The Science of Happiness

Can you smile your way into a happier life? If you make a concerted effort to change how you feel about a situation, will you really stop being bothered by everything that’s wrong? Self-help authors have been preaching this sermon for decades and while naysayers are busy saying nay, neuroscientists and psychologists have found that there is indeed science that proves the value of the practice.

I recently saw a CBC documentary called You Are What You Act that talks about the changes in the brain that occur when you pretend to be something you are not. For example, you can actually fake smile your way to happiness and fall in love by gazing longingly into someone’s eyes. You can also feel more confident and powerful by practicing power posing. There are groups of people all over the world taking laughing yoga, power posing courses and courses designed to increase feelings of love and empathy and what makes this especially interesting is that there is actual scientific evidence that demonstrates that you can change your brain chemistry and build new neuropathways simply by acting differently.

None of this was really all that new to me. Dale Carnegie, the grandfather of the self-help movement, used to say, “If you want to feel more enthusiastic, then you have to act more enthusiastic.” The repetition of that phrase is incorporated into the Dale Carnegie course and demonstrates that repeating it with enthusiasm automatically makes you feel more enthusiastic. Words and emotions are a powerful combination. This is a message that started with Carnegie and continues to be the fundamental message that drives the self-help industry. “Act like you already have it,” they say. “Feel the emotion of already being successful.” No matter whose book you pick up, all of them will tell you that changing your mindset and acting differently will lead you to reach your greatest potential.

I have spent the last few years reading up on neuroscience, neuroplasticity, and also on the emerging branch of psychology called positive psychology.

Traditional beliefs about the human brain have been that the brain you are born with is pretty much as good as it can ever be, but there are several scientific studies that indicate that notion is actually false.

Scientists now know that the brain is plastic and as such can be rewired by conducting exercises that involve changing what you do and even deliberately changing the thoughts in your head. Norman Doidge and David Eagleman have both written books on this, and there are others, too. Studies have shown you can out-think Parkinson’s Disease, Alzheimer’s Disease, depression, anxiety, learning disorders and more. Additionally, much work is being done to get the medical community educated about alternatives to medication for even the most troubling neurological disorders. Neuroscience is pointing toward a new reality. Nobody needs to be locked in a diagnosis anymore. Change your brain chemistry naturally and you can change the direction of your life.

Shawn Achor is a psychologist and author of a book called The Happiness Advantage. Achor conducted numerous studies on human potential and happiness to study the relationship between success and happiness. Achor ultimately debunked the myth that happiness will come once you land the big job, or reach that amazing goal. What Achor discovered and was able to verify scientifically, was that happy people are more apt to become successful people and not the other way around. He was also able to show how our emotions and attitudes affect those around us. Well-known personal development leader, Jim Rohn is famous for saying that you will be the average of the seven people you spend the most time with. Through his experiments, Shawn Achor proved that this is true. Our moods and attitudes are contagious.

That news doesn’t surprise me. I noticed some time ago that depressed people are depressing to be around and that genuinely happy people are nice to be around. I have first-hand experience with the chronically depressed. My father, my sister, both husbands, and even my daughter and stepdaughter all have had their battles with depression. I know it’s tough. We on the sidelines are often helpless to make a difference.

My daughter, like most girls at the age of 15 was embroiled in teenaged angst but the sad truth is that she actually became depressed as a young child of six. Her depression was triggered by a move to a different school and neighbourhood. My daughter lost her social network and she was much taller than the other kids in her class, so she felt very out of place. I tried everything I could think of to help her, but she remained miserable for the next ten years. At the age of 10 or so, she was diagnosed with ADHD, so she went on Concerta to help her control her impulsivity and attention. At 15 she was prescribed antidepressants and was given therapy for obsessive-compulsive disorder. Her anxiety levels were very high and she was very unhappy. She went off the rails for a while. Two weeks after her 16th birthday she left home. I was heartbroken and at a loss as to how to help her. I was worried sick for her safety and well being.

