Surrendering, a scary word that represents a lack of control, and for me, a foreign concept for most of my life. I confused surrendering with not caring, with having no direction or value. Like holding on what I had, even though it was clearly killing me would somehow keep me safe. That letting go was the same as giving up. That surrendering was being a coward.
Well, little did I know that from this practice would true healing arise. From letting go of the outcome, the expectations and the need to cling to anything familiar would I find true freedom. You see, no soul who is free to express themselves, who trusts in nature and its processes will ever need to hang on to the past, or the idea of the future. And when your intention is to feel better, do better, create more and feel more enthusiastic and passionate about life, the thing is this:
YOU have to surrender to all of it. The past, future and the now. No judgment, no blame, no shame, and no fear. I know, not an easy thing to do for most of us, but there are a few practices that will let you experience a calmer and clearer mind, and a life more in tune with YOU.
By practicing different meditations and stillness techniques, journaling and mindfulness, you can work on your ability to walk lighter and more fluent through life.
The less you hold on to, the lighter your steps will be. The less you are occupied with an outcome, the more capable you will be to expand your perspective.
We have been deceived by our lifelong conditioning. We have been falsely led to believe that the more we think the smarter we get. Our brain has been highly overrated, and we are doing ourselves a great disservice by believing we can think our way through life.
We have been conditioned to be seekers. Always looking for the good life. As if there are a destination and a pot of gold waiting at the end of the rainbow, we continue to search for the good life. Happiness has become something the modern world residents have as an ultimate life goal. Everything we do and want is connected to outer search. It shall come through something we find, become or accomplish. From the lack of trust in ourselves and life, we have become restless seekers of everything we believe we lack or miss within ourselves. The thing is, we miss nothing. We are not missing a link or a single cell. We are whole, as humans, here to explore and to enjoy the ride. Nothing messes up a fun and educational ride like trying to hang on to the past or present situation. When we spend our time clinging to an outcome, trying to control it, we miss the ride itself.
Nothing stays the same, but for now, the sun rises every morning. Have faith in that, yourself and the fact that no matter what happens, you did your very best.
4 Easy practices to surrender to your life:
1. Meditate: Sit or lay in a comfortable position and focus on your breath. Simply breathe and let your mind wander. It doesn`t matter if you are an experienced meditator or a freshman, all you have to do is to be still. When you work on surrendering, work on being nothing. You, breath, and that are it. When the mind comes in, let it pass by. Let every thought become insignificant. Pay as little attention to it as you can. Let it drift past you until you find stillness. If you feel you wander into a thought, pull yourself back and connect with your breath. Don`t get attached to anything. Just flow and breathe. This is a great practice to let go of your mind and control freak tendencies.
2. Compassionate writing and living: Gift yourself a new journal for this purpose only. Set aside ten minutes every day to write and contemplate. Shift your focus from your life to that of others. Write about what you would like to contribute to this world. What would you want to do to change other peoples lived for the better? Imagine what that would look like Write about how their suffering would end, and how the world would look if your visions come true. This is a focus exercise to shift from you to that around you. Once we step outside of our own little lives, we detach from our constant self-focus and therefore control. See how you wish everyone to be happy. Not only yourself. By seeing that we are all dependent on each other, we get less attached and more at ease. Walk through your day with a compassionate heart for everyone. Send out live and open your heart.
3. Observe and expand: By stepping out of the constant thinking mode, we can observe more. By detaching from the drama in our lives and any current situation, we can more easily see a larger picture. Life is so much grander and colorful than what meets the eye. By pulling back from our daily and weekly situation, the details become less obvious. Notice how your focus on the little things become less important as you expand your vision. Desires and aversions, our typical narrow focus will fade as we expand. Look at every moment as something valuable for all that it is. See how life is larger than yourself. See how you are blessed to be a part of this creation. Spend some time every day to just observe and be grateful. Life is larger than anything you or me can control.
4. Accept everything: To be able to fully surrender to the outcome, we must first accept what is. By meditating and expanding, you are already practicing acceptant living, but perhaps not in the way that you think. You are accepting that your life is a part of everybody else`s. Your current situation might not be ideal, but it`s yours, and it is where your potentials lie. Love everything about it. Explore the situation, and know that it is changing from moment to moment. Not through force, but through growth and awareness. Be at peace with what is. Be at peace with your own situation. Walk forward in faith.
If we are facing in the right direction, all we have to do is keep on walking.
I have seen amazing results from adding one of these practices daily. Just pick one, and as you go along, add another one. Your outlook on life will change, and the ripple effect is enormous.
You are worthy and able.
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