What If We Can Re-humanize School Again?

–It all starts with focusing on the human being!

I want to start this article by asking a question: “When you think about the educational system, what is the first word that comes to your mind?”

School? Uniformity? Conventionality? Teachers? Discipline? Control? Sustainability? Learning? Knowledge? Efficiency? Homework? Pressure? Exams? Degrees? College? Fees? Limiting? Broken?

Those were the answers to my first circle. The last attribute broke my heart, but it speaks so much truth.

I am guessing that, like all my friends living on several continents — so that to get a global impression, no one of you would have thought of the words freedom, empowerment, pleasure, passion, creativity, happiness, balance, servant leadership.

People who are scripted deeply in logical, verbal, left-brain thinking will discover how inadequate that thinking is in solving problems that require a great deal of creativity. They become aware and begin to open up a new script inside their right brain. It is not that the right brain wasn’t there; it just lay dormant. We haven’t been developing the muscles, or perhaps they had atrophied after early childhood because of the heavy left-brain emphasis of formal education or social scripting.

~Stephen Covey

What about starting from the very beginning? Sounds like a wise plan, right?

This educational system I am imagining will be effective only if we raise kids in a healthy family system. We need to understand that human beings do not have access to consciousness until their 7th year.

“Come on, Myriam! You must be kidding me!”

I’m afraid I’m not. If you need to blame someone here, it will be the brilliant Epigenetics expert Dr. Bruce Lipton who is stipulating the following:

The most vital point is that consciousness, the way we think consciousness, is not available to the child until after 6!

The program we acquired in the first six years shapes how we live our life. From the first two years before birth to the first two years, we are in the lowest frequency called “Delta”. For an adult, Delta is like sleeping or being unconscious. For a child, it is like being behind a window watching the world but can’t respond. From two to six, there’s a higher activity called “Theta”. When we’re in Theta, it’s like imagination. That’s why children between two and six mix the real world and the imaginary world in their play. When the child gets to 6, another level starts called “Alpha” which is calm consciousness. When the child reaches 12, s/he can express all the ranges from “Delta”, “Theta”, “Alpha”, and this is like schoolroom consciousness called “Beta”. The most vital point is that consciousness, the way we think consciousness, is not available to the child until after 6! The first six years are the programmable state. Whatever goes in the first six years is the first structure in the subconscious mind. This period of our life is where we learn the fundamentals of relationships, connections, family, and community.

Pre-requisites of the educational system

Being armed with such information, how would we be able, as parents/caregivers, of raising the free spirits who would thrive in this new educational system?

  • Elevating them instead of criticizing them.
  • Actively listening to them so that to help them avoid developing a narrow range of thinking.
  • Being consistent in terms of showing affection. Loving them unconditionally, so that they feel emotionally safe, given space to create and stay connected to their inner passions.
  • Celebrating them and being their cheerleaders — even when we could be worried about the future of those passions — instead of limiting them with the “success” social lens.
  • Teaching them the value of giving, to be empathetic to others, and reinforced their efforts.
  • Teaching them responsible behavior by letting them make their own choices, empowering them to do so, and making sure to take note of the good things they do.
  • Reminding them daily that their worth is intrinsic and only depends on who they are as a person. They need to get the message that they will never have to prove their worth to anyone, but that they can aspire to grow and become better from day to day.
    The only person they would need to compare themselves to would be the person they were yesterday. We call this behavior the “Abundance Mentality”!

Raising them in alignment with the principles — namely respect, fairness, integrity & honesty, human dignity, abundance mentality, service, quality or excellence, potential, etc…

You might be tempted here to ask yourself “When is she planning to introduce this new educational system?”, right? 😊

I am inviting you to have a look at the featured image above, and tell me what you’re feeling? On point! A human connection. Having such a circular layout — making it possible for each student to see everybody else — is already a great start to create a friendly atmosphere and break the ice in no time!

