Being grateful for what one has received seems easy, a natural and almost obvious feeling: it is not like that. I think that each of us has to remember in his own experience the feeling that one feels when someone to whom we have given material goods, support, opportunities has shown himself ungrateful, not only, but has taken a hostile attitude towards us.
In many cases, the person who has received is aware of his own state of ingratitude and experiences it in a dissociated way. In short, he knows he is narrow-minded but finds an outlet in this narrow-mindedness for his not knowing how to be grateful.
Then, there are the cases in which deeply ungrateful people really do not have the capacity, honesty, and ethical nature to understand what they have received.
Moreover, today the dissolution of good manners highlights the wear and tear of the most elementary relational habits. For example, one is ungrateful without realizing it anymore, one is grateful enough to obtain favors, under the banner of the most implicit relations of exchange.
However, we should not get caught up in negative feelings but analyze the reasons behind this behavior that has its roots in personal history, in the character, and in the goals that each of us sets in existence.
Many people, after asking for and receiving help, are seized by a profound disquiet that leads them to cancel and/or slander the benefactor, as a witness of their weakness and, without realizing it, are seized by the rancorous syndrome of the ingrate. The sense of inferiority and envy of the benefactor’s power creates in the beneficiary a sickness of the soul that manifests itself by refusing its dependence, confirming that he owes nothing to anyone, making him pay his sense of inferiority.
In life, we can try to do our best to the next, but it is better not to create to too many expectations on the part of the recipient.
If it weren’t for the actions of others, we probably wouldn’t even be alive. It also counts who helped us to be born, to grow, not to die in the vulnerable first years of life. we have had teachers who taught us, playmates, sometimes friends who listened to us, sometimes loves who bet on us, sometimes people who trusted us, in our work. Our days are possible thanks to many people, but sometimes we don’t notice it. We are not able to see the great contribution, rather we focus on what they stop doing.
Ingratitude does a lot of damage not only on an emotional level but also on a social level.
Those who are ungrateful deny themselves but above all they deny themselves the possibility of opening up to new perspectives, to new possibilities.
The ungrateful reveals the narrow-mindedness that arises from ignorance.
Living grateful, more than a virtue or a value is an attitude towards life. We can thank only if we are humble, if we understand that no one owes us anything, nor has the obligation to please us.
When one understands this, he/she takes a big step forward in his/her maturity and personality.