When I think about all the struggles I went through in life, most of it came from my negative beliefs. When I got stuck; it wasn’t because someone else was holding me back. The truth was I couldn’t move forward until I got out of my way.
We all have triggers in our life that can serve to remind us of our fears and failures. These emotional triggers are the most powerful forces inside us.
We can choose to stuff everything back inside and not deal with the emotions that surface from past challenges. Or, we can choose to deal with the knots in our stomachs that keep us awake at night.
Whatever we do, we can’t keep the circle going. It will only surface again and again and again. I kept my circle going for years.
Some will medicate themselves to numb their feelings. My medication was a mixture of work and food. There was too much pain from the past, and I was not ready to deal with the circle of challenges and the subsequent work I knew would be involved in knowing and being forced to make decisions.
Sometimes, holding on for a short while can aid us in becoming stronger and making better decisions in the future; but, when we’re unable to learn or refuse to learn, or when we have learned and still hold on, we become stuck.
Letting Go
Almost everything comes full circle. Get bored with your past; it’s over. Forgive yourself for what you think you did or didn’t do, and focus on what you will do starting now. The greatest struggle in my life was the struggle to accept, embrace, and love myself.
Learning to love myself has been the hardest and most rewarding thing I’ve ever done to myself. When I started to learn to love myself, imperfections included, wonderful things started to happen.
I let go.
I started looking up.
I moved forward, not back.
I was no longer stuck.
I embraced being different, unique.
I am perfectly imperfect.
I AM happy.
Happy New Year!
Love your line – The greatest struggle in my life was the struggle to accept, embrace, and love myself. This is a major issue for most people. The song from the movie Frozen is quickly becoming my mantra – Let It Go.
Frank, I hear you. Loving myself and embracing my uniqueness took some work. I was so focused on walking/talking like others because I wanted to ‘fit in.’ Rude awakening!
LET IT GO, from Frozen is a happy mantra I love too.
My best to you. Be well. XO, Bonnie
The memory of a trauma experienced as a child, or the guilt of a mistake made years ago, can still limit us in the present. Learning to let go is important because, by letting go of the emotion connected with the past event, we free ourselves from the infinite repetitive thoughts and unconscious behaviors that the emotion itself causes.
By recognizing the intense emotions that regularly recur within us, we have the opportunity to let them go and progressively move towards states of consciousness in which the inner serenity, which we all seek, emerges naturally.
Aldo,
Your words are expressed so eloquently and thoughtful. Learning to let go is important.
We all come from different roads in life.
We all come upon unexpected curves and turning points, mountaintops and valleys. Everything that happens to us shapes us into who we are becoming. And in the adventure of each day, we discover the best in ourselves.
I appreciate you. Thank you for sharing your voice.
XO, Bonnie