The Plan: To Learn About Ecological Programs and Help the Community Maintain the Platform

As a believer in our oneness with the Universe, volunteering for an ecological and Gaia-friendly program seemed to be a great fit for me!

Discovering the vegan diet, learning about permaculture, and living as a minimalist — which I have already started adopting some time ago — were my expectations from my first program. Interestingly, the circumstances decided otherwise. I had a serious physical health issue and decided to talk about how poorly it was managed in complete transparency during the breakfast daily round table.


My Heart Breaks a Little Whenever I Recall How Harsh My Trip to Brazil Was on My Baby Girl Mimi

I had the impression it was an empowering experience until it wasn’t. Counting our blessings is undoubtedly a healthy manifestation unless it is used as a tool to numb unprocessed feelings.

Fooling ourselves with affirmations and practicing gratitude while lacking self-awareness may only give birth to chaos, in the long run, I suppose.

Appealingly, as much as being grateful for the tiniest things in our life attracts goodness and has the power to inspire folks we interact with when we are genuine and intentional, it is paramount to speak about the bad and ugly, as well.

Effective communication would, preferably, be backed by a high level of emotional intelligence so that we might express our frustration, disappointment, anger, disgust — you name it — healthily; in other words, without offending people.

It is difficult to attain and requires a friendly subconscious program, to some extent, the first place.

Nonetheless, even when it is not a possible option, I believe that describing one’s truth and emotional garbage should be the norm except for bossy and cover-up cultures.

When the culture of an organization mandates that it is more important to protect the reputation of a system and those in power than it is to protect the basic human dignity of individuals or communities, you can be certain that shame is systemic, money drives ethics, and accountability is dead.

~Brené Brown.

Interestingly, my honesty about my situation and stating undeniable facts encouraged the tribe members to speak up about old, unresolved, and deeply impacting conflicts.

The language constraint made it unbelievably hard for me to follow the discussions. Still, I could get some context and, most importantly, feel the emotions and warmly comforting those in need.

The sharing gradually became very personal involving childhood traumas and awkward stories that triggered considerable amounts of compassion for some and confusion — reaching the level of indignation when it comes to a member of the community.

Given that I cannot change history, or heal the wounded folks without their consent and readiness to work on the root causes or their suffering, or offer therapy to some others displaying symptoms of serious mental disorders, I realized all that I could control was the following:

  • Giving enough space to those who were sharing their hard feelings and deepest concerns through actively listening to them; thus, providing them with the needed psychological air.

Instead of listening to respond, we listen to understand. Instead of listening to the words, we listen to body language and emotions. Instead of listening with the ears, we listen with the heart.

~ Stephen Covey

  • Validating their emotions and modeling empathy instead of the mirroring tactic used by narcissists shamelessly; hence, making them feel truly seen.
  • Sharing gently that we might spend 24 hours exploring the topics intellectually without getting any palpable result, that forgetting about righteousness and finding excusing for hurting others’ feelings would merely contribute to more frustration.

When screwing things up, it takes a great deal of character strength to apologize quickly, from the heart, rather than out of pity. It needs a lot of security. The internal security arising from unchangeable universal principles is stable and gradually becomes limitless. We are not afraid of people taking advantage of our exposure. We won’t care because our new self-love value is courage, replacing the unhealthy ego need for protection.

  • Telling true stories about servant leadership in organizations and implicitly enumerating the fundamental principles of a win-win culture in opposition to a bossy one, with the hope of provoking some serious reflections.
  • Suggesting to offer a translation of their marketing main channels home page. The initiative involves the following detailed action plan.

1. The marketing responsible prepare a presentation about the strategy.

2. The group discusses it during a brainstorming session and everyone shares their values and what they want to see in the mission statement. As a result, there will be a gap analysis and then a reformulation of the current statement.

3. The marketing strategy should align with the new statement and include the mid-term plan (i.e. growing their food) to attract possible partners.

4. Social media to be adapted accordingly in Portuguese before the translation could start.

Final words

The last days haven’t been easy with all the tension created by the multiple honest and heavy discussions. Anyhow, it appears, from my own experience and the wisdom of all the incredible human beings whom I’ve been privileged to know either personally or through their work, that confrontation and breaking the crippling silence s the only way to bring about any change.

Preparing the foundations for a culture transformation would be the legacy that I’d leave for the tribe, hopefully.

Myriam Ben Salem
A recovered perfectionist. A passionate. A grown kid. A writer. A storyteller. An edutainer. A lifelong learner. A speaker. An unapologetic truth-teller. A stoic philosopher. More details about the story of my life? With pleasure! I am a mentor with a deep passion for empowering whomever I interact with, helping others unleash the servant leader in them and find their voice they would use to leave their legacy. Ice on the cake, the growth happens implicitly through simply modeling it. I spent 9 years working at a high level of consultancy and management in the Information Technology, Human Resources, and Research sectors, only to realize that my perfectionism syndrome was damaging myself and those around me. After three burnouts, an existential crisis, and having almost committed suicide following being harshly abused by a malignant narcissist, I dramatically embarked on a painful journey to drastically transform the miserable individual I was. I was saved at the last moment by the grace of my pure love divinity through an out-of-body experience making me see all the lies of my unhealthy ego, realize this gigantic universe was not revolving around my small self. Most importantly, I was able to visualize I was here for a mission. That was the moment of my migration from being religious to spiritual. The butterfly took time to emerge though. The caterpillar had to heal the very obvious scars, gain some strength to start the most rewarding investment of the whole existence: destroying all my limiting beliefs both about myself and the world, and rewiring my invasive subconscious program I never wrote in the first place! I am deeply passionate about everything life has to offer. I educate through any possible means on the importance of reconnecting with our common birth’s gifts making all of us seeds of greatness only numbed by the life-time conditioning. Writing is my very favorite and most preferred tool deployed for my mission. The topics I explore are in the nexus of stoic philosophy, psychology, neuroplasticity, and epigenetics. Common denominator? The quality of the subconscious program! I am described as vivacious, confident, compassionate, authentic, funny, warrior, vulnerable, grateful, bold, emotionally mature, showing integrity with an abundance mentality, and always seeking the best way forward for myself and every person I get the privilege to interact with.








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