#Success Has a Lot to Do with #”Others”

The world of work abounds with incredible stories about values and how we subjectively make sense of reality.

If one wants people to respect us, then it is necessary to add value to their lives. Incidentally, when we start thinking about the most important values of our life, the truly fundamental ones, they have to do with “others”. So it is essential to make our growth available to others, for a better society! Also because if our society were to collapse, with it we too would vanish. I know, it’s sad to remember, but it’s important to do it to remind that we are here on this earth thanks to others too.

Unfortunately, many of us have been brought up to think that we need to take as much as we can before other people can take even our share.

But there is also another paradigm, which is based on the concept of community, according to which helping others, giving something of ourselves, is the way to achieve success and happiness. Also, when we are busy helping others, we have less time to focus on what is bad in our life and we appreciate what we have better.

When you look at people who are at the top of their field, no matter what, you find that they all have one thing in common: they create value above all for others, and in doing so, they also create success for themselves. This does not happen by accident, but it is 100% intentional.

Among these needs, there is that of love, friendship, psychological or economic help, support, etc. Particularly in relationships, as long as the need for another person is satisfied and value is brought, the relationship continues to exist. The moment we stop bringing value to the other, objectively or subjectively, the relationship ceases to exist.

When we add value to someone’s life, we are contributing to that person in an important way. And this is noticeable and important, in all facets of life, in the family, in work, in friendships, and in all kind of relationships with other people.

If one learns to add value to your own life and the lives of others, one will inevitably also attract success. For this it is crucial to identify the problems faced in one’s social or work community (friends, relatives, neighbors, colleagues) and to find ways in which you can give them a solution, serving and encouraging.

There are several ways to add value: creating something useful, inspiring someone to act, helping out, showing someone a better way to do something, providing a new perspective, setting an example, listening more, offering their attention, being present for someone, loving, and so on!

But adding value requires a change of perspective: the others come to the fore, they become the center of attention. Understanding their desires, finding together solutions, ideas, answers to their questions become the primary concern. In this way, personal success becomes a natural consequence of having put the other and her well-being in the foreground.

At work as in life, we are always in competition with other talented people. The key is to create and deliver as much value as possible every day. Ultimately, it’s about taking great care of what we do. The value we place on what we do is what makes the difference.

If we have to choose between two or more paths, career or whatever, we must always choose the path that allows us to add the greatest value to ourselves, but above all to others. This will keep us aligned with our true purpose in life and ultimately bring us greater satisfaction and greater reward.

At work, especially when one has tasks of responsibility (but also between colleagues) it is important to share your new knowledge, so as to make other people understand that we not only want to value ourselves but also them; encourage other people, trying to getting the best out of them and encouraging them to be the best they can, as this will inspire them to take their risks and add more value to the world, through their contribution; helping others to exploit their strengths, as most people mistakenly believe that one has to work only to improve one’s own weaknesses; always give a little more than what is requested, since people feel valued and appreciated just when we make an extra effort for them; thanking people who add value to us, because by showing gratitude to those who give us something, we provide proof of their value to us.

The type of contribution is not important, but rather it is necessary that what we give is authentic and without a second purpose.

Success can be one of the purposes of existence, but never so pressing as to see success as the only positive form of the being and seek it only as a natural display of one’s self.


Aldo Delli Paoli
Aldo Delli Paoli
Aldo is a lawyer and teacher of law & Economic Sciences, "lent" to the finance world. He has worked, in fact, 35 years long for a multinational company of financial service in the auto sector, where he held various roles, until that of CEO. In the corporate field, he has acquired skills and held positions as Credit Manager, Human Resource Manager, Team leader for projects of Acquisition & Merger, branch opening, company restructuring, outplacement, legal compliance, analysis and innovation of organizational processes, business partnerships, relations with Trade Unions and Financial Control Institutions. After leaving the company, he continued as an external member of the Board of Directors e, at the same time, he has gone back practicing law and was a management consultant for various companies. He has been also a columnist for newspapers specializing in labor law, automotive services and work organization. His interests include human behavior in the organizational environment, to the neuroscience, the impact of new technologies, the fate of the planet and people facing poverty or war scenarios. He loves traveling, reading, is passionate about many sports, follows the NBA and practices tennis.

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