Have you ever tried to drive downhill on a foggy and rainy day on a slippery and icy road?
You know well that driving under such conditions is difficult. You lose control of the car and eventually, you lose your self-control with fear, uncertainty, and loss not knowing what to do.
Driving in such conditions is risky. Surprisingly, some of us do this, making our somewhat controllable lives uncontrollable, and lose everything.
We mislead ourselves that going down is always easier than going up. Yes, it is when we walk up ladders or mountains, but we go up in controllable and slow steps.
We commit small mistakes but they could ruin our reputation.
We focus on our weaknesses to lose self-esteem. This is what Biljana Savic expressed elegantly “If we accept our strengths, instead of constantly examining where we are much worse, it seems to me that we will not destroy our self-esteem”.
We have confidence in what we do and lack competence sometimes. This leads to what I called “The Banana Scale of Ignorance”. We tend to throw away ripened banana with dark spots with confidence but lacking the competence of knowledge that we throw away what we should be eating.
Think of the examples above.
When we lose control of our thinking and actions, we may control nothing. We drive our lives in the dark on a slippery and foggy road. We become the incompetent drivers of our paths in this life. We allow outside circumstances to steer us randomly.
I used to be a customer of a supermarket for years. He delivered to my home three expired items. When I called the manager to complain he said that we could not return what we bought.
We spread the news to our community to beware of what the supermarket did to be more cautious and avoid accepting expired items. Sadly, the supermarket is closing doors now.
Why do we behave in such ways?
Why do we give others control of our lives?
Mind you, the fall down is faster, terrible, and costly and the effect is going bankrupt in values, reputation, and in money.