I had the most amazing dream the other night. Almost!
“You come from an extensive line of Gods and Goddesses.” The fortune-teller’s voice was deep yet lilting.
“One incarnation is that of Hera…wife of Zeus and therefore Queen of all Gods.”
I began to feel exalted for a split second. Then, she shifted uncomfortably in her chair. I could almost hear the screeching tires in my head.
“Oops, hang on a moment,” she said. “I have read that wrong…I see here you come from an extensive line of Yiddish peasants.”
To say I awoke feeling humbled is an understatement…But I had a good laugh;-)
Humility is the thought that kept coming to my mind while riding the “Friendship Bench” hosted by 360° Nation this morning. I could relate to every story of struggle with those annoying little demons of fear and self-doubt when committing your deepest thoughts to the page. What is it that makes one a good writer?
Well, humility for starters. It is extremely helpful in those moments when we are learning to fearlessly think for ourselves. Not only to be comfortable in our own skin but also confident enough to let things go when the need arises. There will always be those who do not like our stories for one reason or another. And have no problem with telling you so, publicly.
“Romans 12:3: For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned.”
Being humble, however, does not mean being passive. There will be situations that arise that will require you to speak up, loud and clear, to diffuse those who may look to tarnish your credibility. Ah yes, they are out there. The internet trolls ~ the vipers of virtual reality looking for a target to sink their teeth into.
When I first began writing on LinkedIn’s self-publishing platform, I enjoyed incredibly positive feedback and established a wonderful network of friends and fellow writers. We had each other’s backs. But prior to establishing that support, I had disturbing moments with annoying trolls.
They surf the internet looking to create disruption. They love the ‘Influencers’ with all their followers. A captive audience. They will show up in the comments section of emotionally charged content and seek to intimidate those who do not agree with them.
They can be brutal and use the internet as their own personal battleground. Learning to slough them off like a worn-out old skin is my greatest accomplishment thus far in my experience of the stalkers in the virtual world.
“Ecclesiastes 7:9 Be not quick in your spirit to become angry, for anger lodges in the bosom of fools.”
You see, how we treat others always comes back to the self. Our behavior is rooted in our childhood experiences. And those who devalue others like the intimidator feel powerful when tearing people down. When in truth, they are just frightened little children at their core. Given this perspective, one may even feel sorry for them.
That is why it is so important to find an environment of loving support and peaceful engagement. There is a much greater chance in a collaborative and creative environment that we will feel safe enough to do the ‘deep -dive’ and develop a network of lifelong relationships. Maybe even hang out with each other through multiple lifetimes. That’d be a kick!
In my work as a facilitator of healing, I feel it important to recognize the human in each of us, despite our differences, and share what we have learned with an open heart. Yes, that makes us vulnerable, but not weak.
We cannot control what others think, and likewise, neither can they control our thoughts. Unless we LET them. Then we are no longer ourselves…We are an extension of them.
The little daily disturbances in life are fleeting. If we can begin to let go of our incessant need to control things, we can allow for the outer chaos of the world to ensue without feeling the need to control or condemn it.
Our experiences of the world as individuals are unique to all of us. They are meant to serve as a guide through the evolutionary process of expanding awareness.
The inflexibility of people to respect or even consider the views of others does nothing but impede their process of evolution. Our ability to remain steadfast in our thinking and resist the temptation to demonize them advances our own process of expansion.
The truth is, we are afraid to share our stories for fear of ridicule or hurting someone’s feelings. However, squelching our own authentic voices harms us more than it does others. Never hush your spirit for the comfort of another. It does the health of your mind and body a great disservice.
Learning to let go of everything is a lesson of love in the purest form. It is a lesson in acceptance of all living things the way they are, rather than the way we think they should be. It is going with the flow, rather than clinging to our desires.
It is life’s way of teaching us humility and grace. It is trusting that mother nature always has our best interests at heart. Even when we resist her, she loves us anyway. A heart that loves is always torn…and we all need love…especially for oneself. I am finally getting there.
It is a powerful position you hold when you love yourself and those around you as a means of bringing light into a very shadowy world. When you connect with the heart of others, you connect with the spirit of ALL THAT IS to guide you through these especially turbulent times.
Whatever that may mean for the individual, know that what connects us is the truth of all existence. It is the tapestry that feeds our intuitive fire, and we must learn to trust it. It is more dependable than any information you will ever receive in your “external” environment.
That is not denial or ignorance. THAT is emotional honesty in its purest expression. THAT is self-awareness. THAT is truth. THAT is LOVE.