And he said, “O man greatly loved, fear not, peace be with you; be strong and of good courage.” –Daniel 10:19
Being Committed with Self-Control because not only does my health and wellness matter, the health and wellness of others; my family, work colleagues, community, and the world matters.
In the dictionary, emotions are classified as being nouns; an affective state of consciousness in which joy, sorrow, fear, hate, or the like, is experienced, as distinguished from cognitive and volitional states of consciousness. For many, emotions identified as nouns seem contradictory. Feelings and emotions seem like they are descriptive words describing how a person is feeling, an adjective. Unfortunately, they are not. Okay, so emotions are nouns, how come this important to know? It is essential to know because many, if not most people, stir up cognitive distortions, blaming others as the root cause of their frustrations. Instead, a person needs to know that they are responsible for their thoughts and the emotions they choose to have.
When being committed with self-control, a person can better understand that others, too, are at the choice of what emotions and feelings they have — acknowledging that the feelings and emotional control they have directly impacts the feelings and emotional control of someone else. Managing meta emotions is vital for a person to live as a servant leader and to live a flourishing life.
Self Actualization takes into consideration various elements, and some are listed below:
- Discern my purpose and core values – what values do others have.
- Gain knowledge of my Sound Relationship House – individuals who work full time can many times spend more time at work than they do at home.
Sound relationship house principles to apply at work and home:
- Enhance Love Maps
- Nurture Fondness and Admiration
- Turn Toward Others
- Accept the Influence of Others
- Solve Solvable Problems
- Overcome Gridlock
- Create Shared Meaning
- Identify my difficult feelings then learn how not to become them – These feelings do not define my character, my identity, or who I am as a person. Learn how to be with the emotion as it is without projecting fear and anxiety.
- Be flexible in honoring other’s choices.
- Halt dismissing others; eliminate saying the words; “No,” “But,” and “You’re wrong.”
- Validate other’s options – essential to healthy wellbeing and performance.
- Halt the rolling one’s eyes and making a disapproving facial expression; Contempt is one of the leading causes of divorce and employee dissatisfaction.
How relationships forgive and repair is what separates the relationship Masters from the Disasters.
Duperon, a multiple Emmy Award-winning television producer, shares how forgiveness makes a person a better leader in the workplace. She offered the following: five hidden-in-plain-sight ways that forgiveness will make you a better leader:
- It fosters risk-taking and adaptability in the workplace.
- Forgiveness allows you to shift perceptions and change gears as a leader efficiently and fluidly
- A forgiveness work environment authentically engages your employees, vendors and customers.
- Forgiveness-based workplaces also attract the best talent, especially from millennials.
- And finally, forgiveness creates a higher level of integrity throughout the workplace.
“Forgiveness is accepting the apology you’ll never receive,” – Duperon
Blessings to your being committed with self-control, forgiving and repairing!