Mother Nature’s roots weave deep within the earth. Some are strong and can withstand the heavy blows of the wind, the torrential downpour of the rain, the bright rays of the sun. Some are weak, tangled, breaking easily and ripped from the ground.
Relationships can be very similar to roots, some strong and some not. The strong ones we may tend to more often, maintaining their health and upkeep or sometimes we pay little attention to them because we already know how deep they run and acknowledge their strength and therefore need little maintenance. We may put a lot of hard work into the weak ones, trying hard to help them withstand the elements.
We may be surprised in our lives that even a strong rooted relationship can rot over time. It could happen very slowly or could even just allow one penetrable force to lead to its ruin. Just like a plant, giving too much or too little most always ends with the same outcome. On the other hand, a barely there root could go from being thin and simple to enduring nature and becoming a strong presence in life.
How do we know how much to give, what to give and when to give it? Is it a natural reaction, does it come easily to some and not others? If it comes easily for some, does that mean those relationships are strong or does that mean that not much is required for that relationship to endure? If it is a constant struggle to maintain, what do you do then?
Another thoughtful perspective, Lisa. Your article reminds me of why I actually have three items on my daily list that I’ve committed to, but would too easily forget if I didn’t have to check them off. I could easily wander into my office to read, write, or study and not resurface for a week. Relationships are not tended. So each day on my list I have: send an encouragement message, write a card, tell someone they matter. For example, today I sent a scripture verse to a friend, wrote a sympathy card to a couple who lost an adult son, and I complimented the hostess at the Starbucks in this hotel and also thanked the woman at the hotel desk. I’m pretty sure she was caught off guard. I’m not perfect and miss a day now and then, but not many. Relationships are what sustains us and that’s why our root systems need tending.
I really enjoyed reading your comment and love your daily list idea. My to-do is too often a list of house and children chores but I love incorporating kindness chores too. Going to add that to my daily morning routine! Thank you!