What if You Set Yourself Free?

This is my favorite part of re-writing the subconscious program; simply because it is making us move back to our original Center granted by the divinity among other beautiful gifts. Only when you do so, will your reconnection process with your intrinsic worth become completed since the ‘Principles’ are unchangeable and independent of time and space.

That’s how you become — without this being reversible — fully authentic and able to speak your truth even when everybody is buying into lies or pretending, vulnerable and capable of exposing yourself emotionally without any problem, genuinely kind and generous, truly humble, faithful to your principles no matter the circumstances, a person of integrity with an abundance mentality and who is emotionally mature, connected to your inner-kid and able to practice lovable silliness and self-deprecating to inspire, a source of light spreading contagious energy, an individual full of gratitude for pretty much anything, a passionate — the sparkling eyes, the excitement, the enthusiasm, how moved you could become when visualizing the outcome of your life mission (much bigger than your small self) and the vibes you’re vehiculating even through your written words. You simply become a servant leader.

You also reach the highest level of critical thinking skills, but most importantly the purest gut which was biased by the conditioning. This gives you the possibility to feel the manipulation (even when you are not having detailed knowledge about it and that you don’t know the painful truth of its conscious attribute). You can even see it from a simple picture through the facial expressions of the manipulator.

What can we get from re-writing the program?

You can stop at the first step of re-programming your subconscious (your limiting beliefs about yourself) and live a healthy life if you are lucky and knowledgeable enough in order to avoid getting trapped into manipulators’ games. Some people are also experiencing those two transformation steps in parallel as well, even though it is probably why they stop before finishing; simply because it becomes too painful for them to manage the two levels of limiting beliefs at the same time — at least that’s the impression they have! Their still unhealthy ego takes its power back, and they, unfortunately, come back to their instant gratifications and numbing techniques.

On the other hand, when you set yourself fully free, you can:

  • Save your kids from any possible abuse at home or at school through identifying the techniques from your children’s emotional daily shares. You need to gently trigger the discussion even when your kids don’t seem to feel hurt,
  • Contribute in elevating the global awareness around the world’s critical issues (the mental and psychological health created issues, suicides, the world’s resources imbalance, stigmatization, global warming, wars, etc…; all of them being the product of the character-disturbed individuals).
  • Invest everything you can in leaving a principled legacy and preparing the path for the next generations to thrive and reverse the distorted world’s system.

Last but not least, the question I am asked very frequently is “If we commit to this transformational adventure till the end, does this mean we won’t feel pain anymore?” I am afraid the answer is ‘No’. But here is the thing: there is a difference between:

  • Feeling pain without even getting the ‘why’ or when we are in the middle of our adventure and that this pain is not even a choice but a price to be paid,
  • Feeling it when we are grieving some delusional reality about relationships in which we invested all our heart, energy, time; when we are concerned about beloved people or even all the human beings; since a servant leader unleashes limitless amounts of genuine love for the whole universe among so many fabulous outcomes and acquired virtues during the radical transformational process.

In the latter situation, the pain we are feeling is very intentional, and we are controlling it even if its level could be higher than in the first scenario! Is the outcome tempting enough for you? I truly hope it is!

To all the kind-hearted individuals: the world desperately needs you to reverse the system! Please listen to the call!

