Seduction and the Modern Woman (Part 1)

The idea of Seduction has, sadly, lost a lot of its meaning in today’s modern world. The idea of Seduction used to be something that was celebrated, understood, and appreciated by both men and women.  Seduction is an elegant game that has way more to do with intellectual stimulation than the naked flesh blasted out via a text message or a dating app. However, in today’s instant gratification world, people go from hello to the bedroom in two seconds flat. This gives no room for the art of Seduction to play out to full ability.

Seduction is like a beautiful dance between two people… timing is important, communication, understanding, and looking toward each other for guidance and where to follow.

If you are constantly stepping on your partner’s toes, it doesn’t take long for your shoes to get scuffed and both people leave in a huff.

I think one of the quickest ways to get into a more Seduction mindset and see things from the art form that it truly is by watching old Hollywood movies.  They knew everything was there to know about the art of Seduction and then some.  And if you think about it for a moment, I’m sure you will agree, that no detail was too small to pay attention to.

Whether it be the perfect strappy shoe the woman wore, her garters, the ambiance created by light and shadows, or the witty dialogue between the men and women that makes you see how attractive a mind can be.  The list goes on and on.

What makes these old Hollywood movies so Seductive is everything listed above, PLUS the little things like- how the women would give that little glance to the man and you knew exactly what it meant, how they moved their body when they walked, or even how they held a champagne glass.  These little nuances are the very things that build that spark when you are beginning to create a Seductive scene or experience for somebody.

The more you ‘hold back’ with being mysterious, teasing, and playful, the better.  It’s far more Seductive to be mysterious to someone than for them to know everything about you too fast and get bored.  Part of the fun of the chase… is the chase… The anticipation, exhilaration, and fun of the chase are what make it one of the most desirable parts of the initial attraction phase of our relationships.

Yet we are currently at a time in a place where there are far too many people who think that in order to be seductive to someone, you need to send them a naked picture or pictures where you are barely wearing any clothes.  WRONG!  In fact, the less skin you show, the more desirous it becomes to someone else. When you understand that, “LESS IS MORE”, you will start to be on the right path.

I challenge you to think about Seduction as an art form.  You are an artist and you have everything you need at your disposal to create great Seductive works of art.  Be bold, authentic, mysterious, coy, passionate, fun, creative, lustful… whatever you want.

Be that. That’s the beauty of being the artist, the muse, and the canvas.  😉  How can you become a more Seductive artist today?


Melissa Van Oss
Melissa Van Oss
Melissa Van Oss is a MidWest transplant to Washington, D.C. She embraced city life becoming involved in a private underground world that few see inside of, she pushed past her own fears, insecurities, and barriers, and came out the other side transformed into a confident, adventurous spirit… she awoke her aura of Seduction. Melissa is a three-time bestselling author, speaker, human relations strategist, and scholar. She is the author of the Seduction as a Second Language Series. Melissa uses her experiences in the world of Seduction to help others understand Seduction As A Second Language and how it translates into more confidence from the bedroom to the boardroom. When viewed as an intellectual pursuit, understanding Seduction will lead you down a path toward personal transformation, evolution, and higher consciousness. There is a difference between social Seduction and seducing someone in our personal relationships, Melissa shares how to tell the difference between them and how to use them to your advantage. Melissa has been interviewed for Life Altering Experiences on Roku TV as well as being featured in The Hollywood Times. She has also been a guest on the podcasts - “What Every Business Needs to Know Right Now,” “Analytical Chaos,” and “The Guy Who Knows a Guy.” She also recently spoke at the Monetize Your Matter Summit. She works with individuals, high-level executives, entrepreneurs, as well as former professional athletes. Melissa has collaborated on the creation of several live events and spoken at numerous workshops. The Indie film in which Melissa was a consultant won numerous awards as well. Van Oss attended Kent State University, where she graduated with honors with a Bachelor of Science degree. She currently lives in Washington, D.C.

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