The Importance of Learning How To Love Your Shadow Self

Dearest hearts we want you to enter into a new state of well-being. As you spend progressively more time feeling good, your capacity for good increases. Your ability to let more love into your life becomes bigger and your desire to spend more time around uplifting people and situations increases. However, there’s another part of yourself that requires your attention. In order for the spiritual journey to be complete, fulfilling and enlightening you cannot pick and choose the parts of your being that you wish to interact with. The true spiritual journeyer analyses and makes peace with every aspect of their being. Not content to merely feel overjoyed by the loving parts of themselves that reflect well on their person, they dig down into the dark parts where the unsavory parts of themselves are hiding and they bring the light of love to those areas. Unless you are willing to address every aspect of the self and offer love and acceptance, you will merely be a passenger along for the ride on your spiritual journey. We want you to experience total fulfillment, not a cursory drive-by.

Taking ownership is a position of power. Assigning blame is a position of weakness

Taking ownership is a position of power. Assigning blame is a position of weakness.

In order to receive the most benefit from your awakened state, you must adopt the total acceptance and responsibility policy. This means that you address and take ownership of those parts of yourself that are less than pleasing. However, the successful, spiritual supplicant will not assign blame. Taking ownership is a position of power. Assigning blame is a position of weakness. No one likes to be blamed, yet the ego’s defensive posturing tries to pit you against yourself and then goes on to invite shame to the party. Once both shame and blame have made themselves known every individual is now busily retreating from both ownership and responsibility of the situation. This is because shame and blame bring judgment. Therefore, instead of conscious acceptance and beneficial change, you now have active denial and the unconscious belief that there’s nothing that can be done to correct these unpleasing aspects of yourself. Once this belief system is cemented in, the shadow aspects feel untreatable, something to be endured, that shameful thing that you must hideaway. Now instead of stepping into your power and shining brightly, you’re stepping into the shadows hoping no one will notice you or call attention to those less than pleasing aspects of yourself.

As you move through each lifetime, different challenges are presented so you may grow by interacting with them. Not all of these interactions are pleasant nor are your reactions appropriate. No one learns anything from a non-responsive environment so your world responds to your choices

Understand that the physical journey is agreed to for the purpose of growth not as a means to acquire more material possessions.

We want you to pull back the curtains, shine the light on your darkness and set yourself free. Begin your complete awakening and your journey to freedom with bravery. Understand that it requires courage to look at and repair that which is not pleasing. Give yourself permission to go slowly and carefully and honor all that you are by refusing to judge yourself by your shadow self. Understand that the physical journey is agreed to for the purpose of growth not as a means to acquire more material possessions. As you move through each lifetime, different challenges are presented so you may grow by interacting with them. Not all of these interactions are pleasant nor are your reactions appropriate. No one learns anything from a non-responsive environment so your world responds to your choices. Sometimes you choose to feel powerful and respond with love. Other times fear will rise to the surface and your insecurities will force you to respond with cruelty and from a defensive place. These experiences and reactions are then gathered together to form your belief system which then forms into your operating program. Your, “go-to” on how to respond to different situations. Within this program are both your high and low choices, your loving and fear-based responses.

Say to yourself, “I see that you’re afraid of (state the problem) and you choose to react defensively when this problem arises. However, as long as you react, instead of analyze, the problem will always hold all of the power.”

If they are allowed to proceed forward unquestioned and unchallenged, you’ll develop a rigid belief system that lives in fear of the mistakes, failures, and cruelties you’ve engaged in across time. However, when you do the work to provide an attitude of acceptance toward all parts of yourself, you’ll create an atmosphere of flexibility and flow. When you approach yourself with love and acceptance you don’t gloss over the darkness or look past the shadow self. Instead, you give the dysfunction a chance to come forward by promising it an audience. Say to yourself, “I see, self, that you’re afraid of (state the problem) and that you choose to react defensively when this problem arises. However, as long as you’re reacting to the problem, instead of analyzing it, the problem will always hold all of the power.” Now gently take a look at the situation you fear, at the dark aspect of yourself you’re hiding and ask yourself, “Why? Why do I feel this way? What can I do to relieve this pain? And how can I offer healing and understanding to the beautiful being that is me?”

It’s safe for all of yourself to come forth into the light of love.

There is no darkness too dark for the light of unconditional love to penetrate. There is no shame or guilt too demeaning for unconditional love to bless. There is no fear so powerful that it cannot be defeated by unconditional love from Source. It’s safe for all of yourself to come forth into the light of love.

Marcia Martin
Marcia Martinhttps://www.mmhearthealer.com/
Marcia Martin M Ed – The Heart Healer, is a spiritual life coach, channel, bestselling author and podcast host on Angel Heart Radio who works with the angels in the sacred space of the heart to help you heal from pain, trauma, abuse, negative thinking and limiting beliefs so you can be victorious in all areas of your life. Calling upon her extensive education and her intuitive gifts as well as angelic assistance, she'll bring you a breakthrough in gentle transformation. Using her proprietary method: The Angel Heart Healing Technique, she guides you in accessing the memories that are holding you, prisoner. By eliminating the unconscious program that's running in the background and sabotaging your life, you become victorious and experience true freedom and unending joy. Marcia will help you release your greatest fear so you can achieve your biggest dream. It’s time for you to become victorious, to heal your heart and transform your life. Schedule your complimentary, thirty-minute Angel Heart Healing Breakthrough consultation at https://www.mmhearthealer.com/coaching or join the Healing Hearts Community at https://www.mmhearthealer.com/community and be supported by Marcia and other like-minded individuals who are committed to spiritual growth.
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Lynn Forrester-Pitocco

The greatest gift we can give anyone is true love, that is, “wanting the best for the other” despite all, and with God who created all things, the greatest gift is Love. Thank you for your article.

Kat O'Keefe-Kanavos

Marcia, I love this article. I always say “The Blame-Game is a Loser’s Game.” Thanks for the reminder.

Debi
Debi

Love this – Taking ownership is a position of power. Assigning blame is a position of weakness. I’ve found when I’m in the emotional state of blame I truly keep myself stuck. I’m unable to see, hear, feel or thinking about a solution.

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