Our truth. Is it different than the real truth? How do we perceive life, the world, other people? How can one person see the world completely different than we do?
We each view our reality based on the core values we claim and live by. What makes my reality better, or truer than yours?
This question has led to many ethical debates. Most of us live by the basic set of rules/guidelines put in place by society. These can be created by families, communities, localities, countries, religions, and more. In our book; Journey Well, You Are MORE Than Enough: (RE)Discover Your Passion, Purpose, & Love of Yourself & Life we discuss boundaries that require us to determine and live by our own set of core values. As we say, you must know your core values in order to live by them. To this end, it’s imperative to surround ourselves with those who, if they do not share all our values, they at least respect our boundaries.
Boundaries are crucial when we have people in our lives who aren’t reliable for being fully truthful with us. We’ve all known people who are less than honest. People like this are difficult, if not dangerous, to share our truth with. Often, we can discern in their voice if someone is bending the truth. As Dr. Alison Escalante mentions in her Forbes article, Research Finds A New Trick To Telling If Someone Is Lying: Their Voice, speech tones, and patterns change when people aren’t being honest. While we may be good at picking this up in conversation, the audible cues we receive go out the window with texting or email. This is one reason why it’s important to be in person if/when you need to have a heart-to-heart conversation with someone when sharing your truth with them. Reading the situation is vital. A well-read situation makes you less vulnerable.