The Plan: To Learn About Ecological Programs and Help the Community Maintain the Platform

As a believer in our oneness with the Universe, volunteering for an ecological and Gaia-friendly program seemed to be a great fit for me!

Discovering the vegan diet, learning about permaculture, and living as a minimalist — which I have already started adopting some time ago — were my expectations from my first program. Interestingly, the circumstances decided otherwise. I had a serious physical health issue and decided to talk about how poorly it was managed in complete transparency during the breakfast daily round table.


My Heart Breaks a Little Whenever I Recall How Harsh My Trip to Brazil Was on My Baby Girl Mimi

I had the impression it was an empowering experience until it wasn’t. Counting our blessings is undoubtedly a healthy manifestation unless it is used as a tool to numb unprocessed feelings.

Fooling ourselves with affirmations and practicing gratitude while lacking self-awareness may only give birth to chaos, in the long run, I suppose.

Appealingly, as much as being grateful for the tiniest things in our life attracts goodness and has the power to inspire folks we interact with when we are genuine and intentional, it is paramount to speak about the bad and ugly, as well.

Effective communication would, preferably, be backed by a high level of emotional intelligence so that we might express our frustration, disappointment, anger, disgust — you name it — healthily; in other words, without offending people.

It is difficult to attain and requires a friendly subconscious program, to some extent, the first place.

Nonetheless, even when it is not a possible option, I believe that describing one’s truth and emotional garbage should be the norm except for bossy and cover-up cultures.

When the culture of an organization mandates that it is more important to protect the reputation of a system and those in power than it is to protect the basic human dignity of individuals or communities, you can be certain that shame is systemic, money drives ethics, and accountability is dead.

~Brené Brown.

Interestingly, my honesty about my situation and stating undeniable facts encouraged the tribe members to speak up about old, unresolved, and deeply impacting conflicts.

The language constraint made it unbelievably hard for me to follow the discussions. Still, I could get some context and, most importantly, feel the emotions and warmly comforting those in need.

The sharing gradually became very personal involving childhood traumas and awkward stories that triggered considerable amounts of compassion for some and confusion — reaching the level of indignation when it comes to a member of the community.

Given that I cannot change history, or heal the wounded folks without their consent and readiness to work on the root causes or their suffering, or offer therapy to some others displaying symptoms of serious mental disorders, I realized all that I could control was the following:

  • Giving enough space to those who were sharing their hard feelings and deepest concerns through actively listening to them; thus, providing them with the needed psychological air.

Instead of listening to respond, we listen to understand. Instead of listening to the words, we listen to body language and emotions. Instead of listening with the ears, we listen with the heart.

~ Stephen Covey

  • Validating their emotions and modeling empathy instead of the mirroring tactic used by narcissists shamelessly; hence, making them feel truly seen.
  • Sharing gently that we might spend 24 hours exploring the topics intellectually without getting any palpable result, that forgetting about righteousness and finding excusing for hurting others’ feelings would merely contribute to more frustration.

When screwing things up, it takes a great deal of character strength to apologize quickly, from the heart, rather than out of pity. It needs a lot of security. The internal security arising from unchangeable universal principles is stable and gradually becomes limitless. We are not afraid of people taking advantage of our exposure. We won’t care because our new self-love value is courage, replacing the unhealthy ego need for protection.

  • Telling true stories about servant leadership in organizations and implicitly enumerating the fundamental principles of a win-win culture in opposition to a bossy one, with the hope of provoking some serious reflections.
  • Suggesting to offer a translation of their marketing main channels home page. The initiative involves the following detailed action plan.

1. The marketing responsible prepare a presentation about the strategy.

2. The group discusses it during a brainstorming session and everyone shares their values and what they want to see in the mission statement. As a result, there will be a gap analysis and then a reformulation of the current statement.

3. The marketing strategy should align with the new statement and include the mid-term plan (i.e. growing their food) to attract possible partners.

4. Social media to be adapted accordingly in Portuguese before the translation could start.

Final words

The last days haven’t been easy with all the tension created by the multiple honest and heavy discussions. Anyhow, it appears, from my own experience and the wisdom of all the incredible human beings whom I’ve been privileged to know either personally or through their work, that confrontation and breaking the crippling silence s the only way to bring about any change.

Preparing the foundations for a culture transformation would be the legacy that I’d leave for the tribe, hopefully.


Myriam Ben Salem
Myriam Ben Salem
I am deeply passionate about everything life has to offer. Writing has been my very favorite means to educate my audience, captivate their attention, talk to their emotions, and make them relate and take action. I have been honored by working as a columnist for BIZCATALYST 360°, an Award-Winning life, culture, and biz new media digest, serving as the global hub for enhanced performance and well-being, during 2020. Also, I am a contributing author in Mayhem to Miracles: True Stories of Courage, Triumph, and Peace. I am so in love with writing that I have a peaceful smile drawn on my face whenever I start visualizing the books I will be writing for whoever will be tempted to discover an inclusive philosophy breaking with all the stigmas! I was born in Tunisia, a small country in North Africa. I did pretty much everything earlier than the average: walking, talking, singing, dancing. Promoted throughout my entire education, I was also the leader of every end-of-year party. At some point, after working several years for multinational companies as an engineer, team leader, project coordinator, and product owner while always being a top performer, I figured out I was feeling miserable despite the 'perfect external image'. That marked the starting point of an existential crisis followed by an episode that triggered my re-birth and the beginning of the most rewarding adventure of my whole existence: re-writing my subconscious program and reconnecting with my true self. I was saved at the last moment through an out-of-body experience making me see all the lies, realize this gigantic Universe was not revolving around me. Most importantly, I was able to visualize I was here to leave a legacy like all of you, no matter how big or small! The butterfly took time to emerge though. Today, I identify myself as a Universal Citizen. Like-minded and light-hearted people are what I call home. I am deeply passionate about everything life has to offer, and was granted the edutainer qualifier: a combination between education and entertainment! I educate on the importance of healing unsuspected traumas, seeing our limiting beliefs and biases with honest lenses, finding one's purpose and a principled mission that goes beyond the self, and unleashing the hidden potential so that to leave our legacy for the generations unborn. I have been using a panoply of means that could vary from explicit ones such as mentorship, speaking, and writing, a skill that emerged naturally during my self-actualization process to implicit mediums like storytelling, how I daily show up in the world and model servant leadership! Writing is my very favorite and most preferred tool deployed for my mission. The topics I explore are in the nexus of stoic philosophy, psychology, neuroplasticity, epigenetics, and pretty much any topic involving human behavior. Common denominator? The quality of the subconscious program. You may have a look at some of my works published on my website; Set Yourself Free.

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