Have you ever wondered if the people around you are really being their authentic selves? I think this is the $64,000 question when it comes to dating
Men bust our chops incessantly about our need for Spanx and how by wearing them, we aren’t really ourselves. It’s not as if we disrobe and by doing so release a life raft from the Titanic. I mean really people. Sucking in a few body imperfections is nothing like flat-out LYING about who you really are and what you are after.
As I grow older, I am realizing that I am less filtered with my thoughts and more honest than I probably was 20 years ago. My mom always told me, “Honesty is the best policy.” Unfortunately, in the world of dating, it tends to be the kiss of death. But why is that? And moreover, isn’t it a big waste of time these days not to be?
I have a few single girlfriends. All strong, beautiful women who have their sh%$ together and yet, we all seem to be dipping into the same abysmal dating pool. We are each a few dates away from taking our show on the road.
“Look out for that one. He’s a liar.” “Yeah, don’t waste your time there, he will be a Stage 5 Clinger.” And let me tell you, this is almost a fate worse than death. Probably because you have to all but fake your own death (after one coffee date, no less) to escape his clenches. Ok, “clenches” may seem a bit over the top. Let’s just go with 1,000 text messages a day. I will leave it at that.
In talking with my friends, here is the #1 Head Scratcher – the guy who, from date one, is ALL IN, up your a$& 24/7. You finally let your guard down and let him in only to be dealt the “I’m not ready for a relationship. I am damaged goods” bullsh&$ that we’ve all heard. Only to hear the following week from a friend that he is on Tinder. What is wrong with people?
Who was the guy I was dating for two months? Your representative? Do you pull an Alec Baldwin from Dr. Suess’s The Cat in the Hat, take off your girdle when you get home, your fake teeth and unleash your, “I’m an a$$hole aura” only to stuff it all back inside before I see you again? I mean, seriously, how hard it must be for you to fake your way into a woman’s life. Who on earth has time for this?
On behalf of all single women everywhere, men hear my plea. BE NORMAL. BE HONEST and BE REAL about your feelings. Fake it til you make it is a mantra best left in the world of business. No one wants to date your representative.
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