The Easy Way

Sometimes the easy way is not so easy, and what may seem to be a sure thing can often lead to empty promises and disappointment.  On the other hand, the hard way seems to always be hard.  It will test your determination and courage.  You may want to give up or question if it is worth it at all.

I have known two very dear people in my life that took vastly different paths and in the end, had two very different outcomes.  Let’s start with the easy way.  First of all, let’s try to define the easy way.  Perhaps it means getting to a desired destination or a defined goal without putting much effort into it while expecting to achieve dynamic results.

My friend always looked for shortcuts and ways to bypass the part of the journey that required effort, engagement, and execution.  That’s not to say that a lot of thought went into thinking, plotting, and conspiring to circumvent the system.  Over the years my friend tried every get rich, pyramid scheme and multi-level marking plan out there.  I would get a call several times a month telling me about a new business that I could get in on the ground floor and that the potential to make money was amazing.

Unfortunately, success was not something my friend ever attained.  Several of his cars were repossessed, leases on apartments were broken resulting in my friend and his whole family moving in with his mother.  I will admit that a lot of planning and excitement went into the journey but in the end, the results were not successful.

Maybe some of the ideas would have been successful if actual action and consistent execution would have been taken.  I offered employment, training, and help in finding a direction and a path.  In the end, I came to realize that I couldn’t walk my friend’s journey.  It was a path chosen and change would not take place until rock bottom was reached.  The easy way was not so easy.

Let’s talk about the hard way.  It seems to be a journey that might challenge us, test our courage and passion for what we want to accomplish.  The end result can be that you reach the desired results or destination based on the determined goals.

My other friend lacked education and formal training but displayed immense courage, drive, and determination.   Small goals were made that were attainable.  As each goal was met, knowledge and experience were added to the life tool belt.

The hard way was not without its challenges and roadblocks.  In fact, there were many.  With each goal met and with the newly attained tools more goals were set.  Mentors, influencers, and information were sought out.  Mentors gave advice, influencers opened doors, and information was analyzed for the next part of the journey.  In time life became fulfilling and the success earned the respect of others.

People came to my friend now for personal and career advice.  Twenty years ago my friend made just a little over minimum wage, drove a beat-up car without air conditioning.  I had to buy lunch most of the time or my friend went hungry and there was always an empty tank of gas.  My friend, however, was highly motivated and knew what the end result looked like.

Courage, determination, curiosity, and consistency were the tools used.  Today my friend manages a big box store, is very respected, sought after and successful.   Maybe the hard way was the right way.

Point of View:

My Daddy once told me if you can imagine what you want from life, imagine how you will get there and imagine what you want looks like then you just might get there.  He told me that when I was six years old and I have always believed that.  I have always told others so they would believe in their dreams as well.

When my son was twelve years old he wanted to make money for a surfboard so he took two by fours and Astroturf to build a three-hole put-put course.  He charged the neighborhood kids two dollars to play.  My son recently told me that life’s challenges were just a part of life, no more no less and that he loved life.  He felt those challenges made him the man he is today.

Dare to imagine what you want and be fearless in your pursuit of those dreams.


Larry Tyler
Larry Tyler
Awaken the possibilities … then unleash them. After 55 years of successful retail management, I have returned to my passion of writing. I write Poetry, Storytelling, and Short Stories. As a child, I grew up on front porch storytelling. I would sit and listen to my Dad and his brothers tell these great stories that were captivating, and I always wanted to hear more. I wanted to experience the things they talked about. I started writing at a young age and reading everything I could get my hands on. At twelve years old I started a storytelling group and several of my friends became writers or poets. At 16 I hopped box cars and worked the tobacco fields, orange groves, picked cotton, and spent many nights around a campfire listing to life stories. Someone once asked me why I wrote. It consumes an amazing amount of time and I assure you it is not going to make me rich. I write so that my children can touch and feel my words telling of the ones that came before us and the stories they told me. These are the chronicles of our family and even though they come from my childhood memories and are deeply rooted in a child’s remembrance at least they may feel what it was like in the time before them and cherish the things the elders left behind. I am a Columnist & Featured Contributor, BIZCATALYST360 and I have The Writers Café, a group on LinkedIn that features Poets, Writers, Artists, Photographers, and Musicians . On Facebook I have two groups and one page; Dirt Road Storytelling, From Abandoned To Rescue Dogs And Cats, and About Life, Love And Living. As writers, it is true that we honestly do not know what we hold within us until we unleash it. When our words inspire others only then will inspiration return to the writer. I will spend my twilight years in search of the next story, the next poem, and the next image. I will take the time to enjoy my Wife, our Dogs, and Cats, and our amazing new home and I will always find the time to walk down a dirt road I truly hope is that I never have to read another book on Leadership, be on a conference call or see another plan o gram as these were the tool for what I did in life and not about who I am.

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  1. Thank you for this Larry! We live in a society where everyone wants the immediate gratification of the fireworks which die out quickly rather than holding out for the long steady flame which may take time to light, flickers but eventually will endure.?

  2. Thank you for this article, Larry! Living true to your values and dreams can involve that more difficult road of courageous, consistent actions. How fortunate that your dad set the example, that you live it, and your son embraced this in his life. Beautiful, my friend!

  3. Larry, this is a story we can all relate to. Every decision has consequences. Deciding that get rich quick is better than diligence and effort will result in just as quickly losing anything gained. It adds new meaning to easy come, easy go. I know some people can get rich with multi-level marketing, but if anyone tells you it’s easy, they are lying. RUN! Run as fast as you can to a recruiter who can help you get a job that has a future. There us nothing wrong with self employment or entrepreneurship but neither are easy and either will take everything you’ve got and then a little bit more to be successful. Congratulations to your diligent friend.

  4. Journey to success is anything but a bed of roses! Your live examples here more than amplify the power of focus, dedication and consistent efforts to get ahead in life, Dear Larry!

    Honesty is one of the most important virtues and that includes honesty with ourselves, first and foremost. Do not let the field of opportunity go barren due to neglect and disregard for the essential input of perseverance, direction and preparation. Make it fertile if you want to reap the fruits.

    Those that take short cuts often see their own life cut short with nothing but disappointment all around.

    Thank You!