Woman, Put On Your Crown

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

―Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles”

We are not our circumstances.  We are powerful creators who have come not to discover ourselves, but to create the fullest manifestation of our highest self.  “Life isn’t about finding yourself.  Life is about creating yourself.” – George Bernard Shaw.  Woman, put on your crown.  Put on your authority, novelty, worth, integrity, confidence, and respect.  Put on your dignity.  How?  Make a choice.  Make the decision to show-up in your highest, true, and excellent expression of who you are wearing crown-worthy values.  Woman, put on your crown.

Spend time with yourself marking indelibly your message on how you will show-up, and reframe the comparative and deprecating chatter you are creating in your mind.  Focus on your excellence is a noble way to start cultivating crown-worthy values.

Maybe ‘cause you don’t have to win a pageant to wear a crown.”

–Julie Murphy Dumplin.

Plan to outdo your past, not other people.  Weed out fraudulent thoughts and feelings and other people’s judgments to plant the seeds of originality and self-acceptance.   You are enough.  And your crowning beauty lies in your uniqueness and truth.  Make it a habit to acknowledge and embrace your difference.  Spend time polishing it.   Woman, put on your crown.

Your presence ought to make others proud.  Your crown is for others.  It carries a weight of glory and a model of distinction.  Your story will impact the unborn princesses who will learn to walk in their anointing glory for which they came.  Queen Elizabeth‘s crown is not an ordinary crown.  It consists of 168 pearls, 28 diamonds, 19 sapphires, 2 emeralds, and weighs 8 pounds. Yet, she is never caught without her crown.  “Even when she’s dethroned by hardship, she still wears the sun as a crown.” – Curtis Tyrone Jones.  And there are challenges she must face.  Your crown is the weather for the season.  You cannot have one for the other.  Woman, put on your crown.

And when the sea is full of tossing waves and the bitter winter sets in, the sun will always be shining up above those clouds.  Remember this: It would be then that you need your crown-worthy values the most.  Call upon them in times of trouble and they will carry you through, for you have practiced them long enough to know how to respond to life from a place of strength and avoid the reactive disaster of a plane crash.  Emma Stone said, “I can’t think of any better representation of beauty than someone who is unafraid of herself.”  Are you wearing your crown, queen?


Caryl Bowman
Caryl Bowman
I walked away from the corporate world to pursue my many passions and gifts. Alas, procrastination caught up with me with its pestering, guilty ways. I overcame to create an exciting solopreneur journey that swings on a pendulum of sweeping experiences - from customer service training to a career that circuitously transitioned into Caryl Bowman Counselling, Coaching & Consultancy to serve primarily victims and survivors of physical, sexual, and emotional abuse as a Certified Counselling Practitioner and Certified Life Coach. I’ve found my purpose here. Others too have benefitted from well-being and resilience interventions. I am a bridge for women. My journey with the women opened up new supporting roles as a podcaster on Anchor, a playwright, and a relationship game developer. Before the women, there was my love and passion for empowering the youth. First, there was the Mazala Children’s Theatre as the founder and director; a neighbourhood group that dramatized children and societal issues of the day. Then, woo-hoo! A new era boomed the upsurge of after-school programs in Belize. More than a decade of work with the youth effectuated the founding of the Literacy For Life Foundation in 2011. Destiny showed up in some rewarding, meaningful ways. I was the major actress of the university play ‘Legacies’ written by my former professor, the internationally renowned and award-winning playwright Dr. Tess Onwueme. I am a Fulbright Scholar. I was my dear Mom’s primary caregiver while she battled the dreaded, devastating Alzheimer’s disease. Building People Movement commissioned me to write the book ‘Building Healthy Relationships’ and the historic Belizean play Woman! Know Your Rights! This play speaks about the dynamics, laws, and protocols of domestic violence, and is used as an educational tool in the education system of Belize. ‘Building Healthy Relationships’ is also an educational tool that teaches education in the values of peace and character development for primary school students. There were setbacks that set up my success. The realization of life events resides in the guardianship of this tenet and it is this: It is not events but our beliefs about them that cause our suffering. When you dissolve the meaning you give the events and the transition breaks in your life, you end your suffering.

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    • You’re welcome, JoAnna!

      Thank you for reading and contributing. Your experience is so relatable, queen. Crown-worthy values carry a weighted distinction and responsibility. It comes with practice.

      It is wonderful to know that you are wearing and keeping your crown steady now.