Our lives are our CV—our Complete Value. What we bring into the world, who we serve with kindness, compassion, gratitude, and respect, the values we share with others … these are the parts of life that matter most and make up our personal CV.
We can learn to change our paradigms from the old, worn-out ones that society and others have handed us. By sweeping out the negative mind chatter, replacing it with a message “I Am More Than Enough” we take a step in the direction of all we can be.
Focus on what you can do. Let go of those things that weigh you down, and people who don’t support all you can be. Every person reading this has Value. Every person reading this is More Than Enough. You are a worthy person. Be proud of the things you’ve done, and know that You have more amazing things to do. List some huge goals that make you stretch and grow. Plan them out. Review them daily.
Interestingly, there is only one person who gets to occupy your brain space. That person is you.
As our attitude toward ourselves improves, so will our relationships with others. People want to be around others with high energy and a positive, happy attitude. You can be that person. Not everything you think about yourself is true. You have the ability to take your past mistakes, and review them closely and honestly. There are things you’ve done that you’d love a “do-over” for, yet the fact remains that your wake is unchangeable. That said, you don’t have to continue dragging it along into the future. The most productive thing for you to do is learn from those mistakes, forgive yourself, harvest the good lessons, and leave the past where it belongs, behind you. Interestingly, there is only one person who gets to occupy your brain space. That person is you.
It’s true. We’re the only ones who get to be our Inner Voice. Is your Inner Voice today a friend or a foe? Stop the inner critic before it starts. Become aware of the negative messages you’re allowing into your mind. Catch yourself, question the voice.
Awareness is the first step of cleaning up and washing out that negative dialogue. Once your awareness starts, you’ll be able to act, and action is key.
Once we internalize the idea that our life truly is valuable, the noisy demands of society fade to the background. If you’re having difficulty believing your life is of value, an exercise I teach is something called, “Mirror Work.” It’s an easy task to add to your daily routine. While brushing your teeth, look directly into your eyes and say ‘I love you’, followed by your name. Once you understand that this is true, provide an affirmation. I AM ________. Whatever follows I AM, follows you. Adding a solid, truthful reason for your ‘I am’ will create a new paradigm, and a brand-new life for you to embrace and love.
If you’re starting with a low self-esteem, and simply don’t believe you have any value, use facts initially, saying I AM a man or I AM a woman, I AM a daughter/son, father/mother, an employee, a neighbor. You understand the concept. Once you’re able to master I AM _____ move forward to “I Am More Than Enough”, “I Am Worthy”, “I Am a Good Person”. Mirror Work and affirmations will promote your inner self-respect and positive mindset.
Mirror Work and affirmations when accompanied by gratitude and journaling create a mindset shift. Gratitude journaling is another, easy to do, exercise that will build your self-compassion and self-confidence. Again, start small. Write down 3 things a day in a journal. Write about something you’re truly grateful for in your life, clean water, food, reliable transportation, clothes, education, simple things you take for granted, yet not everyone in the world has.
For many years, I internalized all the negativity passed down to me from society, family, and others. However, that was their truth. It was me, buying into their nonsense and false perception that made it mine. I continued berating myself for years. Now I look back and realize this behavior isn’t just corrosive and untrue, it’s also unattractive. People don’t gravitate to someone with low self-esteem. By continually acting out those traits, I unintentionally pushed people away.
Now I need a telescope to see the tactless, judgmental, unhappy version of Mariah from years gone by. The me you know is an awesome human with character traits that others naturally want to be around. I intentionally share kindness, compassion, gratitude, and respect with others. Thus, I get it back in return. My life now is meaningful, joyous, rich, and abundant in all ways.
If you incorporate these simple steps into a daily routine, a year from now you, too, will need a telescope to see the old you. Once you understand that you have the key to making this change, you can begin your journey into the new, magnificent you.
Lean in, learn, grow forward, and Journey Well. You Are More Than Enough.