It’s not a good day for you to get out of bed. You have the flu, you just had surgery. Or you’re running around like a chicken with its head cut off. Trying to take care of every detail so you can finally get some much-needed rest.
As soon as you take time out from your hectic schedule to do so, what happens? You receive a phone call, email, or text from someone who’s in need of your assistance. So you try to collect yourself by sucking up your pain, pretending you’re not tired and wind up taking a rain check on your “me time” in order to fulfill the requests of others. Then after you’ve stretched yourself to the limit, realizing it is/was all about them. You come to the brick wall of feeling underappreciated.
We’re all guilty!
Of course, no one likes to disappoint another. Who wants to go through the silent treatment because you’ve decided to put yourself first? Right? But the bottom line is this… you must learn to practice the art of saying “No!” There’s going to be times when others will not care about what you’re going through. Times when you’re expecting them to understand and they don’t. Times when your sacrifice isn’t good enough when all you want to hear is a simple “thank you.”
“No” can be lonely. “No” can be hurtful. However, you must know when to put an end to the pattern of being/becoming a doormat. Placing everyone else’s needs before your own while depleting whatever energy you have towards taking care of yourself.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t reach out and help others. Sacrifice, when done from the heart, can be a wonderful feeling of abundance. But if you know helping the other person will jeopardize or compromise the position you’re in on your road to recovery. It’s time to practice the art of saying “No!” After all, their needs were fulfilled; you’ve carried them through their obstacle. Now, what about you? You’re still in pain, you haven’t rested, and now lies another day you have to force yourself to get through.
On top of that, the ugly truth sets in; you look around and notice, those same people who you were so eager to please are nowhere to be found during your time of need.
This is the harsh reality of saying, “No.”
Nonetheless, saying “No” can also bring you peace. Saying “No” can build your self-esteem. Saying “No” can help you realize your worth and how much you love yourself.
Remember there is/was a reason you told yourself you needed “me time.” So take it! Even if it means the silent treatment. You’re worth it!