With love, Myriam


Myriam Ben Salem
Myriam Ben Salem
I am deeply passionate about everything life has to offer. Writing has been my very favorite means to educate my audience, captivate their attention, talk to their emotions, and make them relate and take action. I have been honored by working as a columnist for BIZCATALYST 360°, an Award-Winning life, culture, and biz new media digest, serving as the global hub for enhanced performance and well-being, during 2020. Also, I am a contributing author in Mayhem to Miracles: True Stories of Courage, Triumph, and Peace. I am so in love with writing that I have a peaceful smile drawn on my face whenever I start visualizing the books I will be writing for whoever will be tempted to discover an inclusive philosophy breaking with all the stigmas! I was born in Tunisia, a small country in North Africa. I did pretty much everything earlier than the average: walking, talking, singing, dancing. Promoted throughout my entire education, I was also the leader of every end-of-year party. At some point, after working several years for multinational companies as an engineer, team leader, project coordinator, and product owner while always being a top performer, I figured out I was feeling miserable despite the 'perfect external image'. That marked the starting point of an existential crisis followed by an episode that triggered my re-birth and the beginning of the most rewarding adventure of my whole existence: re-writing my subconscious program and reconnecting with my true self. I was saved at the last moment through an out-of-body experience making me see all the lies, realize this gigantic Universe was not revolving around me. Most importantly, I was able to visualize I was here to leave a legacy like all of you, no matter how big or small! The butterfly took time to emerge though. Today, I identify myself as a Universal Citizen. Like-minded and light-hearted people are what I call home. I am deeply passionate about everything life has to offer, and was granted the edutainer qualifier: a combination between education and entertainment! I educate on the importance of healing unsuspected traumas, seeing our limiting beliefs and biases with honest lenses, finding one's purpose and a principled mission that goes beyond the self, and unleashing the hidden potential so that to leave our legacy for the generations unborn. I have been using a panoply of means that could vary from explicit ones such as mentorship, speaking, and writing, a skill that emerged naturally during my self-actualization process to implicit mediums like storytelling, how I daily show up in the world and model servant leadership! Writing is my very favorite and most preferred tool deployed for my mission. The topics I explore are in the nexus of stoic philosophy, psychology, neuroplasticity, epigenetics, and pretty much any topic involving human behavior. Common denominator? The quality of the subconscious program. You may have a look at some of my works published on my website; Set Yourself Free.

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  1. First–Congratulations on your new column!!! WaHOOOO!! 🙂 🙂 What a valuable and informative essay for empowering people who may find themselves trapped in a trauma bond, in an impossible situation with another human being who has no capacity or commitment to heal. Shedding limiting beliefs is very important as is uncoiling the traumas that can get lodged in the body and nervous system from persistent traumatic stress of being connected to a tortured soul human being. The wisdom of the entire body must be allowed to speak because if the person faced the parent, boss, or coach who exhibited repeated annihilating rage storms-this will require support to transcend, shift and heal the lingering traumas in the body and nervous system. Traumas are shocks to the body and nervous system. How important to do the deep healing work–body, heart-emotions, mind-beliefs-and soul-faith-consciousness. Thank you for your continued commitment to educate and inspire those who have endured this type of persistent challenge in their lives!! You are a treasure!!

    • Awww 🥰🥰🥰 I am nothing but your mirror my fantabulous soulsister! This world is beautiful because of gems 💎 like you! Thank you for existing! 🤗💙🤗

    • I’m with Laura on this…. such a valuable voice for so many out there trapped in a toxic relationship. Thank you (to both of you) for sharing your experiences and wisdom so that others can grow and heal!

      Welcome to BizCat, Myriam! You are going to add such rich value to this community!

  2. Congratulations again, my dear! There is so much to dissect in your message. As someone who has heard about the quiet abuse that goes on behind closed doors, it takes much courage for someone to extricate themselves from it. Many do, but others continue to need gentle reminding that they could live a better life. Your message surely resonates with many people. Thank you!💖

    • Thank you beautiful soul ! 🤗 Your continuous support means the world to me! I love who you are so much and I’m grateful you are part of my world ! 💙🧚‍♀️

      I truly hope it will resonate with as many people as possible! Btw, it is not only for folks who were abused by character-disturbed manipulators.

      Even parents who are conditioned themselves and diving in life with numerous psychological patterns are conditioning their kids as well and writing a distorted subconscious program!

  3. Thanks, Myriam.

    Richard Rosengarten, a good friend and classic curmudgeon, used to say, “If you hang long enough, you get used to hanging.”

    Part of my work is with the recovery community. We all have more in common with that subset of humanity than we realize. One of the characteristics of an addict is the s/he will continue the addictive behavior even though the pain of continuing outweighs the pleasure – drinking not to feel good, but to just not feel terrible.

    I see (and hear on the news on online), lots and people who seem to be unwilling to questions their own assumptions/biases/crapola even though those patterns do not bring them relief, merely cessation of discomfort. To fly from discomfort is to be stuck, a Groundhog Day of resentment.

    Here’s a link to a quick piece on the topic:

    Keep on fightin’ the good fight.

    • Million thanks for stopping by dear Carl and for adding so much value! Means a lot my friend! 🙏💙🙏

      Will make sure to have a look on the piece you’re recommending! Thanks again for the lovely attention!