The Key To Human Connection – Just Be Honest

I’m 47, nearly 48 years old. I wear second-hand clothes or those I design myself.

I am a certified eccentric, living life in my own way, to my own beat.

I live in an old cottage where nothing matches, there are no straight walls and I’ve given up trying to keep on top of the cobwebs.

I spend my days treading a fine line between chaos, complete madness, tears, joy, frustration, genius, incoherent rambling, exhaustion, and frenzied activity.

I love deeply, I’m extremely sensitive, I have the concentration span of a gnat, I’m impatient, loyal, unpredictable and extremely curious.

Some days I’m sorted, I have cracked life and feel on top of the world. Other days, I’m a complete failure and utterly clueless about what the f*ck I am doing with my life.

But the one consistent thing I am is honest. Honest about who and what I am.

I do not ever want to hide my flaws, be ashamed of my story or lose my voice. And those people who love me can do so in the absolute knowledge, that what they see, is what they get.

That’s where true love, deep connection and contentment is to be found – not in the beautifully airbrushed, superficial illusion of life, we often see, because people are just too scared to show themselves, lest they see who they really are.

Just be yourself always. There really is no other choice, if you want the chance to live fully before you die.


Nik Davis
Nik Davis
NIK DAVIS is a business transformation expert and has spent 20 years in the corporate world. Her comfort zone is order, logic and applying analytical tools to solve complex problems. She is also a keen observer of life, a writer and eccentric. Nik has recently returned to the world of work after taking a career break to spend time with her family. Upon her return, she found that her perspective had changed, as had the world she was returning to. Nik decided to carve out a new place in that world and mould some of it to fit her too. Nik sees life from quirky angles, shaped by experiences and the vast amount of knowledge we now have access to. She likes to write about her experiences and observations. To ‘tell it how it is’ and to find a more authentic way to live, whether in our professional or personal lives. Nik often talks about finding ‘The Third Way’. It’s a philosophy about life, having a personal life as well as a career, making money and being socially generous, being logical and sensitive, living by the rules of a society but not being afraid to challenge them, inspiring others to feel good but not for your own ego, giving rather than taking. Nik wants to make a difference to this world by getting people to see things differently, to try new ways of working but most of all, to re-discover our true selves and therefore reach our true potential. Nik also has two other persona’s: nikdavis which is where Nik writes about her deeply personal experiences of life. Nik runs a facebook group alongside this website to create a safe place for people to discuss the topics that are raised in her blog. Nik’s second persona is Lilly Isabella and this is where she shares her passion of fashion and design.

SOLD OUT! JOIN OUR WAITING LIST! It's not a virtual event. It's not a conference. It's not a seminar, a meeting, or a symposium. It's not about attracting a big crowd. It's not about making a profit, but rather about making a real difference. LEARN MORE HERE



  1. WOW…..that is one powerfully honest post, Nik. Many thanks.

    Honesty is one of the most important attributes in life. It gives us peace of mind where we’re not troubled by the lies, we tell. By being honest, people will always trust and respect us. It is wonderful to experience that honesty strengthens, bonds and creates more meaningful relationships.

    “True honesty is hard. Throughout my career, I’ve faced moments where I’ve needed to take an honest look at myself and face some very uncomfortable realities.”Les Brown

    “Make yourself an honest man, and then you may be sure there is one less rascal in the world.” Thomas Carlyle

    “Honesty is more than not lying. It is truth telling, truth speaking, truth living, and truth loving.” James E. Faust

    • Thank you for your support Jonathan – I love the quotes, you have inspired me with these! All the very best Nik

  2. I love that you shared these thoughts with us, Nik. Here’s to letting our inner nakedness shine and never being afraid to embrace the good, the bad, and the ugly. It is part of us, and there is beauty in our imperfections.
    Here’s to us and being our authentic selves!

  3. I really appreciate your honesty and vulnerability, Nik. To be honest with ourselves about all parts of ourselves, to grow that part of us that watches the rest of us, others, life, continues to be such a liberation. I cannot imagine not embracing every part of me and being willing to be transparent. I discover I’m not alone in being human. Wow. What a revelation. We think we’re the only ones with quirks and foibles, weird thoughts, sensitivities and we are not. Reading your article felt like breathing fresh air. Keep speaking from your heart/mind as this brave act becomes an invitation for others to live true to themselves and free. Thank you for your article!

    • Thank you Laura, your comments are food for my soul. I will certainly keep doing my best to keep writing from the heart. All the very best Nik x

  4. You sound like my kind of person to know and spend time with. Thank you for inviting me into thought around the concept of just being ourselves and meaningful authenticity. It feels timely and right for me. Wishing you the best, Nik!

    • Hello Maureen, I’d be delighted to spend time with you! So pleased this resonated with you. Take care, Nik x