Transforming Lives With Emotional Leadership

One of the most significant goals for every coach is to bring about a transformation in the lives of their clients.

In order to effect this change, the coach must take on the role of a leader. Leadership, as defined by Wikipedia  is,”the ability of an individual or organization to “lead” or guide other individuals, teams, or entire organizations.”

A leader who shows emotion, and is able to influence or change a client’s feelings and emotions, is very powerful.

This is why emotional leadership is often referred to as the ultimate leadership skill.

Sources of Emotion

The emotion that’s generated in your client can come from different sources. Let’s explore five of these sources.

Other People:  You, as the coach, can show your client how she can get emotions from other people, as well as situations around her.

Activities The Client  Engages In: You can show her how to effect emotional change by engaging in various activities.

Yourself: You can become the source of the emotional change when you show your client deep love and caring.  I genuinely care about my clients and they have no doubt that I do. They know that I am personally and emotionally invested in their success. Make sure that your clients know that as well.

Themselves: This one may take some time, especially if your client is experiencing a lot of self-doubts and lack of belief in herself. Eventually, as you work with her, you may be able to help her develop a positive view of herself so she can get this emotion from herself.

Life: All of the internal and external sources mentioned above make up Life. As you lead her to embrace the various sources of emotion, she will be able to find fulfillment and inspiration from everything around her.

How to Use Emotional Leadership

✅ Help your client to view matters from another perspective. This is also called reframing. Her viewpoint may be adversely affecting and influencing her emotions. When you are able to influence her to see things from a more empowering perspective, you will be able to shift her emotions at the same time.
✅ Help your client to meet her basic human needs at a higher level. Those basic needs that all humans have are the need for Certainty, Variety, Love & Connection, and Significance.
✅ When you allow your client to have a feeling of certainty or comfort within the coaching environment, you will provide emotional leadership. This is further advanced when they’re also able to exert some control outside of coaching.
✅ While your client needs certainty, she also needs variety in order to maintain a proper balance and not become bored. You provide emotional leadership and bring about a transformation when you help your client to find variety in your coaching so she is able to grow.
✅ Love and connection can come from you as said previously, but you can also help them to find and enjoy love and connection outside of the coaching session. This is especially helpful if you’re able to maintain that feeling for longer periods of time.
✅ Everyone wants to feel they’re important and are significant to others. How can you help your client to feel significant? My making her know that she’s important to you, but even more, help her to empower her belief in herself so that she feels important in herself.

When you’re able to effect these changes in your clients, you will be transforming lives with emotional leadership.

Would you like to learn more about the four basic needs humans have and how to make sure you’re meeting those needs on a high level? Go ahead and schedule a 20-minute Discovery session with me to learn more.


Yvonne A. Jones
Yvonne A. Jones
YVONNE is a Personal Business Coach | Relationship Marketing Strategist| Amazon Best-Selling Author| International Speaker. She is the Founder of the 50 and Wiser Community on Facebook – a Group of women who want to DO more, GIVE more, and BE more. As a certified Strategy and Accountability Coach, she helps Entrepreneurs, Coaches, Consultants, and Small Business Owners eliminate limiting beliefs, create a business they love, and have fun doing so. Her favorite client is a highly-motivated woman 50 and Wiser who has been in business for approximately one year and is ready to empower herself and move to the next level. Yvonne’s background is in banking, Human Resources, administration, and Customer Service. At 52 years she handed in her resignation and walked away from Corporate America to start her own business full-time. She has experienced the joys and challenges of owning multiple businesses. She was listed on as one of the “Top 100 Most Social Customer Service Pros on Twitter” and on “One of the Top 15 Most Influential Customer Service Experts to Follow on Twitter.” Despite the recognition and promotions received while in corporate life in Jamaica and America, she now considers herself “unemployable” due to her love of being her own boss and inspiring others to pursue their passion and dreams. Yvonne’s mantra: “Focus on relationships; the money will follow.”

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