Now let me introduce to you this educational system big lines:

All the schools are pretty much the same

When our neighbor asks you “Which school your children will be going to?”, your answer is “The closest one to the house.” There would be no need to plan your residence area depending on your search for the most suitable school anymore. We need to represent the fairness principle carefully. Similar educators’ qualifications. Similar educational means. Similar pedagogy, etc. What is that supposed to create?

Nurturing the kids’ core values which have been vehiculated to them by their parents. Observing the alignment between what they were told and its execution in their schools is creating a sort of faith in the world’s goodness!

Myriam Ben Salem
A recovered perfectionist. A passionate. A grown kid. A writer. A storyteller. An edutainer. A lifelong learner. A speaker. An unapologetic truth-teller. A stoic philosopher. More details about the story of my life? With pleasure! I am a mentor with a deep passion for empowering whomever I interact with, helping others unleash the servant leader in them and find their voice they would use to leave their legacy. Ice on the cake, the growth happens implicitly through simply modeling it. I spent 9 years working at a high level of consultancy and management in the Information Technology, Human Resources, and Research sectors, only to realize that my perfectionism syndrome was damaging myself and those around me. After three burnouts, an existential crisis, and having almost committed suicide following being harshly abused by a malignant narcissist, I dramatically embarked on a painful journey to drastically transform the miserable individual I was. I was saved at the last moment by the grace of my pure love divinity through an out-of-body experience making me see all the lies of my unhealthy ego, realize this gigantic universe was not revolving around my small self. Most importantly, I was able to visualize I was here for a mission. That was the moment of my migration from being religious to spiritual. The butterfly took time to emerge though. The caterpillar had to heal the very obvious scars, gain some strength to start the most rewarding investment of the whole existence: destroying all my limiting beliefs both about myself and the world, and rewiring my invasive subconscious program I never wrote in the first place! I am deeply passionate about everything life has to offer. I educate through any possible means on the importance of reconnecting with our common birth’s gifts making all of us seeds of greatness only numbed by the life-time conditioning. Writing is my very favorite and most preferred tool deployed for my mission. The topics I explore are in the nexus of stoic philosophy, psychology, neuroplasticity, and epigenetics. Common denominator? The quality of the subconscious program! I am described as vivacious, confident, compassionate, authentic, funny, warrior, vulnerable, grateful, bold, emotionally mature, showing integrity with an abundance mentality, and always seeking the best way forward for myself and every person I get the privilege to interact with.


  1. Today school and family are called to take on a fundamental role to stem the violent drift of a society that is now unable to express emotional, ethical and moral values. School and university have full meaning only in relation to the formation of the person. In this process of human growth all educators are called to collaborate with their professionalism and with the richness of humanity of which they are bearers.
    In the humanities there is a need for critical depth, to reason, to problematize, remove banality and add awareness. In scientific subjects there is an urgent need to give ethical depth to the contents.
    A teacher humanizes knowledge if he takes it away from the blind flow and places it in the sphere of reasoning, taste, authenticity; in one word, of freedom. Here lies the freedom of teaching. The teacher can do this on condition that he / she keeps his curiosity alive and this is possible as long as he / she is himself / herself in a process of growth, evolution, research. As long as there is this inner, vital attitude, he will be able to be alongside the student, will be able to share, stimulate analysis, build knowledge together. This sharing is to humanize teaching.

  2. Great post, Myriam! You have so many great thoughts. I’m happy that there are schools and methods trying new and more creative interactions. I wanted to change so many things when I was back in school. The teachers who broke the mold and raised the bar for interactive sessions stole my heart. I loved their classes, they made me want to learn more and be more. A huge difference was the way they treated students, with compassion, imagination and humor coupled with a vast amount of knowledge and practical adaptation.

    • Absolutely brilliant, dear Cynthia! And that’s what I was referring to by the workforce to be adapted to such an educational system!

      If we make sure to create future servant leaders adults who would use their gifts to uplift the world, it would make no sense to to put them in bossy and toxic environments! They would simply die! Everything is so interconnected, my friend!







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