What’s Keeping You From Living Your Dream Life?

Do you have a dream? You know, the one you repeatedly come back to like an irresistible lover? If you do, why aren’t you living it? Now, I’m not accusing. When it comes to my clients—and even myself—there is a common thing that stops us all sometimes. It leads to a racing heart, sweating palms, and dreams on hold.

Quite simply, it’s fear.

You, me, and everyone alive faces it. Fear is part of our nature. It’s the instinct that kept early man and woman safe from animal predators. And it serves us well today when it comes to things like being confronted with a rattlesnake, seeing an out of control car racing in our direction, having a gun aimed at our face, or being in the path of a tornado. All of those are real and dangerous situations. Only a fool would face them without fear. But there’s another kind of fear.

I’ve heard defined by this useful acronym:

False
Events
Appearing
Real

This kind of fear isn’t helpful. It keeps you living a safe life, preventing you from doing things that tread outside your comfort zones.

For me, this fear came in the form of being afraid to speak up in a crowd. I thought it was a real fear. I so dreaded the thought of speaking out in public that I sought any way possible to avoid it. But was it really a fear? Was it a real danger? Any rational person would say, “Of course not.” It was a textbook example of “False Events Appearing Real” thinking. But that part of my brain, the part that held on to a belief that something bad would happen if I spoke up, believed this was a real fear. And it kept me quiet. I might not have been able to turn this around if it weren’t for my dreams.

By understanding several dreams that pertained to this issue, I was able to see that my concerns were all about worrying about something that hadn’t happened and probably never would.  By making a conscious effort to use this knowledge gained from my dreams, I was able to get my rational, waking mind to believe it.

How? By deeply examining my public speaking fear.

When I studied my fear closely, I realized it was the result of something from my past and not part of who I am now. It helped me see how false my fear was. I asked myself, “Would someone come up from behind and kill me if I opened my mouth? Would everyone else in the room pounce on me? Would I be struck by lightning or shrink into a tiny speck of dust or any of a number of other horrible things?” Of course not! The more I concentrated on this “new” knowledge, the more I saw how public speaking fear had no place in my life now.

The proof? Several weeks ago, I went to a seminar and was the first person to speak up. And you know what? There were no lightning bolts, no attacks, and no sudden death. I spoke my peace and that was it.

If you find yourself worrying about false events that appear real to you, the answer to letting go of the fear may lie in your dreams.

Here’s to your dreams!

Debbie

Debbie Spector Weisman
Debbie Spector Weisman
Debbie Spector Weisman empowers dreamers to live a life they love through her Dream-Life Coaching practice. She has written or contributed to 29 books including 101 Dream Dates and Chicken Soup for the Soul: Dreams and Premonitions. Her Podcast; Amazing Women and Men Of Power is available on iTunes and selected shows are also available on television at Roku and Amazon Fire. More information about her services at The Dream Coach.

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  1. I was told as a child that your dreams were real places that you could go if only you could imagine yourself already there. This worked for me for my lifetime and I have had an amazing journey but my dreams now are of the morning sunrise, walking down a dirt road with my family and dogs in tow. Great story my friend.

  2. We do not ever should make the mistake of believing that our idea is utopian. It is as achievable as other thousand ideas. The reasons for the renunciations can be many: giving up because one is afraid of failing, or because we are only pessimistic, or fatalistic, or believe in destiny, and so on. These are states of mind that can be changed. There are rules of common sense, to be adopted daily.
    An old quote reads as follows: Everything that others can do, why with patience you cannot do it too? But only keep well in mind this rule: try again.

    • This is true. I believe one has to be persistent to achieve one’s goals. However, fear too often steps in to thwart one from taking action or even believing any good can result from trying again. Conquering fear is an important first step to success.

      • I agree with these points. Let me just to add a brief consideration.
        Fear is so many things! The fear of social change, of indigence, of not being able to maintain the standard of previous living, not to produce more wealth, of not getting more credit and of the collapse of their social image. The fear for health, of not to like or do not be considered and loved. We are afraid of any kind of comparison, of losing control. Sometimes is anxiety, an occasional scare. Every now and then something happens that displaces us and cause us concern.
        But yet, fear can be positive up to a certain level. It is part of us, activates us, makes us to be ready to react to what happens to us. And it is essential to push us to have courage and take action. Without fear there is no success! It goes not only accepted but cultivated, because fear teaches the sense of limits, and is the basis of many success.

        • This is Debbie. Signed in wrong–first time. :) Yes, you are right, when you recognize the fear for what it is ad then take positive action. Unfortunately, many people allow the fear to control them rather than control the fear. Awareness is everything.

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