Want a Successful Long-Term Relationship? –Take Some Tips from the Carters’

Some of the best advice I offer to couples that I consult with is …. Implement strategies from other successful long-term couples.  Why reinvent the wheel?  Of course, not every technique or suggestion you will utilize but why not try out a few strategies to see which ones work best for you?

President Jimmy and Rosaline Carter have been married for over 75 years this past July 2021.  They are the longest marriage of any American president.  They are still very in love and still going strong.

Here are a few tips the legendary long-term marrieds offered as suggestions for keeping your long-term relationship strong and alive.

They say it’s important to make the other person your partner in everything you do. They say that if you want to be in a true partnership that you must consult with your partner on all major life decisions.   This is sound advice indeed.  I can recall my own grandparents who were high school sweethearts and married for over 60 years, having their nightly discussions about life and family affairs and how they would proceed.

Next is the all-important advice of … don’t go to bed angry.  I have heard this many times throughout my life and can attest to the power of making this priority in your relationship. Wise couples understand that fights will still happen but it’s how you respond to them that is important. When you do fight on occasion, it is good to talk it out and try to reach some kind of an understanding so that no one goes to bed angry … allowing for hurt and angry feelings to stew all night long.

Lastly, the Carters’ recommend making sure you enjoy each other’s company.  It may sound simple yet many people don’t really consider if they like their partner outside of the bedroom, for example. Sharing common interests, spending quality time together in nature, or doing hobbies you enjoy together are great places to start. Reading together or to each other, making sure to eat breakfast together to start your day off right are just a few suggestions. Pick what works best for you so that you don’t ever end up taking your partner for granted.

Do you already have some relationship ground rules that have helped sustain your partnership? Please comment and share below… We can all be better together.


Melissa Van Oss
Melissa Van Oss
Melissa Van Oss is a MidWest transplant to Washington, D.C. She embraced city life becoming involved in a private underground world that few see inside of, she pushed past her own fears, insecurities, and barriers, and came out the other side transformed into a confident, adventurous spirit… she awoke her aura of Seduction. Melissa is a three-time bestselling author, speaker, human relations strategist, and scholar. She is the author of the Seduction as a Second Language Series. Melissa uses her experiences in the world of Seduction to help others understand Seduction As A Second Language and how it translates into more confidence from the bedroom to the boardroom. When viewed as an intellectual pursuit, understanding Seduction will lead you down a path toward personal transformation, evolution, and higher consciousness. There is a difference between social Seduction and seducing someone in our personal relationships, Melissa shares how to tell the difference between them and how to use them to your advantage. Melissa has been interviewed for Life Altering Experiences on Roku TV as well as being featured in The Hollywood Times. She has also been a guest on the podcasts - “What Every Business Needs to Know Right Now,” “Analytical Chaos,” and “The Guy Who Knows a Guy.” She also recently spoke at the Monetize Your Matter Summit. She works with individuals, high-level executives, entrepreneurs, as well as former professional athletes. Melissa has collaborated on the creation of several live events and spoken at numerous workshops. The Indie film in which Melissa was a consultant won numerous awards as well. Van Oss attended Kent State University, where she graduated with honors with a Bachelor of Science degree. She currently lives in Washington, D.C.

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