I need to start this with a confession: I’ve been dreaming of becoming a doctor when I was a little girl! I, unfortunately, didn’t get enough points (long story for another time), and was rather directed to engineering.
Today, I’m pretty sure the social conditioning obviously played a role. Still, I can say with confidence it was also coming from my core part which was, luckily, never fully shut down. It’s way deeper than the social status and proof of success granted to doctors – the distorted social lens part. It’s rather about an exquisite universal correct principle we call service!
This is making me think of a brave man moving reflection… He’s a security guy:
That moment when you start doubting your choice and asking this question ‘why the hell am I doing this?’, and that a little boy appears scared, crying and saying: ‘officer can you please help me? I can’t find mommy?’ That’s when you realize it has never been about you…
I will not hide the admiration I’ve always had for doctors – at least those who have stayed loyal to their noble mission and have fiercely fought against the corrupted system and the miserable work conditions for many! My admiration is currently multiplied ten times witnessing the fabulous commitment and selflessness of not only doctors but all the incredible medical staff. We will never ever be able to thank them enough for their priceless contributions in those hard times.
My point here is that every single individual has their place in this world — even when they’re not yet contributing to the economical balance. A huge number of people are still struggling in finding the most optimal way for their voice to be heard, for their minds to be used creatively, for their passion and fire to be exploited the right way so that they could give back to the global economy as much as possible. You can count me in this group!
Interestingly, this Coronavirus — I personally consider as a blessing – is proving the financial contribution is important for sure, but way less crucial than living a meaningful life, being in service and making an impact no matter how big or small – sometimes a smile or a sincere uplifting compliment goes a long way…
This happened a couple of months ago in a supermarket: I was in the deli section admiring the service quality of the responsible person with a smile. I was waiting for my turn while another customer asked for a piece of information. He was looking for sausage.
I need to provide you with some context here: in Tunisia, we don’t produce sausage. We have a similar product we call “Merguez”. When it exists, it’s almost never local.
The client was a tourist. So, the employee looked really confused since he didn’t even know the word. I saw it and quickly translated it. I felt he was relieved but still embarrassed. So, I added: ”Oh you don’t have to know it at all, you know! It’s not part of our locally produced food! He’s a tourist, and we forgot to tell you about it; it’s definitely not your fault!” And I continued talking to him about it so that he could form a better idea. His questions and comments were showing how much he was actively listening! I was impressed with his internal security. I can be so bothered by passive listeners! When I was about to go, he told me: “I wish all customers were like you” to which I answered: “No; I was the honored one!”
What I’m trying to say here is that I’m hoping this COVID-19 could truly trigger a magical shift, make people less absorbed and consumed by their personal concerns, give them space to be present and observe what’s happening around them!
We all spent 9 months in the mommy’s belly – okay maybe less in some particular situations. We were all fairly granted by the divinity the same internal gifts:
Our power of choice, the Principles Center, and our four forms of intelligence or seeds of greatness.
~ Reformulation of Stephen Covey’s work.
We were born in different environments we never chose in the first place – some way less privileged than others. We were differently and unconsciously conditioned, by the grownups – conditioned themselves. Some of us were harshly abused physically, emotionally or even both. Some others in a more subtle way. And, after a while, we all leave this body the same way.
The question is: “How would you want to be remembered?”
At the end of the day, we are no different. We all crave the same needs, and the best way to give back to the world would probably be by getting people to feel less offended and more valued.
What if we decide to make every single individual we’re interacting with feel they matter; that they have their place in this world? What if this was our greatest success?
Yes, I am maybe writing to you those lines with teared eyes and shaking hands; still with a heart full of the faith that a new wisdom era will be emerging out of this chaos…
With love, Myriam
Thank you so much for this beautiful piece, Myriam. I do believe that we all have a role to play not only now but afterwards (for those of us who will continue to live, come through safely). It’s been my deepest aspiration to be of love and service for all the days of my life-to touch lives with loving kindness. Thank you for broadening this awareness that I’ve held for a number of years now-that every single with another human being matters-is an opportunity to communicate that they are valued, heard, and seen. I’m with you 200 percent.
