Time’s Up For Men To Speak Out Against Sexual Harassment

Male bystanders must break their silence

Let’s face it men: more of us need to “man-up” by proactively helping to end the scourge of sexual harassment and assault in 2018. Any real cultural shift entails a real mind shift by males. Men should help maintain and build upon the momentum of the #MeToo movement and Hollywood’s #TimesUp initiative, both of which are empowering women to break their silence about sexual harassment and assault. Men must join women in making their voices heard, rather than being silent bystanders.

That’s because silence by men who witness sexual harassment is arguably akin to complicity. Therefore, men of good conscience should not allow themselves to be unwitting accomplices to male monsters who prey on women and girls.

In short, more men must stop being part of this perennial problem and start being part of the solution. This means standing up and speaking out to support female victims who are brave enough to come forward and make their voices heard.

In short, more men must stop being part of this perennial problem and start being part of the solution. This means standing up and speaking out to support female victims who are brave enough to come forward and make their voices heard. This also means swiftly shaming and punishing male perpetrators for their despicable deeds.

It’s outrageous that in today’s modern 21st-century workplace and society there are men who regularly treat women as second class citizens simply based on their sex. Unfortunately, some men unconscionably or unconsciously view sexual harassment as nothing more than a laughing matter. But there’s nothing funny about it. Now it’s time for more men to follow in the footsteps of Time’s “Silence Breakers” by breaking their own silence about right and wrong.

One Male Silence Breaker

Terry Crews is a male actor in Hollywood who was one the few men in his industry to initially support women in the crusade to end sexual harassment. Time included him among the “Silence Breakers” as Person of the Year 2017. Part of his motivation was allegedly being sexually harassed himself.

According to Time, “Crews realized that men had a responsibility to lend credence and support to these women’s claims. Almost without thinking through the consequences, Crews tweeted out his own story; in his viral series of tweets, he became one of the first men to join the chorus of women speaking out about harassment.” Time writes that Crews clearly understood why “it’s imperative that men advocate for women’s rights.”

Men are fathers, sons and brothers of women and girls. As such, we have an inherent social and moral responsibility to forcefully address this issue. How? By sending an unequivocal message to other men that sexual harassment and assault will no longer be tolerated, period!

Crews told Time: “I was really angry because these women were being discounted. These women were being discarded. Their pain was just — it was nothing…these women know they weren’t alone.”

Crews deserves accolades for his bold and beneficial actions. Now, more men must be put on notice that sexual harassment will not go unnoticed. This is especially significant considering that decades of voluntary employer training, policies and procedures to prevent workplace sexual harassment have too often proven ineffective. The bottom line, as stated by Crews: “Men need to hold other men accountable.” He explained, “I came up in the cult of masculinity, in football and the sports world and entertainment. You’re in places and guys are saying the wildest thing. People need to be called on that. You need to be held accountable for the things you say, the things you do.”

Defining Sexual Harassment at Work

Let’s be clear about what constitutes unlawful sexual harassment in the workplace. The U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC) states:

  • “Sexual harassment is a form of sex discrimination that violates Title VII of the Civil Rights Act of 1964. Title VII applies to employers with 15 or more employees, including state and local governments. It also applies to employment agencies and to labor organizations, as well as to the federal government.”
  • “Unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature constitute sexual harassment when this conduct explicitly or implicitly affects an individual’s employment, unreasonably interferes with an individual’s work performance, or creates an intimidating, hostile, or offensive work environment.”
  • “Sexual harassment can occur in a variety of circumstances, including but not limited to the following: The victim as well as the harasser may be a woman or a man. The victim does not have to be of the opposite sex. The harasser can be the victim’s supervisor, an agent of the employer, a supervisor in another area, a co-worker, or a non-employee. The victim does not have to be the person harassed but could be anyone affected by the offensive conduct.”
  • “Unlawful sexual harassment may occur without economic injury to or discharge of the victim. The harasser’s conduct must be unwelcome. It is helpful for the victim to inform the harasser directly that the conduct is unwelcome and must stop. The victim should use any employer complaint mechanism or grievance system available.”

3-Point Message

All men need to be more mindful about the sexual harassment epidemic and “man-up” to end it. Again, this means speaking out both publicly and behind the scenes to other men, particularly those prone to committing such shameful behavior which ultimately gives all men a bad name.

Therefore, men of good conscience and goodwill should stop staying silent. Rather, more men should vociferously shame sexual harassers and more employers should take stronger actions to proactively prevent hostile environments for working women. Those men who need to speak out most include CEOs and public figures of all industries. It’s imperative that more men lead by example.

