I continue to practice going to neutral before responding to someone. This internal pause allows me to access many possible responses. Later I can flow out any lingering residual hurt, pain of the past in safe ways that do not hurt me or other people. I know what activities bring me inner fulfillment, joy, and peace. I spend my life energy on activities that bring me joy.
I learned practices that support my healings and transformations including yoga, tai chi, meditation, quiet walks, journaling, gratitude journaling, clearing physical clutter, eating really healthy food, hydrating, exercising in ways that are fun for me, eliminating contact with toxic people of all types, and connecting with high quality, self-aware individuals. I know how to engage with healthy practices that have me thrive.
I know how to reach out to healers and professionals for support knowing that high-quality people exist in our world. I trust and cherish these individuals.
I learned that I cannot give away what I don’t have on the inside and that other people cannot give something they do not have to give. I finally realized that no matter how many times I walked into the furniture store looking for ice cream, I will only find furniture. I practice radical acceptance every single day of hard and meaningful truths.
What have you learned from relationships with difficult people? What are you learning about yourself, your past, healing, and transformations? What has opened up in your life and relationships as you bring an end to unhealthy patterns of reactivity and engage healthier ways of responding?
May you discover that you are love, beauty, and courage. May you cultivate inside of you all the contents of your character from this day forward. May you create who you want to be from your essential, beautiful, creative, imaginative, precious self. May you know in your bones that you matter, that you are loved more than you can even imagine.