What Are You Resisting?

We get lost in ideas that we fix as facts and truths. Resisting reality. It’s uncomfortable — thankfully — because then we have a chance to see through the illusion.

What are you fixing as true, definite, or absolute?

Is it the ‘fact’ that person’s really annoying? Is it the ‘fact’ you’re no good at X, Y, or Z? Is it the ‘fact’ that nobody ever gets work done to the standards you think they should?

These are not facts. These are ideas. Momentary ideas. Fleeting, passing, transient. One tiny moment of experience. Now.

If it’s an idea you’re familiar with, the mind might grab hold of it and scan the environment to match it to the world ‘out there’. Given that Thought always creates reality moment to moment, it will find something in the world to match it to — it’s designed to.

Once a match is found it will say ‘it’s true, it’s a fact, a solid, definite fact’ — it WAS that person’s poor performance, they really aren’t capable. I was right. I knew it! And just to really prove I’m right, I’ll now find more evidence.

With a ‘they’re not capable’ tractor beam in place, evidence to confirm the ‘fact’ will be found. Nothing contrary will be allowed in. The illusion held steady.

But it’s not steady. Like a person standing in a rushing river, the constant movement of life will buffet your legs, knock you sideways, keep you desperately trying to stand straight in its wobble-inducing power.

The perfect design.

Because eventually the ‘I know’ mind gives up, it drops into the water, tired of fighting the flow. Now, something fresh and new is seen as the ‘fact’ washes away downstream in the torrent of other information that was always available. Information about you and about them and about the world.

Now you’re free in the flow to respond to what’s actually happening ‘now’. Free of the limiting illusion that there was a solid, fixed ‘fact’ in play. There never was, there never is.

So pause. Look for contrary evidence. Keep your eyes peeled for information that goes against what you believe.

When has that person actually been kind or funny or caring?

Where have you done X, Y, AND Z?

When has that person done a great piece of work?

Test it. The water’s safe.

With love, Helen

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Helen Amery
Helen Ameryhttp://wildfigsolutions.co.uk/
Reconnecting you to innate brilliance for a more fulfilling life. Disillusionment happens when, things that we took to be true, start to look less so. People, belief systems, ways of working, societal norms. As these cracks, in reality, start to show we often look around to see what else is available to make sense of this, and these moments provide the opportunity for great change and the ability to step into a whole new and fresh experience of life. I work with disillusioned people who’ve worked hard all their lives to climb the career ladder, increase their income, who got the family and the house and the car and…then they look around and realise something’s still missing. They don’t feel more fulfilled. They don’t feel successful. They don’t feel secure. Sometimes these things have even become worse. My career has developed through commercial HR into psychology-based coaching, and now my work goes beyond psychology to the fundamental truths behind our human experience. This is the final shift in perspective that frees us from the imagined limitations we’ve gathered through life and reconnects us to our innate brilliance. It’s the direct path that other development can meander us to. From here we find fulfilment, security and a feeling of success – and we find we’re able to enjoy everything we already had, and new things, in an entirely fresh way. My business is called Wild Fig Solutions because the Wild Fig has the deepest roots in the world and I always cared about getting to the heart of what was going on. Now this work is really that as it reconnects us to our heart at the deepest level and naturally rebalances us so that we use the brilliance of our head in the way it works best. I work with clients online, in one-to-one and group coaching programmes, to help them reconnect to their innate brilliance. See my book here: Let’s Get Honest About: Work