Male leaders in corporate America, government, media and entertainment should set the tone from the top-down. In fact, it’s long overdue for more men to take responsibility by standing in allegiance with women. Everyone should know that violating the statutory rights of women in the workplace will no longer be tolerated in any industry under any circumstances.

Moreover, “Zero Tolerance” needs to be more than just empty rhetoric. It’s not enough for HR officials and mid-level management to highlight employee handbooks periodically, if at all, and then put those written policies and procedures on a shelf to gather dust. Employment policies and procedures to prevent sexual harassment need to be revised and reiterated, as well as buttressed by annual or semi-annual training.

But neither public nor private sector employers alone can be counted on to end this persistent problem, as history has shown. That’s why more “ordinary Joes” should send the following three-point message to their male co-workers, colleagues, subordinates, friends and family:

1) Sexual harassment is a cowardly and reprehensible act.

2) Any man who sexually violates the rights of women will be swiftly called out, ostracized and humiliated in public by their male colleagues.

3) Not only will lewd behavior towards women no longer be condoned or ignored, but neither will retaliation and casting blame on victims.

Final Thoughts

Put simply, men of high moral character should shame men of weak moral character into being gentlemen. This means valuing and respecting women in the workplace and inevery other place. As men, we must recall that victims of sexual harassment are our wives, mothers, daughters and sisters. Further, it must be understood that unwanted sexual advances toward women should never be justified with cowardly excuses for boorish behavior, such as:

  • It’s just lurid “locker room” conduct/talk,
  • It’s just an immature attitude of horseplay, or
  • It’s just a juvenile “boys will be boys” mentality.

Any long-lasting cultural change means it must become embedded within the norms, values and moral fabric of society that sexual harassment is uncool, unseemly, unlawful and un-American.

Thus, men must refrain from crossing the vivid line at work separating conduct which is socially acceptable toward women versus behavior which is sordid and salacious. Moreover, men who intentionally cross the legal boundaries prohibiting sexual harassment should always be held accountable and called out for it.

Women in the workplace must always be treated by men with dignity and respect, from the C-Suite to the factory floor. Men should not blame victims of sexual harassment for speaking out to assert their rights and report unlawful activity. Rather, men should join women in castigating perpetrators of sexual harassment to help make the workplace a better place for everyone.

Women deserve no less.


David B. Grinberg
David B. Grinberg
David is a strategic communications consultant, ghostwriter, and literary PR agent on issues of workforce diversity, equal employment opportunity, race and gender equity, and other social justice causes. He is a former career spokesman for the U.S. Equal Employment Opportunity Commission (EEOC), where he managed media relations for agency headquarters and 50 field offices nationwide for over a decade. Prior to his public service at the EEOC, David was a young political appointee for President Bill Clinton in the White House: Office of Presidential Personnel, and Office of Management and Budget (OMB). A native New Yorker and University of Maryland graduate, David began his career in journalism. You can find David online via LinkedIn, Twitter, Medium, Good Men Project, Thrive Global, BIZCATALYST 360°, and American Diversity Report.

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  1. Thank you for this much needed article. Something that is frequently overlooked is the acceptance of women that accept the behavior as well. What I often think would be helpful is for men to look to women as to the approriate behavior we, as women, would like to see. There are frequent instances where women act as men to fit in to make it to the top. That behavior can be just as destructive to women’s success and results in a very silent, unnoticed form of harrassment. I have written an article “Mean Girls” that goes into more detail if you are interested in further definition.

    • Thanks for sharing your important insights and the article link, Raissa. I’m heading over to read it now…

  2. As a managing director of the company I had to measure with some cases of harassment to women, and I must say, despite our internal manual for strict rules and training courses and meetings on the subject, it was not easy to deal with and resolve the problem.
    To change the mentality that accepts and tolerates physical and sexual abuse requires the collaboration of everyone, of politics, of law, of school, of men, of all of us.
    But I remain convinced that fundamentally we must shift our attention to the “masculine question” that all gender-based violence underlies, so as to operate on the roots of the phenomenon and interrupt its “transmission” to the new generations.
    The commitment must be to analyze, from different angles, the reasons and motivations that “explain” the violent behavior of men and to reiterate the need for a change of optics that can transform “the masculine” from problem to resource in the fight against violence.

    • Thanks very much for taking the time to share your valuable feedback, Aldo. You make some excellent points which are most appreciated.

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