Thoughts and Ifs


Your thoughts, contemplations, ponderings, ruminations, or meditations. Some real introspection here! Self-examination of your emotions and mental well being! Your conscious perceptions of your thoughts and your conscience relation the world you live in!

Being conscience is the critical survival weapon we all need to learn how to use… the ability to harness this power… To understand one’s thoughts and the fact that they can be controlled is a game changer! THOUGHTS ARE NOT REAL! They are just thoughts. If you think about it. The word “if” supports this! “IFS” DONT EXIST EITHER! They are merely possible outcomes. Simple! This is where the control can occur! This is where you can make a difference! If you are thinking about things you do not like! This is where you intervene! CHANGE THE THOUGHT! CHANGE THE LIFE!

Remember the Supremes?…in the lyrics to their hit! “REFLECTIONS” “Reflections of. The way life used to be… “…Trapped in a world. That’s a distorted reality… Reflects a hurt I can’t control. Cause although you’re gone I keep holding on…”

What are you reflecting on today?

Make it good and make it real! Share and Care in the comments!

Have a wonderful day everyone!


Paula Curley
Paula Curley
I am a deep thinker, lover of thoughts, and prolific writer sharing my words. In sharing, I am caring. I am a member of the human race with an appetite to motivate, inspire, empower, and provoke thinking. I am compelled to a vision that we are all here for a reason, life is like a deck of cards... “My cards. My deal. Life is learning the game!” #opism What is OPISM? I have come up with this term as my nickname is Op and they are my own quotes representing a moral doctrine belief system. Thus...Op+ism=Opism. #opism. My professional experience is disbursed across industries from financial services and sales to that of personal and emergency care. As one who has trained and coached, mentored, and taught; it has become a passion within to witness and feel joy in the achievement and success of others that I have been associated with. I am a lifelong learner and have created and facilitated various training materials. It is through such experience that I discovered the power of positive feedback in both professional and personal manners. I am self-disciplined, accountable, determined, humble, loyal, and adaptive; but above all, I value my integrity! I am a decent human being. It is with my greatest pleasure to share with others the power of positive words.

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  1. I like your question Paula……I’m reflecting on my morning reading, which was comprised of reviewing a number of notes I took over the last few years from various sermons I’ve heard. Thoughts are important……we choose what we dwell on. Thinking results in action. The Bible tells me to not be conformed to the world but to be transformed by the renewing of my mind. How is my mind renewed? It depends on what I choose to think about, meditate on, watch, read, study, etc. Thanks for sharing.

  2. Paula, you share exciting insight here about thoughts, and it makes me think about a neuro nugget that Melissa Hughes shared recently. She talked about the vicious and virtuous cycles of thinking or, as I’ve come to understand it on a basic level, positive and negative thoughts. We have them both, and one can outweigh the other. But, there are things that we can do to help become more positive thinkers — for example, starting our day with intention and being grateful.
    We cannot escape our thoughts, and we can even let them confine us. But through our actions, we can reframe things and change how we think – good, bad, or indifferent. I guess what I am trying to say is that we have the power to choose, and our brains are powerful tools! Thanks for making mine think a little deeper today.

    • This is great feedback. Thank you so much. I agree the brain is so powerful but it’s what we feed at the matters. I always try to start to do with the gratitude attitude too. There is always something good
      Good night from Canada nowzzzzzzzPaula,!:)

  3. I appreciate this invitation very much, Paula! Cultivating what I like calling my inner fly on the wall continues to be essential in all the healing and transforming I’ve been engaged in these last five years-and over the course of my lifetime when I realize that I’ve had this Witness/Voyeur inside of me all the time! The journey to self-awareness, to inner liberation remains a profound adventure that will not ever end. I am not my thoughts. I am not my feelings. I’m not my body sensations. I’m not my body. I am that which watches and feels all of these things. So freaking COOL!! Looking out through eyes of wonder, awe, love, compassion, I see with a wider lens the miracles all around me. Living like everything is a miracle-thank you, Albert Einstein: “There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” and Thank you for this invitation and reminder!! There’s so much more to life than attaching to thoughts-most of mine seem to be there to distract me from living with an open heart in love, gratitude, and joy!!

  4. Hi Paula, when I initially posted my comment I was out and about but I wanted to make sure you saw that I acknowledged seeing your article. Thoughts by and large can not be controlled. They are unquestionably real. Even when you are sleeping your brain is still processing information. Ifs do exist as well. I am sorry, Paula but I must disagree with just about everything you wrote as the information is not correct. I have a great deal of respect for and consider you to be a dear friend but things like thought control are a very scary and dangerous proposition. History is littered with those who wanted us to control our thoughts to conform to their way of thinking. We must have our own thoughts whatever they may be but we should NEVER try to control them.

    • I respect your opinion Joel, the very fact that you are able to reiterate with this feedback says to me that you can control your thoughts. To “speak your mind” some might say.
      I’m not saying we should not have thoughts. Just that thoughts are not real… but what you believe is. Being able to chose what thoughts you believe in is control.
      If one is able to question their thoughts, treat to me is reasoning. We are not acting on impulse or instinct alone. Deductive reasoning, conscious effort and selective processing all play a part in our methods of thinking.
      If one is holding a gun… would it not be important to have control?
      Thanks for reading and sharing here Joel.
      Have a wonderful day

    • Paula, without getting into a lengthy non-productive discussion I will again reiterate my thoughts are real. The term thought control has many serious as well as dangerous connotations to it. Certain thoughts or actions come straight from G-d. As a religious Jew, my beliefs are radically different than the overwhelming number of writers.