Regret The Past or Evolve Into The Future – It’s a Choice

We all keep hearing (or saying) how we regret our words, choices, decisions, behaviors of our past. Do we really regret it? If yes, why do we regret it?

It certainly cannot be a binary argument; wherein being defensive of ‘regretting-never’ and on the other extreme ‘regretting-ever’ carrying the past.

Given a past experience, it’s definitely our mere snapshot (psyche) at that point in time; we may have said certain things or made certain choices or have taken certain decisions or demonstrated certain behaviors. And at that point in time, our psyche would have been a function of our own interpretations, beliefs, judgements, etc. to the situations we were in with external influences (if any).

So in reality, it’s our personality that created that personal reality and nothing else. Then the question of regret comes based on the outcomes or the repercussions those situations had on us or the environment & people around us that we tend to judge.

Some thoughts to ponder:

  • Irrespective of the outcomes, those experiences have some takeaways or what you call ‘learnings’.
  • Once we introspect in understanding the crux of that experience and find the relevance, we accept it as a constructive feedback
  • On acceptance, our experiences get integrated into us. Once it becomes part of us, we let our intelligence handle it much better in our future and evolve
  • On denial, those experiences remain residual energy points separated from the ‘Self’. This results in a conflicted psyche which not only creates dissonance but keeps re-generating the same experiences time & again

So in reality, we don’t regret the past but we regret our inaction in leaving it unhealed forever. Our introspection & continuous feedback to every situation or experience is what results in our evolution. Let’s thank all our experiences for helping us acquire Tacit knowledge.

We all know ‘To err is human, To forgive is divine but ‘To keep erring the same is stupid’.

Let’s not regret, let’s evolve!!!

Radical Forgiveness is much more than the mere letting go of the past. It is the key to creating the life that we want, and the world that we want. It is the key to our own happiness and the key to world peace. It is no longer an option. It is our destiny.

–Colin Tipping

 PS: Read (heard) it before? Knew it already? No worries. Let’s recall the proverb “There’s nothing new under the sun” (Ecclesiastes)


Visweswaran Balasubramanian
Visweswaran Balasubramanian
I am Visweswaran, working as a Practice Manager with Oracle Corporation in Bangalore, India. I have done my Post Graduation (PGCHRM) with XLRI, Jamshedpur, and my Engineering with JNTU, Hyderabad (India). I have close to 18 years of IT experience that is diversified in the fields of Technology, Project Management, Talent & Competency Management, Human Resources Management & Program Management (current role). I have been exploring the fields of Philosophy, Psychology and their relatability from the perspective of Science for more than a decade. It’s my inquisitiveness, passion, and a quest for knowledge in learning & exploring, my inherent need to give a form or shape to my existence in synthesizing those learnings with my life experiences; that gives me the fulfillment in realizing my essence & purpose. I view the world around me as a reflection of my altered states of consciousness that enables me to see patterns in everything and to experience the feeling of oneness with the universe.

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  1. Visweswaran, interesting and well said article. The last paragraph speaks volumes and really is the main core of your article. I believe that “Life Experience” is the best teacher and through that life experience comes the challenges that bring us to where we are at the present, wherever that may be. We make our own choices, we also chose to forgive, let go, hold no regrets and learn from our life experiences. When you know better, you do better, and that brings about one’s own idea of happiness.

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