes many attempts. I once heard a speaker say that he needed to sharply improve his presentation skills because he caught someone falling asleep right in front of him. With honesty and humor, he stated, “He was snoring because I was boring.” He worked tirelessly on correcting this. Yes, people who are not naturals with animation can learn to improvise.

How about words? Everyone is capable of changing their wording. Again, for some, more considerable exertion may be required, but all of us should evaluate if there are times we could have used more appropriate phrasing. Those of us in the helping profession must be especially careful in how we approach an individual. Although I try to be scrupulous, like all human beings, even and especially in my business, I have made my mistakes. Going at great lengths does not always guarantee exceptional performance.

Like a dedicated singer, one can only hope that practice and hard work pay off. When dealing with sensitive issues, listen carefully, and try to do better.

Perfection is an illusion, but pursuing excellence is not. This journey is life-long, and as a lovely client once said to me, ”There are no finishing lines.”

What Are Your Thoughts?

Do you recall those teachers who inspired you versus those who did not? Are there other professionals you know who could have had a better delivery? With more elbow grease, do you think everyone is capable of conveying their message with enthusiasm? Do you agree it is the singer and not the song?

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Darlene Corbetthttps://darlenecorbett.com/
Darlene Corbett is a Speaker, Author, Licensed Therapist/Coach, and Podcaster and is known as the “UnStuck” expert. She has developed programs based on her experience and is hired by associations and corporations all over the country to share her expertise. Darlene is a high-content speaker with an engaging and energizing style. Darlene loves working with people and believes her foundation as a Therapist and Hypnotherapist validates her position that everyone has the capacity to get UnStuck. When it comes to her deep understanding of human behavior, communication and relationships, Darlene not only helps refurbish the house but steady the foundation. She has been quoted in Knox News, MSN.com, Bustle, and Best Life and has written many blogs and articles. Her book, Stop Depriving The World of You: A Guide for Getting Unstuck, was published by Sound Wisdom in November 2018. Darlene’s weekly podcast “Tap Into The Power of U,” is for men and women 40+ who wish to get unstuck. Darlene is a member of many associations and is an Approved Consultant with the American Society of Clinical Hypnosis. She currently serves on the Board of Directors for Abby’s House in Worcester, MA. In her personal life, Darlene enjoys spending time with her husband, dogs, and close friends as well as crocheting, reading, staying fit and loving life. She thanks God every day for giving her the energy and excitement to continue to look forward to what is ahead.

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  1. Darlene – I definitely remember teachers who inspired me as well as those who didn’t. I became a history teacher – a much earlier career – because of my World History teacher in my sophomore year of high school and my American survey teacher in my freshman year of college.

    As a life-long student of education, I can say that the space cries out for transformation. The current model is based on the industrial model, which is well over a 100 years old. Probably one of the most important changes needed is to move away from content-centric instruction to student-centric instruction. Students need to be developed to be their own singers. Teaching needs to be seen as a facilitating role and not as an imparting of all knowledge role. Kids act out because the teaching is ineffective, but also because the content isn’t relevant and rarely put in the context of real-world situations.

    Thanks for a thought-provoking article!

    • Thank you, Jeff, for your thoughtful commentary! I did not know you were a history teacher. History was one of my favorite subjects, and I was blessed to have superb history teachers. I think you are right. The system needs revamping. There are so many talented young people who fall through the cracks. Let us hope.💖

  2. Darlene—How important to be aware of the delivery of content through the human being instrument as you’ve so thoughtfully discussed. My favorite teachers and professors dropped into their hearts and passion about the subject matter. They seemed to have this wonderful mixture of knowledge of the subject matter, a depth of enthusiasm for that subject matter, and the courage to engage with us-to ask questions-spark dialogue and interaction. I learned that if I ever stood in front of people I would engage with them-ask them their thoughts, perspectives, ideas rather than do a one way train of monologue. I believe teaching and parenting are two of the toughest and most rewarding jobs ever. Thank you for this article because how a song is sung makes all the difference!!

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