The baker and the farmer story provide a great example of the importance of being honest in life.
The farmer supplied the baker with one pound of butter every day and the baker supplied the farmer with one pound of bread. One day the farmer became suspicious that he received less than a pound of butter. Upon weighing the butter, it was indeed less than a pound. The furious farmer complained to a judge about the dishonesty of the farmer.
Upon confronting the farmer, the judge asked for an explanation. The farmer said that he weighed the bread and measured the same amount of butter in return. The weight of bread determines how much weight of butter I send back.
Reactions are equal to actions. Cheat and you are cheated. Be honest and you get back honesty. Treat others well and they shall treat you well.
Honesty lasts, but dishonesty does not. Cheat customers and they shall churn off. Be honest with them and they shall stay.
The above story reminded me of my own story.
My Own Story
When I was in high school the fellow student (Ali, same as my first name) sitting next to me was excellent in drawing. I lacked this talent. In contrast, he was doing poorly in math and English grammar. I was top of my class in these two subjects.
One day he approached me and suggested that in exams he would draw for me when needed such as drawing cells in biology and maps in geography. In return, I would allow him to copy my answers in math and English grammar.
The first exam was math. I made sure that his eyes could reach my answers to copy them. He was so happy that he got a high mark in the exam.
The next exam was biology and one question required drawing the cellular structure of a plant. The other Ali made sure that I could not even see his drawing He ignored me completely and did not exchange the exam papers to draw the cells for me.
Post the exam he apologized because he could not help for the teacher was eying us. He boasted to our classmates that this time he should be first in class.
The next exam was English grammar. He had the courage to remind me of our agreement and that I should honor it. My reply surely was yes. He did not realize my intention to take revenge on him. I made sure during the exam that his eyes could access my answers, which deliberately were wrong. For example, I answered a question on had given by writing it had “give” and dropped the n letter. I wrongly answered all the questions and he copied them with a smiling face.
Later, when the teacher distributed the marks he scored zero and I scored full mark because I corrected all my answers discretely just before the exam time was over without letting him see the corrections. He got furious and asked the teacher why he scored zero when all his answers were similar to mine. The teacher then asked him “but how do you know that your answers are similar to him”? He got confused and replied because he asked me about the correct answers. The teacher pulled my exam paper and showed him that they were not the same.
The moral of this real story is that we cannot build honesty on cheating principles. What we build on moving sand shall collapse eventually. A cheater shall cheat and honesty and cheating are on opposite ends and shall never meet.
The problem is that we focus on the immediate profits and delights, but forget about the long-term losses and pain. Cheating may be rewarding today, but is unrewarding and painful tomorrow,
Being honest is the way to build lasting relationships.