This Is Me, This Is Us, And Miles To Go Before I Sleep

While sitting on a rock overlooking the Atlantic Ocean on the shores of The Gambia in June 2002. I recently arrived from Canada to participate in a social-economic project, teaching introduction to computers.

I began to ask myself, how was it possible that for the second time I was now divorced.

After all the first time, I was not perfect and I didn’t want a divorce, therefore it was not my fault. And yes the 2nd time it was the same, I was not perfect, I didn’t want the divorce, not my fault.

Then my moment of reckoning, then the universe spoke. “what is common about this situation.” As I raised my hand, I replied, that would be me. I spent the next 10 years of research, self-reflection, prayers, and work on myself. I was the common denominator and the cause in the matter of my two divorces.

A number of tv news anchors and others in “white society” have stated a  belief that we are not racist and this is not us. And we are better than this.

Well, what’s common about the situation? What is common is our denial of white privilege and white fragility. And until we in the white society accept our individual and collective cause in the matter of racism, will not see the end of racism is me and this us!

Stopping by Woods on a Snowy Evening


Whose woods these are I think I know.  
His house is in the village though;  
He will not see me stopping here  
To watch his woods fill up with snow.  

My little horse must think it queer  
To stop without a farmhouse near  
Between the woods and frozen lake  
The darkest evening of the year.  

He gives his harness bells a shake  
To ask if there is some mistake.  
The only other sound’s the sweep  
Of easy wind and downy flake.  

The woods are lovely, dark and deep,  
But I have promises to keep,  
And miles to go before I sleep,  
And miles to go before I sleep.

Chris Ward
Chris Wardhttps://advantage10.com/
Chris is a Global Citizen and brings empathy, passion, service, and vision for nearly 40-years of global IT leadership to the table. Chris recently un-retired in 2019 from Siemens/Atos and launched a new career as a Serial Entrepreneur. His latest ventures are; Founding Partner at Advantage10 which is a global business education company providing service to entrepreneurs and innovators. Advantage10 simplifies business by applying systems thinking to projects and showing how business can be a place of motivation and healing. Chris is co-owner of Viraone.com, makers of a superfood product. He serves as a Board Advisor on two India-based Digital companies. FutureXReady.com MalgusDigital.com. He divides his “un-tirement time between Jamaica and Canada. He Serves as Volunteer Digital Record Department for the National Baha'i Community of Jamaica And Cayman Islands. “The earth is but one country & mankind are its citizens”. - Bahá’u’lláh