Remember when we were kids and they told us, “Sticks and stones may break your bones, but words will never hurt you.”
Yeah, that’s malarkey, spelled b-u-l-l-s-h-i-t.
Words matter.
There’s only two things your words will do: hurt or help.
When getting ready for a tough conversation, do yourself a favor… prepare. Think about what you’re going to say, how you might frame it, and what it is you really, truly want in the long run.
You CAN navigate a tough conversation without saying something you regret or damaging your relationship along the way.
To helping, instead of hurting.
Hugs,
AmyK
So very true, Amy. Yet it is also the tone we use so that what and how we say matters. Thank you for sharing.
Agree! Timing, tone, tenor matter a GREAT deal. Hugs, AmyK
The Bible compares the tongue to a rudder of a ship or a bridle in a horses mouth….small things that make a big impact. I think if texting were a form of communication at the time, Scripture may have had a few things to say about in-person conversation – or verbal at least – as opposed to texting when dealing with any communication that involves emotions, differing opinions, criticism, etc. Choosing our means of communication can be as important as choosing our words.
Thank you for the reminder AmyK.
Yes! Face to face is the best choice for the tough and/or most important conversations. Hugs, AmyK
There is a forensic science saying that I find helpful for me:
‘Every contact leaves a trace .’
It enables me to be mindful of the desired impact of my words and behaviours, and the aftermath.
Great mindset and approach. Hugs, AmyK