We regret something we failed to do. We also have postponed future regrets. These result from adopting bad habits now that shall hurt us in the future.
We have regrets from the past when we had many choices but the one we selected was not the best. We may even make false wishes such as if only time goes back I would have done things differently.
We regret sometimes marrying the wrong partner as we could have made better choices.
Whenever we have choices, we may regret selecting the one we did. It is a natural human feeling.
The problem with regret is it is making false wishes crying on spilled milk. Regret may develop into anxiety, stress, and a host of negative emotions. We regret to add to our sense of loss. This is all for nothing. No, as regret may teach us life lessons.
The agile and creative mind changes regret into a positive energy.
There are examples of people who managed to turn regret into a motivating emotion.
An old woman regretted that she did not go for a Ph.D. and opted to accept a job offer. Later, at the age of seventy, she got her PhD. He pursued her dream as regret provided her with the fuel to follow her lost dream.
Regret can empower you to make better decisions and to do things that few did before.
Asking the right questions is the secret. I explain by sharing a few examples.
What did I learn from regretting? Am I better now at making wiser decisions? Turning the experience of regret into a useful outcome is a worthy challenge.
Have you helped others do the same by sharing your experience with them?
Have you learnt to sort out many choices in clusters to make choices easier?
Have you found ways to disallow regret to control your life?
How did you get rid of the habit of regretting?
Do you repeat mistakes or bad habits that you may regret tomorrow? Work on them now.
Regretting is natural, but to turn its negative energy into a positive one is the worthy challenge that awaits you.