It is not impermanence that makes us suffer. What makes us suffer is wanting things to be permanent when they are not.
—Thich Nhat Hanh
We form preferences over a lifetime. As a child maybe we wanted to drink our juice from the green cup and not the red cup. Maybe we wanted to wear our jammies everywhere rather than school clothes or a uniform. We may have liked broccoli trees and apples sliced without the peel. As adults perhaps we expect people to be kind and not ever mean and some people behave cruelly. We don’t want anyone we love to die and people we love die.
What causes many of us to suffer are our attachments, our strong desires, and preferences that we’ve developed over a lifetime of living. When we finally recognize that the yearning for what used to be or what might be or resisting what actually is does not bring inner peace, we can let go of clutching so fiercely to our attachments. That courageous moment of softening our hands around that green cup of preferences frees us to experience a wider domain of sensory input including sight, taste, sound, sensations in our hearts and guts, maybe even a quieter mind of calm as we take deep breathes of oxygen into our lungs and back body.
What we may have taken for granted can be exquisitely appreciated.
We can include the simplest of moments such as the sight of beloved ones, their eyes softly gazing at our eyes, their smiles spreading across their faces as our jaws relax and our face muscles soften into sweet smiles. Ah, can we receive this into our hearts?
Life really is this constant flow of one experience into another. When we can bring our whole selves fully into each experience, we can merge with a heart-opening, exquisite, five or six sensory adventure of being alive to the tears, laughter, appreciation, delight, awe, and wonder of this journey on the big blue planet, a breath-taking, beautiful, mystical, miraculous, ordinary, extraordinary magic carpet ride of surrendering to all that remains impermanent. We can allow love to be our guide as we let go of attachments, gently reach out virtually for one another’s hands, and fully accept this moment, the next, and the next one. Our brave hearts and resilient spirits will lead us safely home to a place of grace.
I’m here for you as we continue to connect and create a world filled with human compassion, love, connection, creative expression, contribution, peace, and grace on this planet or beyond this impermanent life.
You are loved more than you can imagine. You matter to me. We are on this ride together.
Know you can reach out to me to connect on the phone. I will deeply listen and hold space for your heart, attachments, fears, and sorrows in non-judgment and in love.