Whatever words we utter should be chosen with care for people will hear them and be influenced by them for good or ill.
~ Buddha
Why do our words matter? Or is it not the words we use, but how we say them? Or both?
I recently wrote a Children’s book (Your Light Shines Brightly: The Story of You) aimed at teaching children the fundamentals of just being a good human. The intent is to share words that can nurture a solid moral compass in their young years. The book highlights, Compassion, Forgiveness, Courage, Generosity, and Gratitude. In each section, it talks to what each word means and how it can be expressed.
And then I had to ask myself, is this really a children’s book? Or is it possibly a book for all adults?
In our current landscape of rocky terrain, slippery slopes, and razor-sharp divide, our words DO matter.
Our words have weight.
They are the primary tool for conveying our thoughts and feelings. They enable us to connect with others and share our feelings and experiences.
Our words have impact.
They can significantly influence others’ emotions and actions. Positive words can uplift, inspire, and motivate, while negative words can hurt or discourage.
Our words have meaning.
They express who we are, our values, and our beliefs. Choosing the right words can clarify messages and promote better understanding.
In essence, the words we use can connect us at a deeper level. The right words can de-escalate conflicts, encourage empathy, and help us to better understand both sides of a story.
I subscribe to the notion that most people are inherently good at heart, but some could be terribly misunderstood just by the words they are using. The invitation is purely awareness on the words we use and the tone in which it is delivered.
Maybe we can create more safe spaces where we can communicate without judgement. Build platforms where we can truly listen with our hearts open. Learn to navigate difficult conversations with fluidity and grace. I truly believe everything is possible.
An excerpt from my children’s book:
“You came into this world on the colors of a rainbow with a heart pure and kind, and a sweet light of inner goodness shining brightly. The Guardian of the Stars gave you five gifts, each to make the world a kinder and better place. As you grow, you will find these 5 gifts in the Gardens of Compassion, Forests of Forgiveness, Rivers of Courage, Mountains of Generosity, and Skies of Gratitude.”
Maybe this is a good day for all of us to be reminded.
Ali,
Thank you so much for dipping in… your perspective means everything.
“Our words become our behavior and habits all the way to our identity.”
Sometimes I don’t think we realize the impact our words have on others. (good and bad),
My pleasure always to learn from you, Carolyn
I fully agree with you, Carolyn and your article in full.
You highlighted several ideas including:
The author discusses the importance of words in conveying thoughts and feelings, impacting others’ emotions, and expressing our values and beliefs.
– Our words can connect us at a deeper level, de-escalate conflicts, encourage empathy, and help us understand both sides of a story.
– Our words and tone in delivery can help us create safe spaces for communication without judgment and navigate difficult conversations with fluidity and grace.
– We will find the five gifts of compassion, forgiveness, courage, generosity.
Our words become our behavior and habits all the way to our identity.