Each person who passes through our lives is unique and always leaves us a little bit of himself and takes a little of us away. There will be those who have taken away a lot, but there will never be those who have left nothing. This is clear evidence that two souls don’t meet by chance (Jorge Luis Borges)

Life is made up of encounters between people, who can be family, friends, partners, or even strangers. We meet continuously with others, but often we do not stop to reflect on the spontaneity and richness of these contacts.

Even if it lasts a few moments or hours, each of these encounters enriches us and makes us grow.

The meeting between two people is the meeting between two worlds, for many reasons it is something very complex. Each person is a world, a mystery, with its past experiences, its characteristics, and its fears. Relationships with others, therefore, are like a mystery, an enigma. Something of intriguing, fascinating.

When two people meet, it is as if a new world, a new existence originates from this union, and it is through this phenomenon that the people involved start to change and transform themselves, as the result of the relationship they have undertaken. And even if at the beginning only the more superficial and peripheral aspects come together, as the intimacy between the two people develops, they can also share their deeper aspects. This means that they are no longer two distinct people. In fact, the moment they come into contact, a compendium of their interactions originates, the essence of the relationship itself.

The richness of all of this is often overlooked or not even perceived.

Interaction is of fundamental importance. Each person collaborates with a word, a phrase, a gesture, or even with silence. The fundamental thing is to never stop communicating, because, even when we want it and we are silent, we are communicating something with our silence. The richness of all of this is often overlooked or not even perceived. Instead, this applies to a pleasant, but also unpleasant meeting, everything that happens to us affects our person, allowing us to grow in one way or another. The important thing is to be aware of it, live the encounter, the interaction, and extract the juice that allows us to grow as people.

It’s not just about worrying about what’s good or bad about the other person, but about how it affects our person. In fact, we can extract the essence of the meeting and use it to our advantage. We must immerse ourselves in the encounter, enjoy it to the fullest in order to grow as individuals, to understand our mistakes, to learn from others, and teach others. We must appreciate the beauty of the interaction, the ability to share.

The important thing is not only to work on one’s own personal experience but also to enrich oneself with that of others and what they teach us, to enjoy the present moment and to take advantage of experiences, positive or negative. If we are aware of the possibility of learning and growing, then no meeting will leave us more indifferent.

In a period in which all solidarity and help have re-emerged, we must reflect on these things even when we let ourselves be dragged by preconceptions of any kind towards the other.

If we really want a better world, we must not overcome preconceptions only because a law imposes it on us, but rather because we are aware that openness, encounter, spontaneous relationships are the true natural path to be made ours.

On the other hand, violence, discrimination, and selfishness have never built cooperating civilizations.


Aldo Delli Paoli
Aldo Delli Paoli
Aldo is a lawyer and teacher of law & Economic Sciences, "lent" to the finance world. He has worked, in fact, 35 years long for a multinational company of financial service in the auto sector, where he held various roles, until that of CEO. In the corporate field, he has acquired skills and held positions as Credit Manager, Human Resource Manager, Team leader for projects of Acquisition & Merger, branch opening, company restructuring, outplacement, legal compliance, analysis and innovation of organizational processes, business partnerships, relations with Trade Unions and Financial Control Institutions. After leaving the company, he continued as an external member of the Board of Directors e, at the same time, he has gone back practicing law and was a management consultant for various companies. He has been also a columnist for newspapers specializing in labor law, automotive services and work organization. His interests include human behavior in the organizational environment, to the neuroscience, the impact of new technologies, the fate of the planet and people facing poverty or war scenarios. He loves traveling, reading, is passionate about many sports, follows the NBA and practices tennis.

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  1. I love how you began this Aldo. I know that certain people are put in our paths for specific reasons. I always try to discover what it is…
    I also believe the violence can be deescalated with love and compassion. When someone is angry they really want to be heard.
    This is a really touching piece

    • Thanks for reading the article and for the support.
      We have a vision that, getting angry, we act and struggle to change what’s wrong. Anger is a reaction against something wrong, and it is a strong and often violent reaction, because it aims to change what is wrong. Like any other emotion, it is linked to culture and context.
      The problem, however, is that often (and not just as has happened these days in the USA but in many parts of the world it happens) after initial forms of peaceful protests, entire neighborhoods and suburbs of the largest metropolises are brought into focus. There is obviously something more. And for this reason we must resort to dialogue, understand the reasons, intervene on the causes, otherwise things can slowly doze off but cannot be resolved. Those with government responsibility must deal with these issues responsibly.

  2. Aldo – Your experience, understanding of life, and compassion for others is clearly evident in this wonderful essay. Thank you for reminding us how important it is to learn and grow in each encounter we have with others.

    • Thank you for the ongoing support and encouragement.
      I feel that times are difficult in the USA.
      Live safely