What song do we sing in private to the one (or the ones) we trust the most in our lives?
So you say, “I don’t ever sing in private because I cannot sing.” Really?
- Then what about those grinding song lyrics (comprised of the tune of negative words) on any given subject, or even worse, about a person?
- What about that habitual sing-song verbal gnawing on the earlobe of trusted loved ones and friends – that gnawing that seeks to influence the thoughts and feelings of others according to self-will and self-way?
- Oh, and what about the out-of-tune verses of justification and blame when the spoken truth about Self’s behavior hits too close to the heart of the matter (that matter that really needs to be changed)?
Again, what lyrics do we sing in private to the one (or the ones) we trust the most in our lives?
Lyrics Reflect Heart Motives
What if we honestly assessed our private conversations for content and tone?
- Of course the content includes the information, topic, or person we are talking about.
- Oh, and don’t forget the importance of the attitude we display in our discussions about the information, topic, or person.
Here’s the Deal: The “way” we choose to discuss the information, topic, or person almost always reflects our reason for doing it that way, especially reasons that are hidden in our motives, thus simply not obvious to others.
Here’s the Rest of the Deal: The lyrics of “self-will and self-way” reflect our heart motives – the outcomes we really want – by the way we choose to spend our words and use our influence.
Altogether, our words are received by others according to the actual or potential influence in the way we choose to present the information, topic, or person we are singing about.
- Are the lyrics of our words covered in the ooey-gooey junk of self-righteousness and manipulative motives – especially in private conversations?
- Are the lyrics of our words critical of people with chords of self-justification – especially in private conversations?
- Does the tone we use to communicate scream of murderous intentions – that of killing all credibility toward the ideas and value of others – especially in private conversations?
- Does the tempo of our continual sing-song theme seek to ultimately sever relationship with someone we once valued as a dear and trusted friend – especially in private conversations?
Here’s Another Deal: this kind of behavioral song always croons toward a break-up!
Whether we are intentionally laying the undermining groundwork in the minds of the one (or the ones) we trust the most, or whether we are genuinely oblivious to the power of our negative words, either way we are setting the stage for relationship break-ups.
If we are honest with ourselves, the root of this kind of lyrical undermining motive is usually associated with us not liking the truth someone has spoken into our lives. Maybe they are silently demonstrating truth through the way their genuine right behavior pricks at the lying motives of our hearts. Could it be so?
Potentially Profitable Ways of Delivering our Songs
What if our words really represented lyrics of songs with our names in the spotlight of stardom? Furthermore, what if delivering the songs of our lives meant we were spending our words for the whole world to clearly see? Even more, what if the way we chose to spend our words either created a Top 10 hit song or caused a song to become a tune known for its horrible negativity?
How would we choose to deliver the songs of our lives if we really had the opportunity to reap the benefits of a Top 10 hit song?
- What if we delivered words about others in a positive, beautiful lyric kind-of-way while having the best interests of others at heart – even in private conversations?
- What if we chose to remain silent when we have nothing but negative or demeaning tunes about others racing through our thoughts and feelings – even in private conversations?
- What if we wrote the chorus of our influence in life-giving encouragement toward the potential good in others, rather than focusing on the faults of others – even in private conversations?
- What if we sang honest lyrics about our self-willed motives, especially the ones that strive to prop up our own self-righteousness – even in private conversations?
- What if we stopped murdering the Messenger of Truth with the fruit of our tongues – even in private conversations?
- What if we stopped the Blame and Shame game of our rapped-out words and simply belted out rhyming rap lyrics about taking responsibility for our own actions, words, and behavior – even in private conversations?
Could it be that these potentially profitable ways of delivering the lyrics of our words have the potential for producing a few best-selling tunes? You know, those tunes that remain stuck in our heads for days on end. These are lyrics that deliver joyous moments, some conversational laughter, and brighter outlooks for everyone in our circle of influence – even in private conversations.
What Marks are Your Tunes Leaving on Earlobes?
And, what outcomes are you reaping from the lyrics you are producing in and around your life – especially in private conversations?
Do those you trust the most in your life have any semblance of a remaining earlobe from the perpetual gnawing of your grinding lyrics? Look closely and see; you might be surprised to learn that the lyrical grinding marks on the earlobes of those closest to you are actually your marks.
Let it not be so any longer. Learn the lyrics of some best-selling hit songs and change your tune – especially in private conversations.
Even more, consider making it right with those whose hearts you have so painfully and silently damaged by the gnawing marks of your grinding self-righteous lyrics.
Oh, it really does matter in matters of the eternal lyrics that will be sung about your life. One more thing: those eternal lyrics will not be sung in private, rather they will be sung for the whole world to hear!