Many people tend to go to the extreme such as talking too much, eat too much, and buy excessive clothes.
Are there common traits among such behaviors because extremes are irrational acts? They have their bad consequences and still, those people keep doing them. They become rooted habits.
The story that initiated the seed of this post
My school arranged for a picnic for my class. After walking for some time, we stopped for lunch nearby a small spring. Every student received his lunch box. While eating, suddenly two students started shouting at each other. It turned out that one of them was a known binge eater. He spat on the sandwich of his classmate so as he would feel disgusted to his portion of food. He did and the binge eater enjoyed eating it.
Binge eaters, binge talkers, and binge for clothing
These people sit on the edge and make other people edgy because of their irrational behaviors. We give them different names. We call people who talk too much chatterboxes and garrulous. Different names do not change facts. These people are what and how they behave.
Do talkative people do so because of genetic factors? Do they have memories shadowing their minds from their childhoods? Can they change their habits?
I started to think of people with whom I had connections for years. I found something common and that is they share some common traits. Those contacts that used to interrupt others so that they would only talk tended to eat much and to buy clothes beyond their financial means.
In some cases, those who ate much could not buy expensive clothing brands. However, their talks focused on brands and those who buy cheap clothes might see themselves as cheap. Their values in life are distorted. They are showy people and appearances are what give them self-esteem and wrongly stem from others.
Selfishness and dominance are common among those extreme people. They know more and everyone else is just a ’student” to learn from their wisdom.
Binger for talking, dressing, or eating fails to see the signals that people have no more interest to talk to them, eat with them, or caring for their branded clothing. “Talkaholism”, “eatingaholism” or “clothingaholism” may them too drunk to see signals coming to discourage them from doing what they do.
These are my observations. Did you observe the same behaviors or have other observations?
A habit is bad when it does not bring anything good for oneself and for others, when it generates symptoms or even a psychological and / or physical disorder, when it is chronic, very difficult to unhinge, disassemble, change, when it acquires too much power over the person .
Self-centeredness is an attitude that implies “bad habits” such as misunderstanding, arrogance, lack of self-esteem.
Bad habits are often extremely ingrained and difficult to break.
So well your comment represents reality Aldo and I appreciate your comments’s richness.
These habits your referred generate their signals and we should be receptive to these signals and act before they become rooted and difficult to remove.
The sooner, the better
Interesting observations. Pondering. Behaviors may arise from culture.
For example, because appearance is highly valued in much of the media.
Thanks for your reflection Ali!
blessings,
Cynthia
Social jealousy, social pressure and social conformity are at interplay and I agree with you Cynthia