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Why Criticism is Never Constructive

Dearest hearts from our vantage point, without the restrictions of ego or challenges, the idea that you criticize one another as a way to encourage improvement seems contrary to your purposes, an oxymoron at best and just plain foolish at worst. However, we have the benefit of being able to clearly see the energetic blowback of your actions where you are, for the most part, restricted to seeing it after it becomes a physical product. It’s because of our ability to clearly see and analyze the unseen that we wish to share this with you so you may understand the impact of your words and actions and thereby make wiser and progressively more empowered choices.

When you point out what’s wrong you’re focused on everything that’s being done that will not work as you actively call in lack and defeat

So let us look at the power behind the act of criticism. When you look at the behavior or the demeanor of another with the purpose of improving it but you concentrate only on what’s wrong as you encourage them to also focus on what’s wrong, you create an attraction point of wrong. This is why we cannot understand why you so diligently focus on what’s wrong. When you point out what’s wrong you’re focused on everything that’s being done that will not work as you actively call in lack and defeat. This may sound reasonable to many of you because you believe that you cannot correct what you have not first identified, examined and then picked apart. However, we must remind you that you’re focus, your attention acts as a homing signal to the Law of Attraction.

When you focus on something whether it’s positive or negative, when you keep feeding it the energy of your attention, when you continuously obsess over this thing that isn’t right you’re saying loudly and clearly to the universe, “More of this please!”

Energy doesn’t stop and think, “Is this a good thing to focus on or a bad thing? Is this something wanted or unwanted?” Energy merely begins to collect or build at the place where your focus is most intense. Then the attention you supply begins acting like a giant magnet which calls that which is similar to itself. This is the idea behind like attracts like. Notice the phrase is not like only attracts that which is good, beneficial or empowering. Judgment, right or wrong, good or bad never enters into the equation. Attention simply guarantees more of the same.

You’re magnifying the power of wrong and making it harder for what’s right to reach you

Therefore, when you look at someone’s actions and thought processes and tell them why they’re wrong, we want to shout, “No! Stop! You don’t know what you’re doing.” Because, as you patiently explain all that’s wrong, you’re reinforcing the energy of wrong. You’re magnifying the power of wrong and making it harder for what’s right to reach you. Let’s look at the example of teaching someone how to ride a bicycle. As you direct them in how to ride, you may notice they’re wobbling back and forth as they sharply jerk the handlebars. If you say, “Stop jerking the handlebars back and forth and stop wobbling so much.” You may believe that you’re offering constructive criticism. However, the rider is now focused on the jerking handlebars and wobbling wheels. Both now become worse because the rider has become micro-focused on the correction instead of macro-focused on the act of balancing. If they were to focus on improving their balance by looking up and feeling their way forward, they’d automatically correct the jerking handlebars and wobbly forward progress. Then their joy at making progress, their sense of stability as they gained balance and their overall feeling of freedom and safety would expand in a glorious cloud of positive attraction that would then call to itself more of all of the higher vibrational energies.

This is what you call the elephant sitting on your chest and it’s felt when someone responds to you with this air of superiority mixed with shame and blame under the guise of constructive criticism

This is why we must emphasize the use of positive encouragement as opposed to critical condemnation. Let’s assume both of these actions create a cloud of energy that determines the direction and attraction point. If we were observing you doing something wrong and we called you on it with harsh words and a superior tone an energetic field or cloud would be created. “What were you thinking? That’s such a stupid thing to do. You’ll never learn.” Are types of criticisms we have heard you express to each other. Even the softer version, “You’re doing it all wrong, let me show you how to do it right,” carries with it a heavy cloud of lower vibrational energy. This is what you call the elephant sitting on your chest and it’s felt when someone responds to you with this air of superiority mixed with shame and blame under the guise of constructive criticism. You, the receiver, want to receive praise, you want to do better, you want to feel good about yourself but the heavy weight of criticism, that cloud of negativity, stands between you and you’re goal. Now you have to re-double your efforts to make progress and overcome additional negativity you attracted when you focused on the constructive criticism that was being offered.

You will notice that you feel progressively lighter and brighter as you give your attention to all that’s right instead of micro-managing all that’s wrong

We want your life to become easier, not littered with ever-increasing hurdles, so we ask that you focus on all that’s right. Now, let’s run through a correction sequence that focuses only on what’s right. You will notice that you feel progressively lighter and brighter as you give your attention to all that’s right instead of micro-managing all that’s wrong. You’ll also notice that you’ll be able to see the bigger picture, the macro workings of the universe instead of the micro-workings of the individual and you’ll, therefore, be able to step more fully into the flow, the greater whole, the support system that is designed to cradle you gently in its arms.

You’ll be attracting what you do want instead of trying to dodge what you don’t want

Going back to the bicycle analogy, you’re on a two-wheeler for the first time, gaining some momentum. The handlebars are jerking wildly back and forth, you’re arms are two stiff poles hanging on for dear life and beneath your seat, the bicycle is wobbling so hard it’s as if it’s going to spill you onto the pavement at any moment. Luckily, you’ve brought along a coach who’s skilled in positive reinforcement. Instead of yelling about what’s going wrong and why you’re certain to fail, your coach says, “Keep going, you’re doing great. When you’re able to do so, sit up a little straighter. Now pedal faster, there you go. Wow! Look at you, you’re doing it, you’re amazing. Keep going, head up, look where you’re going, relax, you’ve got this.” And as if by magic, you’ll have synchronized your movements with the bicycle. You’ll be attracting what you do want instead of trying to dodge what you don’t want.

Put all of your attention on any aspect you’ve got right and don’t entertain criticism about what’s wrong

Your power lies in attracting more of what’s right but it will never be found by trying to analyze what’s wrong. Put all of your attention on any aspect you’ve got right and don’t entertain criticism about what’s wrong, always remember that what you focus on increases. The goal is to increase your support from the universe, to grow your attraction of positive elements and to allow your vision to adjust as you find a more positive outcome. It’s never to withdraw into your shell so you can avoid a negative onslaught. Be your most powerful self by focusing on everything that’s going right.

Marcia Martin
Marcia Martinhttps://www.mmhearthealer.com/
Marcia Martin M Ed – The Heart Healer, is a personal empowerment coach, channel, bestselling author, and podcast host on Dreamvisions 7 Radio Network who specializes in helping people heal their relationship with themselves. By healing the heart of all past pain and trauma you’ll be able to establish and maintain healthy relationships with yourself and all others so you can live a successful life. Her unique, heart-centered, energetic, healing approach, Angel Heart Healing, enables you to build the perfect relationship with yourself and answer the questions, “Who am I? Why am I here? and Where am I going?” Marcia will help you release your greatest fear so you can achieve your biggest dreams as you heal your heart and transform your life. Schedule your, thirty-minute Angel Heart Healing Breakthrough mini-session at https://www.mmhearthealer.com/coaching or join the Healing Hearts Community at https://www.mmhearthealer.com/community and be supported by Marcia and other like-minded individuals who are committed to personal empowerment.

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