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Why Can it Be So Hard to Listen to Other People?

Why is it so hard for people to listen to someone without interrupting them?

Why is it sometimes very hard to listen to others? Due to our egoism and pride, where we primarily consider our self-benefit over everything and everyone else, it is common for us to hold certain disagreements with others’ opinions. It might not even be a different opinion, but the sheer fact that another person is saying what I would want to say and not me is enough for me not to listen.

Due to our egoism and pride, where we primarily consider our self-benefit over everything and everyone else, it is common for us to hold certain disagreements with others’ opinions. It might not even be a different opinion, but the sheer fact that another person is saying what I would want to say and not me is enough for me not to listen.

The opinion itself is not so important. What matters is the ability to express oneself.

Sometimes, a situation arises where one person pushes their views onto another who might have different views, and this gives a feeling that the one pushing their views is suppressing the other person’s sense of self. It is because when we listen, we fall under the influence of the other person. Where are we in those moments? We seemingly become nonexistent, which is why we feel a need to switch on our own mouths here and there.

In other words, we should not enter into conversations in a direct and forceful way, even if what we say is seemingly right and to the point. There needs to be preparation. That is, we need to give the person we are talking with a feeling that they are right. We can then talk our hearts away with them, and afterward, when the other person has discharged themselves, we can then start turning the conversation little by little.

Michael Laitman
Michael Laitmanhttps://www.michaellaitman.com/
Dr. Michael Laitman is a global thinker, a prolific author who has published over 40 books on a variety of topics including world affairs, economics, education, anti-Semitism, and Kabbalah. Laitman’s books have been published in more than thirty languages, including English, Russian, Spanish, French, Hebrew, German, Portuguese, Dutch, Turkish, Farsi, Chinese, Italian, and Arabic. Laitman is also a sought after speaker and columnist. To date, he has written for, or been interviewed by The New York Times, The Jerusalem Post, Huffington Post, Corriere della Sera, Chicago Tribune, Miami Herald, The Globe, RAI TV, and Bloomberg Television, among others. Dr. Laitman has thousands of students from around the world whom he teaches on his daily lessons. These lessons are offered with simultaneous interpretation in more than thirty languages, the main ones of which are English, Spanish, Hebrew, Italian, Russian, French, Turkish, German, and Chinese. In addition to the live lessons, Laitman has millions of students in over 100 countries around the world, who watch Laitman’s lessons at their own convenience or study through Laitman’s affiliate platforms such as KabU and MAC Online. Laitman has a PhD in Philosophy and Kabbalah from the Russian Academy of Sciences in Moscow and an MS in Medical Bio-Cybernetics from the Saint Petersburg State University. His latest book is available on Amazon: The Jewish Choice: Unity or Anti-Semitism.

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  1. Thank you for naming subconscious muddle that can stop us from listening.

    An article in Psychology Today a couple of years back mentioned that we have been conditioned to feeling “one down” when we are listening because we were told to “listen up” when we were little kids and didn’t have much say.

    If, instead of identifying with our little inner kid being talked at (and even worse: down at), we can identify with the sage, the therapist, who gets paid to listen. And suddenly listening feels like power, not powerlessness.

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