If you think about your relationship with others, the foundation of the connection is trust, truth, forgiveness, and love. Anytime we are in disharmony within ourselves or those in our life, one or more of these four parts of how we feel, how we act, or what we desire, is missing.
TRUST – Trusting others or even our own choices can be easier said than done. How many times has trust been broken for you? Because it has happened at least once, a part of you now has difficulty with trust. It can be in your conscious mind or embedded in your subconscious. The challenge is to know when to trust and when to use discernment.
“Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most essential ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.”
~ Stephen Covey
Key: Building your higher awareness skills can be a tool for being assertive when trust becomes a barrier. The more you become aware of the signs (such as body language) of someone not trustworthy, the better you can avert situations leading to distrust.
Untrustworthy:
- Pay attention to your gut instincts
- The fluctuation in someone’s voice will give you a clue about their sincerity and credibility
- Erratic behavior in the other person is a red flag
- You perceive various masks the other person is using to impress
Trustworthy:
- You sense compassion and humility
- Boundaries are respected
- There is a relaxed nature
- Gratitude is openly displayed
- Learning is important and openly accepted
TRUTH – Truth is complicated, because it is forever changing, and we speak half-truths, false-truths, and even truths we believe in, but we may later learn or realize is not true. The ability to ascertain where your conversations, communication, and intake of information fits on this spectrum, can be a way to understand the element of truth and its variables.
“To say of what is that it is, or of what is not that it is not, is true.”
~Aristotle
Key: Become an observer vs. participator in your daily experiences. The more you listen and watch, the more you will learn about the truth. There is much to understand because of the dynamic of an individual with the interwoven web of the macro environment that influences what/how we think, perceive, believe and piece together the information brought to us.
Interpretation: Truth is composed of a web of beliefs. What may be true for you, is not necessarily true for me. A conundrum whereby emotions get entangled and reactions ensue.
Consider: We only know what we know, until we learn something different that counters what we know. Then we must reassess what we knew, how it fits in our paradigm, which has now shifted, and our view has broadened.
Knowledge: A very powerful tool, which has an infinite depth giving us the ability to be in the world with wisdom and guidance. Instead of assumption or conjecture, take time to invest in the truth, as it truly is, beyond the veils, smoke & mirrors, walls of deception, and masks.
FORGIVENESS – Trust can be valued in a way that does not disappoint, and truth is the twin going hand in hand for the best outcome. Along the path of these two intertwined, working out the levels of intensity, forgiveness assists in easing the transition into harmony.
“True forgiveness is when you can say, ‘Thank you for that experience.”
~Oprah Winfrey
Key: Forgiveness is not excusing someone for their behavior, it is freeing you to be at peace. There is a bridge that crosses over the river of emotions, on one end is where the path begins where you are currently standing. As you traverse the walk to the other side and step over the threshold of anger or resentment, the gift you have given yourself is far greater than the pain of holding a grudge.
Action Steps:
- Replace negative feelings with thoughts that uplift you
- Meditate on visualizing the person or situation in a positive light
- Let go, breathe, and just be in the moment
- Positive thinking with detached compassion
The Law of Forgiveness: Forgiveness empowers and heals the one who forgives. This law works with the energy of allowing, transmuting all thoughts, feelings, emotions, and actions expressing through us. The anchor weighing you down is released through forgiveness, and the unconscious programming is removed. There are no longer triggers, in their place is connection at a much more harmonic level.
LOVE – The ultimate desire for every person in every situation is love. Not necessarily romantic love, but love infused with trust, truth, and forgiveness. When we are living in the higher consciousness of universal love, there is only peace and serenity. Communication is fluid, health is strong, the mind is clear, and joy is felt.
“Love is the energizing elixir of the Universe, the cause, and effect of all harmony.”
~Rumi
Key: When we can have a love for life itself in all its splendor, beauty and opportunity, only then can we be at peace. It is about fully expressing the self through courage and strength to be the best version of ourselves.
Trust is the hand giving us the truth while forgiveness makes room for love.