To her great credit, 16-year-old Celeste soon had an epiphany that few people ever have. She realized that she alone was responsible for her happiness and that if she wanted to be happier, then she should eliminate her relationships with depressing people, stop talking about being miserable and start acting happy. She took herself off all medication and took responsibility for her own mental health by changing her attitudes and behaviours. When she was about 20, she told me what she did and said to me, “Now at work, everyone calls me Smiley.” Celeste? That sad-faced kid who moped around for most of her life? Yes. She did it on her own and never looked back. Today she’s 23, she has a good job and she’s still smiling.

Interestingly, Celeste also told me that part of her personal wellness routine is to make sure she reflects on the good things that happened during the day. She said that before she falls asleep, she names three nice things that happened that day. These can be really simple things, like petting her dog or getting a smile from a stranger. Celeste has never read self-help books and nobody told her what to do. She has intuitively figured out how to be happy and interestingly, there is actually science that supports the efficacy of her daily practices. Now, just to be clear, I am not advocating that people dump their medication, but I will tell you that if you act happy and focus on good feeling thoughts, you will definitely become happier over time. Celeste will tell you that, too.


Renée Cormier
Renée Cormier
Renée Cormier has had a long-standing passion for business and for helping others be the best they can be. It is her mission to show people how changing their thinking changes all areas of their lives. She is a certified coach and facilitator who shows you how to move forward and achieve success. Renée happily shares her business and personal development expertise through a variety of training and coaching programs that create unsurpassed value for her clientele. Would you like some help setting goals and getting things done better and faster than ever before? Does the talk in your head sometimes get in your way? Renée has a proven and guaranteed method for helping you change your thought habits from negative to positive. Empower yourself to have more positive relationships, better business and career opportunities, and a happier life overall. Access unlimited coaching services for a flat fee! Renée is also a published author with additional expertise in public relations, marketing communications, adult education, sales, leadership, and employee engagement. Renée is able to leverage her varied experience to support her clients in multiple ways. There is nothing like being able to see clearly through multiple lenses.

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  1. Thank you for this, Renee. I cannot agree with you more. I talk about an exchange with a tired teller, inviting her to smile. It changed the trajectory of the conversation. I speak and have written about this.💖

  2. I don’t think there are ingredients to be happy. Probably it will not be a career, a bank account or a villa with a swimming pool that will make us happy, but more a propensity, as well as genetic, also character. I am convinced, in fact, that someone is more inclined than others to be happy. It’s not just about having an optimistic view of things, but also having “achievable” expectations and desires. If a balance is reached between these aspects, it is likely that one can be happy.
    The number one rule is to understand what you want and measure yourself on the real possibilities of realizing that particular desire.
    Rule number two is to find the positive side of what we live every day.
    Rule number three is to understand what we like and dislike about our life. Only each of us can know and only each can decide if he wants to be happy by listening to his wishes.
    There is also a fourth rule to keep in mind: the happiest people are those who cultivate good friendships. Perhaps because they are accompanied by positive and happy people, because this is also an aspect that should not be underestimated: surrounding yourself with people in a good mood is important.

  3. Thanks for this useful article, Renee! This reminds of the gratitude practice that positively impacted grumpy, older men in just 21 days. I love that neuroscience backs up what some people have intuitively been practicing in their lives-like your daughter. Also, makes me think of the song “Whistle a Happy Tune” from the musical, The King and I–lyrics have a similar message-“Whenever I feel afraid, I hold my head erect, and whistle a happy tune so no one will suspect I’m afraid…”

    I also think that there’s a place for the safe and healthy expression of grief and anger for those who have suffered many traumas and not been given “tools” to do flow these through their hearts and beings. Knowing that we can cry tears of sadness and roar out words of anger (to a pillow or inanimate object) or rip up recycling materials or take our bodies for a long stomping hike etc. frees the human heart and psyche from the very real build up unresolved past emotional pain. Processing it all through on the daily becomes a great maintenance plan. Cautionary on the “should-ing” of Positivity. I embrace the full range of human emotional expression and notice how profound the energy qualities of each of them are-how they are attached to beliefs and lived experiences— How they all weave together and then can flow on through as the witness watches them from the seat of the soul. Connecting with the witness consciousness continues to be the most powerful way I have found to allow emotions to be Energy In Motion!! Like clouds passing through the sky!