Have you ever heard the saying, “You can never get too much of a good thing?” Apparently, not everybody feels that way.
I remember when I hit my teenage years, suddenly I became “too much.” I was too emotional. Too loud. Too opinionated.
I carried my too-muchness with me to college, where I went on to try too hard, care too much, feel too deeply.
I’m not sure why I didn’t get it through my thick skull that the world was sending me the message to tone myself down, but it was probably because I was too preoccupied.
I’ve since learned to regulate some of my too-muchness. Maybe that’s called maturity? But I’ve noticed that many people don’t survive that stage of life unscathed.
How many of us learn to shrink ourselves back before we’ve even begun to claim who we are? Most of us, I fear.
I’ve discovered, over the years, that my too-muchness is a gift. Like anything, our gifts can serve us or be our Achilles heel, so learning how and when to use them effectively is critical.
When I seek to know myself better, I look for what’s hiding underneath.
Under my too emotional, too caring, too feeling, is a deeply sensitive soul who has learned to tap her empathy to serve others.
Under my too loud and opinionated, lies a voice that cries to rally the world. Who hungers to speak for those who have no voice.
Under my trying too hard, simmers an inextinguishable drive to make a difference and keep moving forward.
What I’m continuing to learn is that the key is not to be less of who I am, but rather harness, shape and hone the best of who I am.
So here’s to all of you who are too much! And here’s to all of you who have, somewhere along the way, learned to silence all too much.
The time has come to claim your gifts. To learn how to wield all that you are in this fight for a better world. We cannot afford to bury the best of ourselves in an effort to make others more comfortable.
When it comes to human beings, there is never too much of a good thing.
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