What is Love, What is Marriage?

Tales Of Nightingale LynnTHIS IS THE RAW of everything I write. My writings are of personal experiences in this life, although I wish I could write about the Corporate World, but I can’t. I did work in the Corporate sect for 4 years and was thinking of all the ways I could help those who only work for the money, and ignore the virtue of kindness to their fellow colleague. Hopefully what I write can help some in the Corporate World. I don’t know.

Marriage is, according to God’s view, a Sacramental. For Better or for Worse, for Richer or Poorer, in Sickness and in Health, till Death do us part? If God is a true source of life, not just for one, but for the other as well, I believe things will work out. If you come into the marriage with hidden agendas and secrets, how can it last? How many marriages fall apart because of deceit, lust, dishonesty, and the wrong kind of love, the kind of love that is based on the surface, like oil and water.

People who choose to live together prior to marriage think,

Well, I have to know if it will work out before I take the plunge, so it’s better to live together to see how things will be. [su_spacer]

Maybe sometimes it works out, but the percentage of successful marriages that start out that way and survive is less than 20%. In Holy Scripture, Days of Old, there was no such thing as living together, it was just do as it was. Marriages were planned, or marriages were arranged, or marriages came together for the one time and the only time. At least today, in America we can meet someone and just take our time, but do we have to live together before hand just to see if it will work?

love-dictionary4What’s happened over the centuries is Man has decided they will choose as they will for what they want, and Women will choose for what they want.

This is not a one-sided commitment. It takes two. Have you ever listened to someone who is interviewed, 45-60 years of marriage, and the question is asked, “Soooooo what makes your marriage work? Ten out ten times, they will respond, “Listen, “Listen to the other person, “Compromise”, “Never go to bed angry”, “Listen”, did I say “Listen”?

My heart breaks for couples that do not understand the true meaning of “Love.” I wish with all my heart that every couple who takes the vows of marriage, repeating the words from 1Corinthians, that those words would be embedded in their hearts and never shall they part.

I grew up thinking of the perfect marriage, that I would have a good life, a nice house, and my husband would love me as love should be. I would do all I could to make our lives good, happy, and willing to work through our trials and sufferings together. Since that did not happen, I still keep a good heart, I still hold no ill wills, and I forgive. I do not know the reasons or situations behind everyone who has ever married and then ended in divorce. What I am saying is that if our minds are clear, we know what is right and wrong, what is expected through God’s Will and we live by that, enjoying all the gifts that come our way because we do God’s Will, and we understand clearly what “True Love” is, then we are off to a good start.

If I was in a class and were speaking to men and women who were about to get married, I would say this: Make sure you know what “Love” is. It is not a feeling, because feelings fade. “Love for a man is knowing that the woman he has chosen to marry he is willing to be with through thick and thin. He will respect her and she will respect him always because she will bear his children. “Love from a woman is saying I will be an equal, I will respect and do what I need to do to serve God and to serve the spouse that HE has given me. I will not be a doormat and neither will he. I will love according to how God directs. “How does God direct”

1 Corinthians 13:4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not…

If one were to really read word for word and slowly, they would say what is true.

To the Successful Men: Don’t forget your family and how you got to where you are if you are married, through the climbing of the ladder. If you are not married, don’t forget the family that helped you with the education that allowed you to be where you are.

To the Successful Woman: I say the same

To the Rich and The Famous: Money comes and Money goes

To the Abusive: get help and ask for help, know that you are still loved.

To the unfaithful: Wake up, life is too short and as a man or woman, don’t play games

To those that are married and have established years together, figure out what’s wrong, so the years can continue.

If all else fails, and you cannot be together, then separate with love, not for your sake, but if children are involved, for their sake. Stay connected and let the children learn from you both in a good way.

I am not an authority on marriage, or anything else, but when you are connected with faith in a way that God who gives us everything, “Love as He Loved”.

The Greatest Commandment given “Love One Another As I Have Loved You”

Okay, so you don’t’ believe in God, then just do kindness, don’t be angry and let go of things that slow you down.

There was a priest who would open his homilies with “In the End, There is Heaven or Hell, Period””

If you don’t believe in God, be a good person and search for HIM.   Your Life Will Change. Know that God doesn’t force anyone to search HIM out or follow HIM, that’s the gift, “The Gift Of Free Will”

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Do I think it is easy when you have 4 screaming kids crying out for attention, a parent has worked all day, and just wants to come home and have peace, that trials and obstacles get in the way, drain the human heart, death may come early and then suffering? No, I don’t, but I know that greed, selfishness, and dishonesty out ways the peaceful life. Every successful man and woman I have known in my life, which do well in everything, despite all the trials and obstacles, whether married or not are, are at peace because they know how to balance their success with FAITH.


Lynn Forrester-Pitocco
Lynn Forrester-Pitocco
LYNN is Retired from Law Enforcement as a Police Officer, with a background in nursing and previously a member of the Search and Rescue Team with the Los Angeles Sheriff’s Department, A retired member of the Orange Police Department, she became the first female SWAT member on an elite team while becoming a member of the Olympic Shooting Team during the early years on the department. A mother and a grandmother, a devout Catholic who currently resides in Houston, Texas. Her hobbies include writing, painting, and a contemplative prayer life. She is in love with her faith, but the love she carries for her two grown children and grandchildren who rest in her heart surpasses everything except her faith in God. Since retirement, Lynn has done private investigation, worked as a gang counselor with middle schools, A member of Bl. Mother Teresa’s Order called the (Lay Missionaries of Charity), she is also a pro-life advocate, often called upon to give testimony and speak to youth groups, as well as adult forums. She has published a children’s book entitled “The Children’s Garden” and is currently working on two additional children’s books. She is currently working on the major one focused on her experience in Law Enforcement entitled “Heels and a Badge”. (copyright). Her paintings and sketches, writings, can be viewed on her Pinterest boards (click on the Pinterest ICON below). Her dream is to one-day write a movie for Hallmark. Dreams do come true … See Lynn’s entire collection of thought-provoking Articles by clicking on her byline. Lynn is a contributing author to the inspiring book Chaos to Clarity: Sacred Stories of Transformational Change.

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  1. Marriage is commitment and not convenient. It was ordained by God for man and woman to become one in equal partnership to raise a family and face life’s trials together. True love in a good marriage is always putting your partner’s needs ahead of your own. Most importantly, couples who put God first in their marriage, obtain a blessed union.

    You already know all of this Lynn and maybe someday you will find someone who shares these same thoughts –