I find the most rewarding journey is that of the self to discover one’s strengths and weaknesses.
However, I find that the missing emphasis is on finding the weaknesses in strengths and the strength in weaknesses.
There is no strength without weakness and no weakness with no strength. We are polar people like a stick with one positive end and one negative end.
It is this discovery of self that helps in many areas in life such as forming teams. We need the negatively charged weaknesses of one team member to attract to the positive end of another team member. If tram members do not align this way then the like charges of team members repel each other and the team disintegrates. This is what Harvey Lloyd referred to as hydrophilic and hydrophobic teams.
If we do DISC Analysis for any person we may notice his strengths and weaknesses. DISC stands for Dominance, Influence, Steadiness, and Conscientiousness. Not a single person is equally strong in all of them and mostly one prominent strength, one with average strength and the remaining other two being weak.
It is my belief that for the DISC Analysis to improve then we need to find the weaknesses in our strengths and the strengths in our weaknesses.
It is blinding to consider a strength without its weakness or a weakness without its strength.
- My father had a strong personality, but was very dedicated to his family. He became over-worried and reacted in extremes when say one of his kids became ill. Emotionally he was weak.
- If you tend to explain everything in detail you have the weakness of not delegating work to others. This results in stress for being overloaded with work and making others weak by overly depending on you
- If you are very creative then you may lose your ability to focus on what needs to be done.
- Alan Culler provided one great example “If I am extraordinarily good at detail, I might miss the “big picture.” This is the weakness embedded in a strength.
- Charlotte Wittenkamp offered another great example. Would you call being great at problem-solving a weakness? Normally we consider it a strength.
But ask any person who needed a good listen how they felt when the person they asked to listen immediately jumped to offering suggestions, and this strength suddenly became a stumbling block for the relationship.
- Harvey Lloyd offered another example. Behavior/habits are always making a statement. Repetition distances us from understanding what the question is, much less the answer.
- If you are too kind then you become exposed to exploitation.
The lesson is that our tendency to build on strength leads to excessiveness and the emerging weaknesses.
This problem shall stay with us for we tend to build on our strengths. This leads to excessiveness which in turn allows our weaknesses to surface out.
What do you think? Please share your thoughts.