I’m not even surprised my lovely Laura, and feeling everyday so priviledged for being able to call you a dear soul sister 💙🧚♀️💜
Myriam, beautiful piece! I don’t know why I didn’t realize that you were from Tunisia before (probably because I hadn’t read your bio – silly me!). I have so many dear, dear friends in Tunisia. I have taught for the Bush Institute’s WE Lead program for years (a program that empowers emerging female leaders from the middle east and north Africa) and mentored several women in Tunisia. Are you still there?
Awww such a great news ! And yes, I’m currently located in Tunisia ☺️
Thank you for a very touching , yet inspiring post.
And thank you dear Larry for your generous heart and beautiful openness 💙
As usual, Myriam, my dear, just lovely and full of wisdom. Hopefully, as we begin to re-enter to the world-at-large, we will be in a different place. Thank you for this.💖
Thaaaanks lovely Darlene for the usual sweetness and uplifting words! Fingers crossed my friend 💙
Myriam, for sure this Covid has woken me up to the few but very important relationships I have which I’ve tried to connect with more feeling the vulnerability we are all feeling right now. A few have reached out to me and a few I’ve reached out to. I was surprised to find every single one of them needed to be heard, needed to share and vent. I find myself venting everyday, losing some focus, feeling overwhelmed a few moments, but mostly just keeping a feeling of everything’s going to be alright.
Thanks for your share. Very well said and valuable.
And thank you so much my lovely Laurie for being such a generous soul and for your continuous support anf uplifting words! I’m so glad the essay resonated! 🤗🧚♀️
Myriam, Even if this virus had never hit our shores it was and is right to care about others. The positive as you point out is that people are discovering people again. It stands to reason a lot of this newfound love for each other may fade once we are allowed to get back our lives again. I think it is possible to have an insatiable appetite for money and still care about others. The two in my mind fit perfectly together. One of my favorite singer/songwriters was a man by the name of Harry Chapin. Until he killed when a truck hit his car on the highway he had a very successful career in every regard including financial. However, Harry had a philosophy that the more money he makes the more money he could give away. I share that sentiment. With regards to doctors, I too hold them and have held them in very high regard. Thank you, Myriam, for writing and sharing your article. Please stay safe and well.
Thaaaanks dear Joel for having taken the time to write this beautiful adding! I’m grateful! 🙏☺️🙏
“It stands to reason a lot of this newfound love for each other may fade once we are allowed to get back our lives again.”
That would be the case when all the caring proofs and acts of kindness are coming from fear instead of being genuine and out of our Principles Center. That would be unfortunate indeed, because I know this is the case for many people. Dennis will be publishing a new article of mine going through this a bit.
“I think it is possible to have an insatiable appetite for money and still care about others.”
I would say it depends on our Center. If the center is “money”, then it will definitely be a conditional caring; many times just some ego’s shows. Now if our Center is the “Principles”, I would argue if we can even call it “appetite”, since having money will only be a means to live decently and contribute. I wrote an article about the link between money and happiness. Let me know if you want me to ask Dennis to publish it here!
Thanks again for stopping by 🌞
> I think it is possible to have an insatiable appetite
> for money and still care about others
If your appetite for money is insatiable, you only care for others as long as you can squeeze money from them (which in my experience is the norm). It is very old wisdom that you cannot serve man and mammon at the same time. You have to put one before the other.
If you put money before man you have chosen the right planet. Most others will struggle and suffer.
Thank you Myriam,
You indeed echo my thoughts that this is the demand for dignity in humanity and a real view of what world peace looks like. We are collectively in the same battle and are also being forced to see what really matters. Our birthright of dignity.
It resonates with many of my recents publishing’s as well.
It’s lovely to see that you can shine a light as well at the blessings of adversities.
Thank you and stay safe! 🙏P
Awww thaaaanks Paula for stopping by and for this valudable adding ! Your lovely compliment is meaning the world to me 🤗
Can you please share the recent publishings you’re talking about? Didn’t notice any! Thanks 🌞
See my profile here and on linkedin?
Okay but can you maybe direct me to a specific article? That would be great!
It doesn’t matter🤷♀️🙏
Well it surely does Paula! Otherwise, I wouldn’t have asked you ☺️
Just hit my profile? There’s too much to choose…😀🙏