I’m 47, nearly 48 years old. I wear second-hand clothes or those I design myself.
I am a certified eccentric, living life in my own way, to my own beat.
I live in an old cottage where nothing matches, there are no straight walls and I’ve given up trying to keep on top of the cobwebs.
I spend my days treading a fine line between chaos, complete madness, tears, joy, frustration, genius, incoherent rambling, exhaustion, and frenzied activity.
I love deeply, I’m extremely sensitive, I have the concentration span of a gnat, I’m impatient, loyal, unpredictable and extremely curious.
Some days I’m sorted, I have cracked life and feel on top of the world. Other days, I’m a complete failure and utterly clueless about what the f*ck I am doing with my life.
But the one consistent thing I am is honest. Honest about who and what I am.
I do not ever want to hide my flaws, be ashamed of my story or lose my voice. And those people who love me can do so in the absolute knowledge, that what they see, is what they get.
That’s where true love, deep connection and contentment is to be found – not in the beautifully airbrushed, superficial illusion of life, we often see, because people are just too scared to show themselves, lest they see who they really are.
Just be yourself always. There really is no other choice, if you want the chance to live fully before you die.
WOW…..that is one powerfully honest post, Nik. Many thanks.
Honesty is one of the most important attributes in life. It gives us peace of mind where we’re not troubled by the lies, we tell. By being honest, people will always trust and respect us. It is wonderful to experience that honesty strengthens, bonds and creates more meaningful relationships.
“True honesty is hard. Throughout my career, I’ve faced moments where I’ve needed to take an honest look at myself and face some very uncomfortable realities.”Les Brown
“Make yourself an honest man, and then you may be sure there is one less rascal in the world.” Thomas Carlyle
“Honesty is more than not lying. It is truth telling, truth speaking, truth living, and truth loving.” James E. Faust
Thank you for your support Jonathan – I love the quotes, you have inspired me with these! All the very best Nik
I love that you shared these thoughts with us, Nik. Here’s to letting our inner nakedness shine and never being afraid to embrace the good, the bad, and the ugly. It is part of us, and there is beauty in our imperfections.
Here’s to us and being our authentic selves!
Absolutely Laura and thank you so much for your supportive feedback.
I really appreciate your honesty and vulnerability, Nik. To be honest with ourselves about all parts of ourselves, to grow that part of us that watches the rest of us, others, life, continues to be such a liberation. I cannot imagine not embracing every part of me and being willing to be transparent. I discover I’m not alone in being human. Wow. What a revelation. We think we’re the only ones with quirks and foibles, weird thoughts, sensitivities and we are not. Reading your article felt like breathing fresh air. Keep speaking from your heart/mind as this brave act becomes an invitation for others to live true to themselves and free. Thank you for your article!
Thank you Laura, your comments are food for my soul. I will certainly keep doing my best to keep writing from the heart. All the very best Nik x
But the one consistent thing I am is honest. Honest about who and what I am……
This is truly a powerful message. Strong Ink my friend.
Thank you Larry – always such a supportive and compassionate voice, you are much appreciated
You sound like my kind of person to know and spend time with. Thank you for inviting me into thought around the concept of just being ourselves and meaningful authenticity. It feels timely and right for me. Wishing you the best, Nik!
Hello Maureen, I’d be delighted to spend time with you! So pleased this resonated with you. Take care, Nik x
“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”
– Bernard M. Maruch
I love that quote, thank you Noemi
Every night I examine my conscience and ask: Was I truly honest with everyone I met today?
that’s a great practice to get into Lynn – I will test myself on that, thank you, Nik