What Choice Do We Have?

Today is selection day. Mostly a binary choice, A or B.

Binary choice can be conflicting and contentious. By nature, it is polarizing; dark-light, good-evil, hot-cold.

Our everyday choices, the ones we make that define our lives, the way we live, are much more plentiful, fluid, and complex. Our daily, often momentary choices are more grey than black or white, warm and cool rather than hot-cold, and more purple than red-blue.

The choice I am totally empowered to make each day and every moment – More good than evil. This is the phenomenal privilege graced to me in the complexity and fluidity of everyday life.

My choices aren’t reliant on institutional rhetoric. I choose people over politics and relationships over institutions. I choose creativity over control. I choose how I see you. How I treat you. My attitude. My beliefs. I honor your choices, agree, or disagree. What a great freedom. What a responsibility.

If I should choose to coerce you, then I am choosing to oppress you. If I hate your choice – I hate having choice itself. In such, my choice would be binary – me or you. It would be judgmental, right-wrong. It would be controlling. It would be ridiculous in my view, so I choose not to succumb to this external pressure, this limiting divide. I choose you – I choose choice.

Today is the eleventh election I have the right, the choice to participate in. This was a hard-fought right for many throughout history. When our first president was elected, only 6% of the population could vote. 1870, the 15th amendment granted rights – but not access to African American men. 1920, the 19th amendment added women. Seriously? – just 100 years ago! Prior to, during, and in many cases still, the institution that “serves” the people has treated PEOPLE horrifically. The institution exists for the institution. As racial and gender groups have fought for equality, rights, and choice to participate, the right of representation, the fight was people against the institution, and the close-minded, myopathy of limiting beliefs pitted people against people – and the institution remained relatively unscathed. Divide and conquer – it won.

The question for me; why are we still allowing the institution to divide us? Yes, again, almost is if cliché, good old Einstein nailed it, “We cannot solve problems with the same thinking we used when we created them.”


Today, the value chain has shifted, but the beliefs and structures have been slow to respond. The barrier is our quixotic view on leadership.

There is much to be done on this front, with big challenges Ahead…We must focus on growing capacity and prepare to adapt more rapidly than any other time in history. Change will happen with focus on Humans not more [institutions]. When structures need to change, the current benefactors of the old structures are most resistant. To lead change, they must change first. Most institutions are ill-equipped to adopt new models and remain in denial.

Love is the first barrier, the first gate to pass through. It is an inside job and a shift from within, a confident pursuit of that intuitive urging. It will not, it cannot, be impressed upon us from the outside. We must shed the false constraints, along with the battered voice of limiting beliefs and failed wills of the past.

Do we believe in what we are doing? Do we understand it? Are we giving it everything, growing personally and helping the other person succeed? Do we have a sense that it all adds up, that we are vital to the whole, and do we take responsibility? It takes divergent, creative thinking to bust through the status quo. Making a positive impact with creative thinking requires great awareness, and great awareness requires constant attention. Conditions are deep and fluid. Self-check on your beliefs, your energy, and the accountability of your actions.

We face a cultural disconnect between what is expressed and what is experienced.

There have been 6 presidents elected in the 11 elections I have voted. None of them changed anything significantly. Every four years, they raised the temperature of hate and divide, abused our conscience, and pummeled us with diversion – and largely stayed the institutional course.

So today, I am once again reminded of the grace afforded to me under this institutional blunder, Choice! And I choose you. I choose people. I choose love.

Vote, and make that binary selection today. And then smile at the person next to you. Exercise your real choice.


Mike Vacanti
Mike Vacanti
Mike believes, “It’s more than what we accomplish – it’s who we become along the journey!” His mission is to Lift Others, helping people discover their potential, embrace a growth mindset and achieve at inspired levels. Mike has transformed businesses and inspired people to perform at levels they didn’t think possible. Mike's known as a great listener and collaborative, creative problem solver. For generating speed and confidence through innovation and transformation. His current endeavors as advisor, consultant, and keynote speaker, are shifting the belief in what is possible and opening hearts to a better vision and future of business around the globe. Sharing his extensive career of invention, reinvention and highly complex business combinations, he consistently delivers on the belief that the heart of any organization is People – People drive results. Mike has released his new book, BELIEVERSHIP: The Superpower Beyond Leadership, and is the Founder of HumansFirst, a global community of positive change catalysts. Following many years in advertising and marketing, He launched early-stage start-ups & led M&A initiatives for publicly traded tech companies. Five-times he was thrust into the chaos of transformation and helped people navigate the doubt, fear, and chaos of significant change. His teams exceeded expectations, consistently beat the challenge, learned a lot and had some fun.

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  1. “If you want to tap into what life has to offer, let love be your primary mode of being, not fear. Fear closes us down and makes us retreat. It locks doors and limits opportunities. Love is about opening to possibilities. Seeing the world with new eyes. It widens our heart and mind. Fear incarcerates, but love liberates.” — John Mark Gree

  2. Such a timely reminder of the freedom of choice we have everyday, Mike. Focusing on my beliefs, values and my opportunity to create the life experience that values and puts people first, all starts with me, my choices and my actions to affect meaningful change aligned with my choices. I choose love. I choose people, I believe we can and will create better together.

  3. Wow…. thank you for sharing this choice that we can all make today, Mike! As I look around my community today, I see so much that troubles me. What you’ve reminded me so eloquently is that my choice isn’t dependent upon the behavior of others. The choices I make are dependent upon my beliefs, my values, and the expectations I set for myself. What an important message to take with me today. Thank you!

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